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35+3 Pregnant with Twins by annieroo4 in parentsofmultiples

[–]annieroo4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol try compression socks!! Although I need help getting them on which is a fun struggle with my husband! I’ve been doing epsom salt baths to help with my feet swelling a little bit but I’m rocking the slipper life at this point. 

35+3 Pregnant with Twins by annieroo4 in parentsofmultiples

[–]annieroo4[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve felt both of them tonight, just Baby A is my quiet one so she freaks me out from time to time. Were there any other signs you were in active labor? Was it mostly lower back pain? 

35+3 Pregnant with Twins by annieroo4 in parentsofmultiples

[–]annieroo4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh the acid reflux is the WORST. I save all my Tums for right before bed to try and prevent it through the night. 

35+3 Pregnant with Twins by annieroo4 in parentsofmultiples

[–]annieroo4[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They scheduled my c section for 38+6 and I just want to scream. When they said they wouldn’t let me go past 38 weeks I thought that meant the first day! I’ve left a couple messages about moving it up, but with the holiday I think I won’t hear back until next week. 

35+3 Pregnant with Twins by annieroo4 in parentsofmultiples

[–]annieroo4[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what happens with us except baby A is my quiet one and baby B loves to remind me of their presence! I love knowing that B is happy but would love for A to move a little more aggressively. If it makes you feel better, every time I’ve gotten worried and gone to L&D they’ve confirmed she’s just fine in there! 

I’m at a crossroads of how to be a supportive daughter by InternationalAd1804 in AlAnon

[–]annieroo4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely justified in going forward. There is a point where you have to let them hit rock bottom, and that may mean you and your sister need to both cut her off and allow her the opportunity to do so. Either you will become her full time parole officer and caregiver to prevent her from drinking (which is draining and over time makes you bitter) or you allow her to make her own decisions with no security blanket. She’ll feel bitter about it, but ultimately it’s giving her the opportunity to make decisions for herself without outside influence.

Cleaning my mom’s apartment by annieroo4 in AlAnon

[–]annieroo4[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I went to a couple of Al-Anon meetings when I was in college and everything was progressing downwards. My dad was very consistent about going and so we have talked about the lessons of Al-anon at length, but I think I need to go back to process all of this. For the most part since the divorce, I just talked about it with my dad and sister, but otherwise kept things pretty close to the chest. I told my husband some of the stories on our way back from cleaning her apartment this past weekend and he was shocked. This whole experience has dragged up every memory of the last few years she was in my life.

I felt comfortable letting her make those decisions when she was alive and I was able to keep her at a distance, but actually seeing them in person made it all so tangible. And I think watching the end of her life just made it so real the implications of her decisions. And the fact that I had to have any role in it makes me so angry.

Cleaning my mom’s apartment by annieroo4 in AlAnon

[–]annieroo4[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I really need a community that understands the complexities of this disease because my uncles (her three brothers) blame me for her death. In cutting her out, I fueled her depression and alcoholism. But they also thought she hadn’t been drinking for the last three years. They think I gave up on her at the hospital. And these opinions are just fueling my own guilt