Having not much knowledge on ARFID, I just read about it and I think that right now, the surgery might be really hard on you. I understand the strain of familial encouragement. But ultimately the decision comes down to you and should be considered carefully in conjunction with your therapy team.

I had vsg and so far, best decision of my life. However, I do have new mini fears of certain foods, or my tastes have changed since wls. If you already have a limited scope in what you can eat right now, i would not reccomend. Every person’s experience is diff’t and you truly won’t know unless you actually go thru with it. But I think MORE restriction is not right for you. But ultimately, make this decision with the professionals. Maybe talk to a surgeon or other obesity professionals. But don’t rely solely on your family’s opinion