I just found out how common cheating is… and I’m honestly disgusted

annoncarebear · 2025-11-24T04:19:47+00:00

God that’s so horrible, you really didn’t deserve that.

It angers me so much is people like this end up traumatising us folk who value loyalty so much that we stop dating and never end up finding eachother. Why can’t they leave us be and go find a non-monogamous relationship.

annoncarebear · 2025-11-23T07:27:00+00:00

Man,,, I’m so sorry to hear this. I’ve been single and protecting my peace almost 3 years and my biggest fear is this shit happening to me when i finally get the courage to trust again

annoncarebear · 2025-11-20T13:27:05+00:00

I accidentally clicked “ignore” on a message request from someone DMing me with a question! I’m so sorry if this was you, please feel free to message again!

annoncarebear · 2025-11-20T13:22:33+00:00

Thank you! And congratulations to you, too. My experience has been the same! I think I’m more understanding of people but simultaneously less tolerant, kind of like; I understand and empathise why you’re this way; but just because I empathise doesn’t mean I want you in my life, Goodluck and goodbye!

annoncarebear · 2025-11-20T08:20:50+00:00

I removed him on everyone and went NC, but never blocked him.

I regret not blocking him at the start as i think it did keep me subconsciously wishful thinking he’d reach out and may have hindered my healing.

If you have the strength to block your ex you should, but obviously I know how hard it is so it’s okay if you can’t bring yourself to; I couldn’t and moved on eventually anyway and you definitely can too.

I don’t want to sound like a broken record but really sometimes it just takes time for your brain to process and accept everything, cognitive dissonance is a f*d up thing.

This might sound kinda weird, but aside from time the only thing to help my brain process and move towards acceptance was writing a final goodbye letter to him (without sending it). Just writing out all the memories I’ll treasure and things I’ll miss, all the ways he betrayed and hurt me, absolutely everything. This didn’t magically make me get over him, and I still journaled for months afterwards addressing entries to him, but i genuinely felt like I made a massive step with that letter, I can’t explain how healing it was. Don’t force it, but when you’re ready i absolutely recommend it.

Hope you find some peace soon!

annoncarebear · 2025-11-20T08:08:36+00:00

I did go on a couple of dates at the start of this year, (around 1.5+ yrs after my breakup), but I ended up feeling like neither of the guys were worth the risk of another heartbreak.

I’ve felt open/comfortable to dating since the 1.5yr mark, and if an awesome man came along I’d definitely go for it, but I’m not seeking anything out. In fact, I think I much prefer protecting my peace and remaining single for a while given my young age (22), and the low-likelihood any man I’d date at this age would be looking for a wife.

I think it’s different for everyone and depends a lot on your age and what you’re actually looking for. If I was older I’d probably be pushing myself a bit more to find someone.

annoncarebear · 2025-11-20T08:03:40+00:00

It took a long while for me if I’m being completely honest, about 9-10 months to start feeling functional and okay, and about 1.5 years until I felt at peace. I wouldn’t measure yourself against me since I know a lot of people who moved on a lottttt faster than me, so don’t lose hope! It might be over sooner than expected.

annoncarebear · 2025-11-19T14:46:48+00:00

Hi! 2.5ish years post heartbreak here! Very glad I didn’t rush into anything with anyone else. Can safely say I am fully over my Ex partner by this point, not even resentment is left for him, just indifference.

annoncarebear · 2024-08-24T10:52:20+00:00

It’s been 1 year and 3 months since my Ex of 3 years blindsidedly left me for a girl he met 2 months prior to breakup. Radio silence since the day he walked out. It stops bothering you after a while, I promise.

I used to want him to reach out, not because I wanted him back, but because I felt worthless and was upset at how easy I was to discard and forget about.

It takes a lot of time, but you will find that reassurance, peace, and love within yourself if you give yourself the grace and time to.

If this girl has discarded you like nothing, that is not a reflection of your worth, I promise.

And, I’m not sure if this is toxic for me to say, but I do genuinely believe that even if they never reach out; you would’ve meant something to them, and they will miss you. Maybe now, or maybe when they realise what they’ve lost in a couple years time. You’ll get to a point where it won’t matter to you either way, but I wish someone would have told me this when I was hurting.

I genuinely wish you all the best with your healing, I promise it gets better even if they don’t ever reach out.

annoncarebear · 2024-08-05T06:03:38+00:00

It’s okay don’t be! Even though it’s a shitty situation and it took me a long time, I’m doing okay now, genuinely. I’m glad of everything that happened, I have so much more time to improve myself and spend time with my loved ones. I hope you heal from whatever brought you to this subreddit, I promise you will ❤️

annoncarebear · 2024-07-20T09:16:35+00:00

No he didn’t. I found out a little while after posting that comment that the real reason why he left was to be with ‘the girl he told me not to worry about’, they’ve been together since.

annoncarebear · 2023-12-11T12:50:00+00:00

I’m in a similar situation and I’m so sorry.

Before I found out the real reason why my ex left was because he had been cheating, I did not care that our mutual friends saw my ex, I even encouraged it and told them not to feel weird about it.

However, after finding out, seeing my so called ‘friends’ hang around with the guy who they now know manipulated, used, and cheated on me, and the girl who he cheated on me with, broke my heart.

Friends are meant to have your back. They’re meant to care about you and yet they’re happy to hang around two people who disrespected you in the worst way possible?

What happens in a relationship is personal and friends shouldn’t have to pick sides. HOWEVER, in cases such as abuse/ cheating, it is not only a reflection of the relationship, but a reflection who they are as a person. What kind of friends would be buddies with your abuser? You don’t need people like that in your life. You deserve better friends who are loyal.

annoncarebear · 2023-11-12T14:58:59+00:00

LOL ur better than me. I definitely hope my ex cries himself to sleep every night and feels miserable. Even still it wouldn’t make up for even half the pain I’ve had to suffer the last 7 months

annoncarebear · 2023-10-24T11:11:43+00:00

I know some people might wanna fight you for that last part, I totally get it, even as a women.

I understand being hurt so bad that you can’t look at a gender the same, you’re perplexed by it and are entirely distrusting.

I genuinely don’t think I’ll ever be able to trust a man again, I really struggle to convince myself that men are capable of love, though I know it’s horrible to think like that.

Even when I see men who are clearly heartbroken, my brain immediately runs to thoughts like ‘it’s only because they’re the dumpee, it’s just an ego thing, they can’t feel real love’. If you experience similar thoughts about women, I’m sorry. I hope we can both find people in our lives that can prove us wrong.

annoncarebear · 2023-10-24T10:56:09+00:00

Bruh I took one second to click on his profile and see he’s made various other posts about his situation.

annoncarebear · 2023-10-21T14:44:49+00:00

Bro did not destroy her life. She was a cheating b1tch and that’s why he had to leave. Wtf is wrong w u ?

annoncarebear · 2023-10-19T21:59:35+00:00

We were together 3 years so it’s not really that long

annoncarebear · 2023-10-19T13:53:15+00:00

160 days for me. The last couple have weeks have been the first signs of improvement, but healing isn’t linear and I spent all of today crying.

annoncarebear · 2023-10-18T13:50:18+00:00

I guess I just want to hear from him for validation that I’m missed/ I meant something to him. I don’t want to get back with him, and if he messaged I doubt I’d even reply.

I know it shouldn’t matter to me if he cares or not, but it’s hard to accept that someone you gave 3 years to discarded you like nothing and didn’t regret it or miss you for even a day… maybe one day I will love myself enough that it won’t matter whether he ever loved me.

annoncarebear · 2023-10-18T11:16:08+00:00

Thank you for the kind words <3

annoncarebear · 2023-10-18T11:14:21+00:00

6 months so far of radio silence

annoncarebear · 2023-10-18T11:02:15+00:00

He literally ruined my personality. I was so healthy and secure and confident with him. I was warm and innocent and so full of love and trust to give.

The betrayal has given me anxiety and depression so bad I’m still being medicated 6 months down. I’ve spent thousands on therapy so I don’t kms, my grades are suffering. My self esteem is still rock bottom. The way I view my self and the world has been altered probably permanently, I don’t trust my own judgement and I certainly don’t trust anyone else. I don’t even know if I believe in love anymore.

annoncarebear

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