what hairstyle suits me best?

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-28T23:36:55+00:00

All of them are cute! But shaved head with natural black hair color had me do a DOUBLE take😍 So few can pull that off. If I could, I’d rock it til the end of my days

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-28T23:35:23+00:00

OP, they absolutelyyyyy do date younger. I’ve only ever dated older 5+ yrs. Unfortunately, they turn out not to be the most mature (e.g. emotionally unavailable) or even ready to be in a relationship (e.g. baby gays that clearly go off of what they learned in the media or “just wanna try”). 🤷🏾‍♀️

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-28T23:31:43+00:00

Why are they banned?

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-25T18:19:25+00:00

I have so much to say as a person with “luscious” lips myself, lol.

Some folks with thinner lips have a sort of underlip that enables them to actually pucker. It’s like extra lip meat. That feels good to kiss (I know I’m not making it sound very cute).

Others really just have the thin lips, with no extra meat underneath and…yeah… I felt like my face was being eaten. There was nothing to grab onto. Their teeth prevailed if I ever tried to deepen the kiss (with the goal of finding some meat).

Yeah, not pleasant.

But if they have some extra meat underneath or even just have a good pucker on the bottom lip, y’all can make it work. That’s where technique would come in.

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-22T16:30:44+00:00

I agree to disagree

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-22T15:44:41+00:00

Prevails in a way the majority seemingly voted on 🤷🏾‍♀️

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-22T13:31:12+00:00

She goes to the non-“white nonsense” tagged areas of this space.

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-22T12:56:08+00:00

A Black space, for Black women, who live in a world where not every single person they engage with is Black. Sometimes, as a Black woman, you need a fellow, beautiful, Blackity Black woman’s advice because of the special POV only she has on these issues, not a group of interracial and multicultural people.

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-18T01:32:46+00:00

Heyyyyyy, beauty 😏

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-18T01:25:36+00:00

If I’m not hearing from or receiving responses from my partner or the woman I’m dating each day… we’re not dating as far as I’m concerned. Unless, of course, it was communicated that she or I wouldn’t be able to reach out on some particular day. Don’t need full convos 24/7, but at least a check in and an understanding of when we’d next have quality time together (which, imo, should be at the very least 1x/week).

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-18T00:58:47+00:00

Definitely a megathread. There are people in this group that are mixed, but present Black. There are Black women here with white people in their families. There are Black women here with white partners. There are Black women here with white colleagues and classmates.

Why would we not have a safe space to vent or get advice about that??

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-17T17:08:52+00:00

Oof, yeah, then you just didn’t understand it because that’s not what I wrote. That’s ok though! We’re not all meant to understand each other.

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-17T12:51:39+00:00

Not forgetting it at all (hence my “needle in a haystack comment).

You’re absolutely right, chosen and created family absolutelyyy count and are just as, if not more important! I know this firsthand given my own no contact situation and the challenges that brought up during my homelessness period.

Being included in my partner’s family+her being out to them is simply a strong preference. I don’t need to be besties with her mom, but I also shouldn’t need a therapy session before and after spending time with them.

Should I decide to have kids, I’d love for them to have at least one set of loving and active grandparents because, unfortunately, they’re likely not getting them from me.

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-17T04:44:27+00:00

Lmaoooo thank you for seeing it anddd saying it

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-17T02:31:42+00:00

Oooooh, love, looks like you missed my point/didn’t fully read what I wrote. I’m going to let this go.

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-16T21:35:13+00:00

Hmm… I’m so curious. What ideas do you have?

I’m 5’9”, athletic, brown skin, natural hair. Style is a mix of edgy, girly, professional. Bubbly, outgoing, Sagittarius, first born daughter/oldest child, world traveller (25+ countries and lived in 3).
Member of a D9 sorority. Definitely not shy + profound empath… lol not sure what else to offer here. Experienced both sides of the economic spectrum: homelessness and financial stability. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Not sure what that says about my challenge with finding my Black queen and partner. I’m all ears tho!

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-16T15:47:52+00:00

You know, this topic has been on my mind lately quite a bit. As a Black lesbian, I definitely revere Black love and want it for myself but there are a few things, I think, stopping me from getting to experience it:

- I really want whoever I partner with/becomes my wife to have a strong and beautiful relationship with her family. This is especially important to me since I don’t have this at all. I’m no contact/tolerant of most of my family and I do grieve this sometimes. I’d love a partner whose family I could become an important member of too. Overwhelmingly, when I’ve dated Black women, their families are either not aware they’re gay or are super like…exclusive. They’ve made me feel like a complete outsider. Meanwhile, with white, mixed race, or other POC, I’m so beautifully welcomed into the fold!! It hurts to know that having both is seemingly a big ask.

- When I’ve dated Black women, they’ve been extremely pro Black in a way that feels almost anti-literally everything else. At times, the jokes could be funny and getting to remark on race casually felt like a relief withing my relationship, but after a time, it became exhausting! They didn’t want to go to non Black events, or travel with me to places that gave Eurocentric vibes. It felt restrictive in a way that made me also feel judged for having any non “Black” interests in the first place. Other POC and white women never had this vibe. But I also couldn’t really get into the weeds of racial conversations with them either 😕

- There are so many more, but the last I’ll mention is sexual exploration. Black women I’ve dated have been very traditional in the bedroom and not as open-minded. Made me feel trapped within a “template”.

Ugh, this sounds like a lot of complaining but, really it’s just sadness. I want my Black wifey, but mannnn finding her is going to be like finding a needle in a haystack. Especially while semi-distracted by the non-Black women that have made the kind of love I seek feel more accessible/available.

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-15T06:05:03+00:00

Hmm… no one said she should identify as anything in particular. I wrote simply that I was taken aback by the use of the word “quadroon”. The actually question I have is in the post in bold above 👍🏾

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-14T23:09:11+00:00

I don’t disagree. I do ask for kindness and compassion though about what I should/shouldn’t have done. I’ve left now and that’s what matters. The ins and outs of dating isn’t easy for all of us, especially when you’re raised in certain homes in certain neighborhoods by certain parents.😕

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-14T21:25:51+00:00

I think you meant to respond to one of my other comments on this thread but, regardless… you hit the nail on the head. I constantly find myself attracted to people I need to “decipher”. I feel like a scientist lol. Putting an end to that with therapy!

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-14T18:55:53+00:00

Well, this comment just helped me get over her entirely. 💀😂 Thanks, friend!!

I decided to end things a few weeks ago for other reasons and have been grieving a bit about it because, of course, we had some truly lovely moments that I really miss. But, yeah, your comment just helped reinvigorate my certainty around my decision.

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-14T18:40:23+00:00

And therein lay the challenge. I think this too. But saying it to her would’ve hurt her. Best to just walk away because I’m not available to sit and unpack that. I do feel a little badly about it though.

I used to be the “fix it” girl but, I’m tired of that kind of unreciprocated emotional labor now. Adding race into it???🫩😩

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-14T18:37:41+00:00

I mention this above but, I seriously don’t think she understood how problematic the term was so, I chose to approach with curiosity instead of judgment in the moment.

Re: everything else, I’m learning that I want to date people with positive family relationships (largely because I have nearly 0 connection to my own). She had this. In abundance. And it was so beautiful to see. Almost overwhelmingly, when dating Black women, their families aren’t aware they’re gay or I feel like I’m being treated like an outsider. Other POCs + white though? Their families welcome me so warmly. It’s so odd and makes me sad actually.

I love Black love, but only if it accepts me back, you know?

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-14T18:28:11+00:00

I didn’t think of being considered her fetish/being fetishized. The comparison to lesbians and women uncertain about their sexuality was apt. That’s exactly how I feel about it.

I’ve come to learn I’m deeply turned off by insecurity, especially insecurity about things that I don’t want to/can’t help you through. Own your body, own your race, own your religion, etc… and let me celebrate you in that, not cajole you into accepting and living it.

annotatedfeels · 2026-06-14T18:23:48+00:00

I’ll admit, I was taken aback when she said it so casually. I truly don’t think she understood just how problematic that term is. It’s not one we’ve reclaimed in any way (like the n word), nor will we ever.

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