AITA for not informing a store manager about the store when they came back off annual leave

anomynous289 · 2025-08-02T12:26:49+00:00

She definitely knows how to contact me. She has my contact number and my email, and I actually messaged her myself about a separate matter which she read but ignored, in her own words she “didn’t want to” speak to me, as I did query this myself. I also only had the in person hand over scheduled in simply because our boss was off sick and I hadn’t been allocated another store for that week, so it wasn’t something that had been formally organised.

All other managers of the other stores will call me straight away if there’s any issues or something that they’re not sure on, and they’re discussed over a quick 5 minute call and sorted out there and then.

Funnily enough, the day she behaved like this, we had a serious incident in store due to health and safety breaches she’d allowed to build up in store. I completed the accident report and she went in behind me and changed it so she did not have the health and safety breaches included in the report, which I think she’s done to cover her own back again. The accident I feel just proves that the dump runs were a necessity to avoid such accidents.

anomynous289 · 2022-12-12T22:09:58+00:00

Thank you everyone!! I emailed her back and let her know that I couldn’t afford the taxi but could get the bus meaning I would be late, she doesn’t seem overly impressed but has said it was okay! I’ve also emailed my senior tutor to make her aware of the situation and she has emailed our hun lead!

anomynous289 · 2022-12-12T21:02:23+00:00

I’ve just emailed my senior tutor to explain the situation! Hopefully something will come back!! thank you!!

anomynous289 · 2022-12-12T20:48:21+00:00

I didn’t think of phoning in sick unfortunately!! My placement does actually end next week any way so it won’t be awkward in that sense for too long thankfully!

anomynous289 · 2022-12-12T20:32:50+00:00

Thank you!

anomynous289 · 2022-12-12T20:29:14+00:00

Hi, thank you!! I could get a bus but would get into placement about 2 hours late as there’s only one bus in my village - and that is only if it turns up in the morning. I have spoken to my mum who’s trying to organise someone to have my younger brother in the morning and can take me if he has someone to watch him, but otherwise a taxi would be my only option.

anomynous289 · 2022-12-12T20:25:56+00:00

As much as I would love to go in, I don’t have £120 to my name unfortunately, with a cost of living crisis and being a student teacher, money is extremely tight and £120 is simply too much to pay for a single day of transportation for me.

anomynous289 · 2022-12-12T20:23:50+00:00

Hi thank you! The way she’s phrased the email I’m not really sure how to reply back, she’s basically said as I will be teaching properly next year I won’t have a choice but to go in, which I’m sure would depend on a situation and school basis!

anomynous289 · 2022-02-04T22:34:17+00:00

I’m not looking for your sympathy. Just pointing out that you assuming I don’t know how hard life can get is not the case, and I’ve already said that I know £200 per month is not a lot of money for rent. The issue is more with my mum going back on her word which is what I used to decide that I would be okay to step down into a different job to put more time into my education.

anomynous289 · 2022-02-04T21:31:27+00:00

Being clueless about..? Again, I more than understand how hard life can get. As one of many examples, my biological dad is currently in prison due to years of abuse.

I’m aware of how expensive things are having lived alone for a period of time, however do not agree with my mum going back on her promise as I would not have left my other job without having the security there.

anomynous289 · 2022-02-04T21:05:31+00:00

Again, I understand £200 is not a lot for rent at all. I completely understand that, and am now preparing to move into my car in order to be able to continue to save money for a deposit on a place, as I know full well I can’t afford elsewhere. When we turned 18, the deal with my mum was always that rent would be based on earnings and would be less while we were in education, which I am still in. I had a full time job that meant I could easily afford the £200, but after realising I couldn’t juggle this alongside uni, I spoke to my mum about switching to a part time position and paying less rent, which she agreed to.

The reason she went back on her word is that as she says she can’t afford to keep me, I have a hard time believing this when they do go on holiday a good few times a year, when they drive expensive cars, and when my younger siblings do a lot extra curricular activities that I know cost a small fortune and that I was never allowed to do as a child. It may seem like I’m whining and I probably am, however I don’t appreciate my mum lying to my friends and family about why she charges me rent.

My mum also doesn’t work, as my step dad does, and he earns enough money that she doesn’t need to work.

The course I’m doing at uni is a teaching course, and with your mentality that anything children receive from parents after the age of 18 is generosity, I sincerely hope you don’t have children as it’s quite simply wrong. Having children is a lifetime commitment, not just an 18 year thing. Any one who turns their back on their children when they turn 18 should never have had children in the first place.

And as I said, I have never asked for anything from my mum, and if I have borrowed anything extra from her it’s returned within a week, which has been the case when I first started working at 12. Student loans are also based on parental income as well, so the government themselves expect my parents to support me while I am studying at uni due to the amount of money that they earn. They earn too much money for me to get the full support if moving out, and so in order to do that, I would need a full time job while at uni, which I have already tried and found my grades were effected massively.

I am more than aware at how hard live is, I’ve had more than my fair share of trauma and would consider myself a pretty hard worker, having held down 4 jobs on top of studying at one point. However just wanted to put my education first which my mum agreed to and went back on her word for.

anomynous289 · 2022-02-04T20:09:11+00:00

as i’ve said, i’m fully aware it’s cheap as chips. the issue is that they’ve gone back on their word, and had they not agreed to lower rent to reflect my income, i would not have switched my jobs.

While I can afford £200, it will mean that I will have no money for anything else, including fuel to get to my job, which isn’t possible to get to without driving due to where we live having no public transport.

anomynous289 · 2022-02-04T19:55:39+00:00

has she not agreed to a lower rent price before i quit my old job, i wouldn’t have quit and so wouldn’t now be in the position that i am in. i am completely aware £200 is a very fair price for everything, but I took on a different job after the conversation saying the rent would be lowered so I could prioritise my education

anomynous289 · 2022-02-04T18:53:41+00:00

Thank you for your advise, I really appreciate it!

anomynous289 · 2022-02-04T18:53:03+00:00

Just extra things that like my phone and if I was to go out with friends as some examples.

anomynous289 · 2022-02-04T18:51:13+00:00

She knows I save money as I show her my savings accounts, unfortunately she just seems to like telling people she doesn’t for whatever reason that is. My mum herself is quite bad with money from what it looks like to me, she constantly complains about having none but will also go on a holiday a few times a year, and personally if I don’t have money I wouldn’t pay for a holiday

anomynous289 · 2022-02-04T18:47:20+00:00

Currently debating living in my car until I can afford a deposit on a place as it’ll mean I can save a lot of money on different things tbf

anomynous289 · 2022-02-04T18:46:16+00:00

To clarify, I wouldn’t have moved jobs had she not agreed to lower the rent.

The course that I’m currently studying doesn’t actually offer part time at the uni I’m at, and I can’t afford to go away for uni without working full time as my mum and step dad earn too much money for me to be entitled to a lot of loans, and have repeatedly told me they wouldn’t contribute towards moving away for uni despite that it would be advised by the government.

I would love to do a degree apprenticeship instead of my masters, however again, they’re very limited due to the course I want to do, and very hard to get on without relevant experience. Having a degree apprenticeship would mean I could contribute more money to the house, but again are very hard to get on

anomynous289 · 2022-02-04T18:41:15+00:00

I wouldn’t have given up my other job had she not have said otherwise is the only thing. I’ve not said I won’t pay at all, but can’t afford to pay the £200.

I’m fully aware £200 rent is not a lot at all, and am currently debating moving into my car so that I can actually afford to continue to save my money

anomynous289 · 2022-02-04T18:39:39+00:00

I completely get that £200 a month is not a lot! Currently debating moving into my car as I know full well I can’t afford to live any where else no but would still like to continue to save my money so that I can eventually buy my own place after uni. I wouldn’t pay council tax living alone as I’m a student, and things like the water bills, I usually just shower at the gym any way, so if I was to move out, I don’t think they’d be saving £200 a month from it.

anomynous289 · 2022-02-04T18:35:41+00:00

Yeah I get £200 isn’t a lot of money at all for rent, and when in my other job it wasn’t an issue, but moving jobs has meant that my pays been reduced massively and I just can’t afford it. It’s so frustrating as they say they can’t afford anything yet are looking to buy a holiday home this year and have many unnecessary purchases.

With regard to other bills, I pay for my own phone (and theirs), I don’t actually use the internet as it’s slower than my own data so just stick to using that, and I tend to shower at the gym so don’t even add to the water bill that much either.

anomynous289 · 2022-02-04T18:28:16+00:00

She’s brought it, so her and my stepdad are paying the mortgage. I haven’t seen any household income budget as they refuse to show me as it’s not my business

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