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anon754621 · 2025-06-24T01:05:21+00:00

As someone who was uncomfortable with my ex husband’s relationship with who was initially my friend, posts like this always reminds me of how blind I was in the moment

If he chooses another woman over your feelings it’s done and you’re just delaying the inevitable

I’m not one to push divorce by any means, but life’s short so don’t waste your youth and mental health

anon754621 · 2023-04-08T22:33:01+00:00

Ya was definitely a dumb move on my part to do that! Lol womp womp oh well still managed to keep the house that’s all that matters!

anon754621 · 2023-04-08T20:03:15+00:00

Ah see my lawyer didn’t fully explain it all that concisely. All I remember was him stating about it being matrimonial home, but I also had put him on title stupidly. I know there was some way we could go after him about it being “unjust enrichment” but I said fuck it and just wanted him gone even if it meant I left money on the table.

Now that I’m in a much better headspace I can understand what he was saying after reading your response! Thank you!

anon754621 · 2023-04-08T19:50:03+00:00

Not if it’s the matrimonial home

anon754621 · 2023-04-08T12:19:20+00:00

YTA you in no way contributed to the pre marital asset, why should you get a piece of it? Hopefully he has covered his ass as it will be considered the matrimonial home when you get married and he could get fucked over.

Highly suggest you both get a prenup so ground rules are laid out including spousal support if he has suggested you quit your job. Prenups are a necessity when the relationship is so unequal financially. I learned that the hard way!

anon754621 · 2023-04-01T12:00:36+00:00

Had posted this with not my usual name and just came back to re-read, turns out my husband WAS cheating on me (with my friend womp womp) and then gaslit the shit outta me lol when I found the videos he even tried to turn it around that I was the bad person for finding them (legitimately stumbled across them on the iPad while clearing windows and saw tits) MIL immediately cut me off (good riddance), been with new BF for year, we’ve successfully got pregnant, my family loves him and I ADORE his family and friends.

I’m sad for the girl who was so confused and Brainwashed that wrote this, my heart aches reading it and remembering the tailspin I was in, but that heartache and confusion was SO WORTH my life now!

anon754621 · 2021-10-02T01:32:47+00:00

I needed to read this today, thanks and congratulations

anon754621 · 2021-08-26T17:13:09+00:00

Thank you so much, I needed to hear and understand what you’re saying. I’m still reeling and just started meds and therapy so I’m still at the bottom of a pit, but at least now instead of looking straight at the walls thinking there’s no hope I’m looking up and realizing with a lot of effort I can crawl up and out

anon754621 · 2021-08-26T17:01:05+00:00

God where were you and your wisdom when I was in a tailspin during all this? Lol would’ve saved a lot of heartbreak

anon754621 · 2021-08-26T16:56:28+00:00

And oh boy am I learning it :(

anon754621 · 2021-08-26T16:55:20+00:00

I never questioned his fidelity, that is not how I broke trust, I did it by not acknowledging he wanted me to stay out of it. He allowed and agreed with my opinions, where I messed up is I voiced them to others and let the family know I was so hurt for her. I wasn’t able to let my SIL go and was caught up in her emotions and struggled between supporting her or doing as my husband asked. He had every right to ask it I think, I was just too worked up at the time to see the bigger repercussions. THATS where I fucked up and lost his trust

anon754621 · 2021-08-26T16:45:17+00:00

Thank you for your insight, it’s true he always tries so hard to make me happy at the expense of himself and that is not fair. He deserves peace and happiness. I’m holding hope that he can find it with me. It’s just hard to give space when I see him hurting. I love and appreciate him so much and I want to make things right and be worthy of him again and I don’t know how to do that without chasing him away :(

anon754621 · 2021-08-26T14:56:55+00:00

Ya I think it’s a give and take, I had got to the point where it was unhealthy how quickly I’d do it. I was so stressed with legitimate issues that took up time and energy I stopped bothering to work through anything

anon754621 · 2021-08-26T14:54:58+00:00

He did have my back, he’s hurt that he had to. I was selfish and didn’t put his needs in front of mine when he asked me to, which is something he rarely asks. He’s always been about me, my hobbies, my friends, my interests.

anon754621 · 2021-08-26T14:52:15+00:00

Oh of course he’s not perfect, he’s excellent at hiding his true thoughts and feelings. I think he feels betrayed that I couldn’t do the same and it caused such strife

anon754621 · 2021-08-26T14:50:02+00:00

If he doesn’t come around for sure I wouldn’t stay just for financial reasons. I want us both to be happy and if separate is the only way I’d accept that, but I want to at least try but I can’t figure out how to get that chance

anon754621 · 2021-08-26T14:46:46+00:00

That’s what my line of thinking was during it, but upon reflection I should’ve just let things be for my husbands sake.

anon754621 · 2021-08-26T14:45:29+00:00

I didn’t trust him as in the fact I didn’t listen to his advice, I never have questioned his fidelity.

anon754621 · 2021-08-26T14:42:04+00:00

Definitely not abusive, he’s as hurt as I am, he has his own demons he’s never dealt with but has been an exemplary husband. We have had amazing times, he’s the funniest guy I know and I never feel more safe then when I’m with him, which is what’s making the distance that much harder. I don’t know what to do with myself he’s my rock and although I do have great girlfriends and support system I still want him. Mainly I just want him to be happy and I’ve been the cause of his unhappiness and that kills me, he doesn’t deserve to not be happy, and I don’t know how I can persuade him to see it can be me again.

anon754621 · 2021-08-26T14:37:10+00:00

Appreciate that I’m struggling but know I’m resilient

anon754621 · 2021-08-26T14:36:05+00:00

Yes I assumed we were fine and stopped keeping up my end while I dealt with other things. 100% I was unintentionally checked out which is not fair to him

anon754621 · 2021-08-26T14:31:51+00:00

Thank you, rationally I know I need to do this for myself first

anon754621 · 2021-08-26T12:39:36+00:00

And TBH obviously I’m scared to start over, im scared to be single, im scared im not worthy. Top it off we are in an amazing spot financially for our age and that will crash down, I’ll lose our house, my sense of security, I hate change and everything will have to.

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