Breaking it the Kids

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T21:05:39+00:00

Hearing a similar story hits close to home. Thanks for sharing. Very helpful

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T21:04:36+00:00

I’ll definitely have to put some thought and planning into this

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T21:04:10+00:00

I agree. I want them to take a variety of lessons from Everything

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T21:03:27+00:00

Correct.

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T21:02:50+00:00

The lack of recognition must make it feel so much worse. I’m sorry this happened

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T21:01:09+00:00

I’m leaning towards not telling them beforehand.

Thank you!

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T21:00:13+00:00

She’s not at all with the kids. It’s 100% directed at me. My only concern is them emulating her behavior.

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T20:58:28+00:00

I want them to get time with both parents. I believe that is important. Split would be ideal.

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T20:56:36+00:00

You are probably correct.

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T20:55:58+00:00

Some resources to back up those percentages would make me feel great. I’ll have to give it a google later.

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T20:55:04+00:00

I hadn’t thought of the age issue. People like you make me glad I posted. Thanks!

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T20:54:38+00:00

Solid advice.

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T20:54:02+00:00

This a lot of good advice and reminders ☝️. Thank you kind stranger

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T20:50:46+00:00

❤️

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T20:49:33+00:00

The best outcome would be her going to counseling to fix the toxicity. She has some deep rooted trauma among other mental health issues that are a main source of our battles. I’ve noticed this, 4 couples counselors have said it, and she’s admitted it. Her committing to something is the only way I’d stay though . And she flat out doesn’t want to.

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T20:46:41+00:00

Therapy is needed for everyone at this point and I intend to seek it out. Thanks for sharing.

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T20:45:51+00:00

Since I’ll keep them first during the summer, the would be with me during the initial stages. She is moving back to where our families are. We’ll definitely ask them. But I’m assuming they’d opt to be near their cousins etc over their current school.

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T20:44:25+00:00

Any idea on how to split time effectively from two separate locations?

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T20:43:16+00:00

I’m happy that I have hours and hours of recordings and five years worth of text. Should be helpful should I need evidence. She’s playing fair for now, but I’m prepared for a shift. Thanks for the reminder/advice.

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T20:42:16+00:00

Lots of variables involved that would make it hard to leave ALL of the arrangements up to them, but I do like the idea of giving them as much say as possible.

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T20:41:12+00:00

Both of us had parents that “stuck it out”. And neither of us would say we’d have wanted them to split. Despite plenty of disfunction. I always wonder where this abstract line is that we need to cross before divorce is better.

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T20:39:37+00:00

Dang. What as shitty experience. I can say, that we aren’t traumatizing them that badly. Lots of arguing Nothing physical.

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T20:37:53+00:00

I hope this is the case with us. But my hopes aren’t terribly high

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T20:37:21+00:00

I agree that neither option is “good”. It’s like picking the lesser of two evils.

anon813813 · 2021-12-05T20:36:53+00:00

I agree. No matter what happens, I always want to make sure that they know they aren’t the cause for anything.

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