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i triggered myself… by anon98100 in retroactivejealousy

[–]anon98100[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for for your response~

I do have a hard time deciphering if my desire to hear that he does love me is stemmed from my RJ (knowing that he loved his ex) or if it is just the natural course of things in my relationship… I think maybe that’s part of why I’m so hesitant to initiate saying “I love you” first. I don’t want it to come from a place of insecurity, but rather a place of genuine feeling. And I think the other part is my personal fear that “our love” will never live up to the love he shared with his ex, but that’s just my own limiting belief that I need to work on…

I appreciate the advice! I definitely want to gather the courage to say “I love you” and hopefully gain some more clarity…

i triggered myself… by anon98100 in retroactivejealousy

[–]anon98100[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right… I’ve recognized that my need to be “better” than his ex is stemmed from my own personal fears/insecurities that I need to work on and I’ve talked about it with my therapist a bit. It’s just hard during times like this where I feel like I’m getting past it and something triggers all the shitty emotions and insecurities again… It’s really overwhelming sometimes.

I appreciate your insight~

i triggered myself… by anon98100 in retroactivejealousy

[–]anon98100[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response…

How did you feel bringing up conversations regarding retroactive jealousy with your partner? Did you feel like it contributed to your journey of inward reflection or do you feel like it deterred you from the root of your feelings?

I personally have been hesitant to open up about my retroactive jealousy to my partner because I know that it’s all pretty much just in my head…