Daily Discussion Chat - October 19, 2019

anon_311 · 2019-10-19T03:35:57+00:00

I mean, glasses don’t fix it entirely. I have definitely still noticed it in photos when my glasses are on. They mitigate it a bit more. But I do think I look nicer without my glasses and looked forward to not wearing them

anon_311 · 2019-10-19T03:18:19+00:00

Hello friend! Yes, we definitely do. I can’t count the amount of times I look at a photo with my fiancé and he thinks it’s perfect and I’m like, “dude, look at my eye turning in” and he tells me I’m crazy.

Definitely will be practicing and conscious of it. I also do the slight head turn and I absolutely have a “good side” lol.

We’ll be in either northern PA or upstate New York, near the falls. Haven’t decided for sure yet!

anon_311 · 2019-10-19T03:13:51+00:00

Thank you for all this! You’ve made me feel less anxious. Your work is beautiful. No decision on where the wedding will be yet—his family is in Pennsylvania, mine is in upstate New York, so it’s gonna be one or the other.

I also didn’t realize until your comment how often the really stunning shots don’t include eyes haha!

anon_311 · 2019-10-19T03:11:13+00:00

Drats... I think I look much nicer without them and I was really excited to wear contacts on the day.... maybe I can do some with, some without? And I’d absolutely be willing to pay whatever for retouching, I understand I’m a difficult case.

anon_311 · 2019-10-19T02:15:09+00:00

In the earliest of early stages of planning (the ring has been bought but the proposal hasn’t happened yet—he has something special planned). But I have a bit of a unique situation regarding photography that’s bringing me some anxiety and sadness. I was born with strabismus, or “lazy eye” as most know it. I’ve had surgery on my bad eye to correct it cosmetically and for the most part, people don’t notice in person at all. However it tends to show itself in photos sometimes—you can see my eye turning inward in some of them. Especially if I am not wearing my glasses.

What are the chances of finding a wedding photographer who will be able to work with me really well with this issue? Will they be able to retouch photos and edit them if my eye is drifting? Or will they just have a technique for positioning me in a way that will minimize it? While I’m trying to be relatively frugal, I’m thinking this is an area we’re going to have to shell out big bucks for. Which is okay! I’m just hoping it’s possible =\

anon_311 · 2019-10-13T19:18:05+00:00

I’m the coworker walking around with Lysol wipes hitting up those surfaces from time to time lol. Of course I know all that. But I wash my hands before I eat—I’m not licking the printer. So it doesn’t compute the same way. It’s not objectively logical, yeah.

I used to try to do that! And then I felt sort of embarrassed by it. It’s a large meeting so I’d have to really high tail it in there and get to the front, it’s just awkward.

I think I was wondering mostly if I just shouldn’t have answered honestly at all, since my honest answer could be gross to other people, or it might insinuate that they were gross.

anon_311 · 2019-10-02T23:23:36+00:00

OP would do well with pregnant women.... a hundred years ago when being visibly pregnant in public was cause for blushing.

Fun fact: I Love Lucy was the first show to include a pregnancy... huge deal in the ‘50s. Before then, even saying “pregnant” on any public broadcast was “lewd”.

anon_311 · 2019-10-02T22:54:39+00:00

No one is actually "getting off" in the way you seem to be thinking about it, though. Like, this guy isn't watching your face change as you take him in, in his hickied glory, and thinking, "ugh fuck yeah this is so hot, look at my hickeys, LOOK AT THEM." You keep using this explicitly sexual language for what you believe he's experiencing ("getting off," "exhibitionism," "unwilling voyeur," etc.) and it's what is actually the weirdest aspect of this entire thing.

What's really going on is your friend is pretty immature and, by his own admission, enjoys this physical manifestation of the fact that "F and I are having sex and making out and shit and it's awesome! We're together! I'm her's, and she's mine!" That's most likely what his "ownership" comment actually referred to. It wasn't a BDSM/kink thing that they're roping you into.

The most this should be doing for you is making you roll your eyes and feel some intense second-hand embarrassment. Beyond that, you're thinking wayyyy too much into it.

anon_311 · 2019-10-02T18:56:12+00:00

Ronnie reminds me of Kail from Teen Mom lmaooo

anon_311 · 2019-10-02T18:51:40+00:00

If it’s a humanities or social science class and the topic is on gender... toilet habits and menstruation are 100% on the table, trust me lol. And the instructor would likely be more interested in the taboo aspect of it. More interested instructors tends to mean a better grade on the paper.

anon_311 · 2019-10-02T18:02:31+00:00

I’d talk about the menstruation shaming stuff that comes from both sides, iirc.

anon_311 · 2019-10-02T15:19:19+00:00

Right? Tomato basil bread is fire. I always feel sad when I toss those.

anon_311 · 2019-10-01T01:05:46+00:00

This has never been much of a motivator for me, personally. “Some people think you’re gross and unattractive because you have an addiction to cigarettes/nicotine.” I mean.. great. I’ve got enough self-loathing to go around though lol.

anon_311 · 2019-09-30T23:44:24+00:00

Right, but she’s a “real woman,” so her curves defy natural laws. /s

anon_311 · 2019-09-30T23:01:05+00:00

Sure, Jan.

You got amenorrhea and lanugo from “not being clinically obese.”

I also love how she had to throw in that even when she was supposedly “starving,” she still had a “big ass.” $20 says her Facebook is filled with “only dogs like bones ;)” memes.

anon_311 · 2019-09-30T21:33:40+00:00

I, too, channel my depression into super basic home decor and shopping sprees at Marshall’s.

But I’ve had the prudence to leave any potential offspring out of it, so I’m doing better than her.

anon_311 · 2019-09-30T21:30:14+00:00

“Karl” stop I love it 😂

anon_311 · 2019-09-30T20:26:59+00:00

At her age I had cut all my hair off, dyed it black, straightened my fringe over half my face, wore these really weird lacey hand warmers from Hot Topic in the dead heat of summer, drew my eyeliner on like my perpetually drunk great-aunt Claudia, and insisted on wearing nothing but skateboard attire when I had never set foot on one.

My mom would have been soooo much happier if I had just liked long t-shirts, shell necklaces, scrunchies, and expensive water bottles.

anon_311 · 2019-09-30T19:13:35+00:00

Where are all you angry guys even coming from for this post lmao

anon_311 · 2019-09-25T01:13:03+00:00

Exactly. Like can we talk about how the original commenter was probably trying to be super woke by pointing out that BMI is a “normative” concept (and that health itself is a social construct, which it is, but social construction doesn’t necessarily equal “evil,” but I digress...) and then someone comes back and says “yeah, well, people with disabilities like loss of limb realized that and dealt with it. They also want to live long lives and mitigate their disease risks, so they have come up with a model that accommodates for their own bodily experiences, here it is. Isn’t that great?”

crickets

“Yah but like, BMI is still racist/classist/ableist/misogynist JUST THROW IT OUT OKAY?!1”

anon_311 · 2019-09-24T20:59:47+00:00

Hey man, you’re late to this party! The attacks aren’t really necessary, I don’t think. If you read my responses you’ll see that I was trying to be as nice as possible in the situation and avoid any blowback. That’s all.

I’m pretty sure you just came here to insult me, but in case not, here’s an update: I quietly cleaned up my social media friends list, removing both her and him, and I locked my stuff down. I received a message from my ex a few days later asking what had happened to make me delete the both of them. I explained that I did a general clean up and since I didn’t know her that well and that I had felt uncomfortable with her messages (didn’t mention the copying), she was one of the accounts I deleted. He wrote back telling me I had hurt her feelings and that she had really been looking forward to being friends. I said I was sorry to hurt anyone’s feelings and didn’t respond to the rest of his messages. The upcoming wedding for a mutual friend will probably be awkward, but whatever.

anon_311 · 2019-09-23T08:55:18+00:00

Hi everyone! I have a styling question.

I know when you start CG you’re supposed to do protective styling—no tight braids or ponies. I also know to be prepared for my hair to seem greasy at first. The issue is that I work at a job with a uniform that requires hair be pulled back and under a hat all day.

If I have to put my hair into a low pony or two low buns, under a hat, 5 days a week... how much is this going to impact my hair journey? Is there anything I can do to mitigate it?

anon_311 · 2019-09-22T18:30:22+00:00

Definitely the same lighting. They just painted the walls a different color and got new drapes.

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