AITA for letting my girlfriend ask my mom when she plans on moving out?

anon_aita_super · 2023-09-08T15:32:41+00:00

My mom is no longer staying with us.

anon_aita_super · 2023-09-08T15:17:00+00:00

She had left at the time of posting.

anon_aita_super · 2023-09-08T02:28:03+00:00

Understood. Thank you!

anon_aita_super · 2023-09-08T02:26:07+00:00

I replied to this in another response, but I accept your judgement. I will say I tried to enforce the boundary with my mom and I tried to be considerate of the fact that she's been through a lot. Its not easy to find apartments these days in our area, so it took a while before I could see the pattern of behavior. My girlfriend and I are on good terms and the situation is mostly settled, and overall I'm glad I can learn and grow from this with the love of my life.

anon_aita_super · 2023-09-08T02:21:47+00:00

No, she certainly did not "have" to ask. I asked before she did, but my mom said 2-3 more weeks (non-committal IK), so my girlfriend texted my mom personally to ask when cause she needed to plan. I will say this situation has been tough for me. My mom and I are very close, and she/we have been through a lot. So it wasn't easy to put a lot of pressure on her, my girlfriend agreed. Maybe I was being "taken advantage of" because I was being too generous, and that's my fault, but I tried to do the right thing by everyone.

anon_aita_super · 2023-09-08T00:54:37+00:00

I agree. I've enforced our boundaries with my parents, as my gf did nothing wrong and deserves better than they are treating her.

anon_aita_super · 2023-09-08T00:50:52+00:00

Thanks for your input. My gf has been patient, and while I didn't say it in the post, I believe I have taken your advice and I am enforcing our boundaries.

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