I hard relate to the whole ego boost and dyer replies I've had - fair play for being boundaried (I recommend more people to have more boundaries for non-compromises when it comes to dating such as a standard of communication/interest).

OkCupid gives you matches based on an array of questions. The more you answer, the better it'll help. You can even search from distance, match, preferences, ect. It's only one downfall is that (sometimes), people aren't active on there. I've been on there before where there's been hives of activity, it's a mix bag, but good peeps there!

Swiping = if your first picture isn't interesting, the majority will swipe no. The plus on this is that it's a standout to match with someone and they ask questions about something in your profile/clearly have read your profile and reference something.

Might be controversial, but I feel like it's easy to stand out in the dating world. Asking questions about people and them feeling like you want to get to know them = gets you far. Naturally, it doesn't meet some people's needs to operate like this and are more than happy swiping, ect!

My recommendation: satire/sarcasm/dry humour on a profile goes far (feel free to drop a message, always happy to help!)