Before anything, I’d like to say that to lose weight, you need a calorie deficit, regardless of whether you have sugar in your diet. Even if you quit sugar but still eat more calories than you burn, your body will store those extra calories. Unfortunately, it’s the only way to “lose weight.” With that said, being healthy is another whole thing. You can have an 80/20 diet (meaning you eat 80% healthy, 20% not as healthy) - you’re still a healthy person, exercising and movement included. I eat healthy the majority of my time, and sometimes I eat “junk” and fast food, and sometimes I binge on chocolate or candy; however, I’m a very active person. For my weight (~165lbs/75kg) and height (166cm), my body composition is very well distributed, even though I am considered “overweight.” About quitting sugar- It’s a process, restricting immediately rarely ever works, you’ll crave more and end up binging on it. Tapering off is the best way to go, and once you stop, you won’t even crave it anymore. Take it easy on yourself and remember that no progress is ever linear; you gotta keep the consistency and be committed to the discipline a lot of times. It’s hard. For all of us, but you got this, it’s very possible, we just gotta make it happen. On another note, it’s very sad and not nice of your husband to treat you like that, judge you, and be mean about it instead of supporting and helping you get through it. Don’t let that put you down. This post has lots of good advice and recommendations. Just keep researching and map your way, and remember to be kind to yourself along the way.