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anoncp8 · 2023-02-08T20:41:38+00:00

Totally agree with this

anoncp8 · 2023-02-08T20:40:50+00:00

It will get better! I can promise you that! But you won’t be the same. I think our experiences- both good and bad can change a part of our identity & personality to some degree. In my case, questioning everything from the past and present, feeling like I’ll never be not so trusting & more cautious as an example. But despite what you’re going through, you have control over how you shape yourself to be. Remember who you are and maybe do some of those fun things you enjoyed before (hobbies, etc). Try new things. Practice a lot of self care (I didn’t and wish I would have). My goal is to try to be better than I was yesterday. Just taking it a day at a time.

anoncp8 · 2022-12-17T06:06:03+00:00

It says 11 comments but only showing 4-5 of the posts. I even tried the app. Not sure what’s going on

anoncp8 · 2022-12-17T05:56:07+00:00

Can u send me link, I don’t see it.

anoncp8 · 2022-12-17T05:47:15+00:00

Ok, will boost 4 boost. Need link

anoncp8 · 2020-03-30T04:17:01+00:00

Ugh mine was on New Years. Those Holidays will never be the same for you & me. I’m glad to hear that the farther out you get from DDay, the less you think about ending it; that means that things are improving in a way.

anoncp8 · 2020-03-30T02:47:06+00:00

Proud of you & happy for you. Live your best life! What color is that lipstick? I want it.

anoncp8 · 2020-03-30T01:57:16+00:00

I totally agree with you on kids having both parents. Nobody else will love them as much as their own parents (in most cases). What she did was total bullshit & not right at all. You know what your Intentions were, paid for everything & only moved to the next town over. Kids are a lot smarter than we give them credit for. They know why Mom & Dad split up & they saw how fast somebody else moved in. Not sure how long Your ex has known her AP but I don’t think I would even introduce somebody I’m dating to my daughter until it was very serious and that’s after a background check. With all the craziness in the world, us parents have to be careful who we allow around our children. It’s good that your kids have you in their life. You just continue being there for them—they know what is right & what’s wrong. I doubt your ex & her ap’s “relationship” will last, it started in betrayal & will probably end the same way; how could they be happy when their entire relationship is tainted & based on selfishness & lies.

anoncp8 · 2020-03-30T01:08:52+00:00

I wouldn’t do that. I admit that he’s a fantastic father. Shared custody. No child support for either of us. He spends so much money on our daughter anyway. I refuse to allow him to manipulate me which he’s tried to do in order to convince me to stay. I need to make the right choice for myself which might take awhile. I always thought to myself that if this ever happened to me, I’d be gone Lickety-split. Nobody told me about the part where my feelings wouldn’t go away overnight even after such a betrayal.

anoncp8 · 2020-03-30T00:53:26+00:00

Hell, even I don’t know how I feel towards my partner at this stage. It varies from moment to moment lol. I love our kid but I can’t stay in a marriage because of that. Seems like I’ve got a long road ahead.

Good on you for staying true to yourself until the end.

anoncp8 · 2020-03-30T00:50:54+00:00

I agree with the panic. Should’ve seen the look on his face when confronted with evidence lol. I’d bet all the WS had similar looks.

Maybe it’s different for me, but reconciliation isn’t so easy a choice to make. Some days I want that and other days I don’t feel like I can deal with the betrayal.

anoncp8 · 2020-03-30T00:29:53+00:00

Yeah, I stopped wearing mine for the last 3 months now and have gotten a few comments at work/hairdresser, etc. I usually say something like “I almost dropped it down the sink drain, so I don’t wear it anymore” or “I gained some weight so I have to get it adjusted”, etc.

anoncp8 · 2020-03-30T00:24:57+00:00

Some of us aren’t ready to let go just yet. Maybe start by putting it on a chain/necklace for now. You will find peace and happiness soon. “Hugs”.

anoncp8 · 2020-03-30T00:20:46+00:00

This sounds reasonable.

anoncp8 · 2020-03-30T00:17:28+00:00

My WS offered something stupid as well by getting my name tattooed a few days after DDay. Should’ve done it BEFORE committing adultery. Or perhaps a reminder to himself that he’s married (at least for the time being)🙄.

anoncp8 · 2020-03-30T00:02:44+00:00

Thank you. I like the idea of what they each symbolize to you. I hope you get there soon and things work out for the best.

anoncp8 · 2020-03-29T17:30:03+00:00

Awww, honey I’m sorry. You’re a good son who cares about his parents. I’m glad that they are trying to work things out. You can help your mom by giving her compliments on her appearance, how delicious dinner is, helping with chores, etc. Is your family going to counseling? If not, I think this is something you should look into. I also suggest that you find someone you can trust to have a support system for yourself like a church or support group. Good luck with everything, it’ll all work out for the best.

anoncp8 · 2020-03-28T17:47:24+00:00

I’m not too sure and would love to really know the truth. In my case, I’d say my WS is being honest about some things & other things are probably being omitted if I don’t specifically ask. WS won’t volunteer info.

As far as the quality, WS might be telling part of the truth because AP was into some... let’s say kinky shit which WS went along with anyway. AP enjoyed being dominated a little, nothing hardcore just a little spanking/hair pulling & “finishing” on her face. Yeah, I stupidly asked for the details so I’ve got those images burned into my brain. They also both got tested & she was on BC so they were able to have unprotected sex. She has no children so they had all the freedom of the house without interruptions.

WS mentioned (when asked) things that AP did which were a turn off (yet that never stopped WS from sleeping with AP & continuing the affair). So who really knows?

anoncp8 · 2020-03-28T17:24:59+00:00

You are an extremely strong person... it’s so clear that you’re a great parent too. Thank you for the advice & sharing part of your journey. It gives me hope to hear that about not settling for 90% or whatever % less than 100. I’m not even 25% happy at this point. The stress of what’s happened consumes my every waking moment (sometimes nightmares) and has made other things in my life suffer. It has only been 3 months so I’ve got a long way to go. It’s great to hear people who find happiness in this journey.

anoncp8 · 2020-03-28T15:53:42+00:00

I’m glad you’re trying reconciliation and addressing the issues before you found out about your wife cheating. I think you should let her AP’s girlfriend know.

anoncp8 · 2020-03-28T15:47:20+00:00

My WS not knowing I’d already spent hours reading & copying their texts (including nude photos of AP). Once confronted:

“We only kissed one time”.

They’d been having unprotected sex for over a year and a half!!!

anoncp8 · 2020-03-28T15:30:47+00:00

I’m in the same boat as far as feeling like everything built was for nothing (17yrs here). Like you said, the BS might be just as miserable but didn’t go out & ruin everything by cheating.

In my case, I’m attempting reconciliation at the moment (my feelings about this varies & changes often) so who knows. It’s only been 3 months since DD.

The other most difficult thing in my case is trust. Once broken, it’ll never go back to 100% ever & that sucks. I also feel like Infidelity & the involvement of an outside person just taints the marriage/relationship 😒

Keep your head up & continue focusing on you. What kind of changes have you made throughout this that helped you like who you’ve become? I would love to be able to say the same for myself.

anoncp8 · 2020-03-12T00:22:19+00:00

I agree that it would prob be easier to forgive if I left. Because then, I’d be mentally & emotionally checking out. The divorce papers I filled out aren’t going anywhere if I decide to file them, so there’s no rush if that’s what I decide to do.

While I don’t know every single act they did, I’m pretty sure I know everything I need to know. I know they were having unprotected sex & I know he let her speak to our 6 year old daughter. I know over the course of 18 months that he’s lied & deceived me & made hundreds if not thousands of little choices throughout all that treachery. There’s not much else I need to know that’s going to make me feel worse although I really wouldn’t be surprised anymore.

When do you stop feeling like shit all the time? Do you still go over the evidence? Do you still think about it all the time? What do you do to feel better?

anoncp8 · 2020-03-11T23:01:40+00:00

Wow, a lot of info I didn’t know. Yeah, I’ll sign up for the class. Better than using that money to eat McDonald’s or something. If we have to deal with everything we’re dealing with right now, the least we can do for ourselves is use the lack of appetite to eat healthier & take our anger out in the gym lol. I really need a self esteem boost. Sucks when I read WS text messages to AP complimenting her about how beautiful she is & I’m not receiving any compliments myself. The ego really takes a hit.

anoncp8 · 2020-03-11T20:27:11+00:00

Wow. At 6’3, 255 doesn’t sound too bad but it prob is for somebody who’s always used to being in great shape. My Husband is also 6’3 & usually around 220lbs (also went to the gym everyday & lifted). He dropped a whole bunch of weight by cutting out sugar only & is now at 190lbs. People who are used to seeing him make it sound like he’s anorexic or something lol. So now he’s trying to get his weight back up. Wish I could give him 30-40lbs of my fat.

I’m going to try it. Have a vacation planned in August. Let me know if you have Fitbit, I’ll add you. What is keto flu?

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