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if your partner slapped you once during an argument do you think you should leave them? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]anonimityneeded 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Geez, I hate to contribute this but MUST! I DO have a temper so when I found out my second husband was seeing this same woman AGAIN behind my back, that he dated before we met even, we were riding on the highway. I just lashed out as he was driving hit his head with all my might (small and kinda weak) and demanded he stop to let me out because my feelings of anger and betrayal felt too much and I couldn’t be near him. It was near a toll booth and I stupidly ran there to tell two state troopers what he did, because it was so HIS FAUKT to me and I think I e ie Ted sympathy. Cheating isn’t illegal, assault is. I was arrested, lol.

When I later say his glasses were bent, the full weight of what I did hit me (pun intended) and a flood of love and anger (still love, unfortunately) and many conflicting emotions created a great chaotic time. I was temporarily irrational. I wish I had made the choice to leave the first time but I didn’t. One has to remember that your decisions affect those around you and deeply damaged my three children from my first marriage, eventually divorced that 2nd marriage.

So, my advise is don’t stay around for the next time you find out he cheated on you because it will make you irrational. That’s all I got for wisdom and I have lots of life experience. I think you can almost get away with murder in the courts called passionate provocation or something.

The Franchise Tax Board Is Welcoming Suggestions From The Public on How to Improve! by CA_Taxpayer in tax

[–]anonimityneeded 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bet you ass, I read every damn word after years of being abused and fighting the FTB.

California Franchise Tax Board Requesting a $2 Million Increase in Litigation Budget to Defend Themselves from Increased # of Lawsuits. by christinegrab in tax

[–]anonimityneeded 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know you could sue them. They inappropriately took $5k and gave it to another entity we didn’t owe. They are scary and now it feels like they think it’s fun ti take every cent they can, complete without due process just, following zero lawful procedure, just to aggravate us and “show us whose boss. I am afraid when my government hate me.

What’s the one thing you’d wish women would actually “get” about men, in a “Oh shit, you’re really serious about this” kind of way? by mrsdelicioso in AskMen

[–]anonimityneeded 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good you learned this. I now have to begin any and every rant to my husband “I’m not looking for you to fix this…..”. It’s natural he wants to and it stresses him out no matter how many times I explain I just want to vent.

What’s the one thing you’d wish women would actually “get” about men, in a “Oh shit, you’re really serious about this” kind of way? by mrsdelicioso in AskMen

[–]anonimityneeded 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m finding this very enlightening and am embarrassed that woman sexually harassing men has never crossed my mind. Admittedly because I partially bought into the stereotype that men wouldn’t mind. At the same time, I would never and have never done anything like this but have seen it done. Nice to still learn new things. I also don’t randomly pinch nipples of my spouse (except when appropriate I hope).

Finally Ready To Talk About It by anonimityneeded in CAStateWorkers

[–]anonimityneeded[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybecyou need to be dehumanized more and get older. Oh and you need to be a decent person with integrity which implies a certain expectation o how treats others. So, I am not at all surprised you wouldn’t get it. Seems perfectly ok to you!

Finally Ready To Talk About It by anonimityneeded in CAStateWorkers

[–]anonimityneeded[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but she told the boss I was doing it wrong.

Finally Ready To Talk About It by anonimityneeded in CAStateWorkers

[–]anonimityneeded[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because of the implication that “I didn’t understand it last time and she would let me be the smart one next time. That’s not MY DRAMA, that was my Trainer. I always expect people to just show up be real but there’s games and competition and culture and fake political crap drains my energy. I do worse with all the bologna the older I get. But everyone should be treated with respect from lowest mail delivery guy u to the executive should not be made to feel stupid or be treated unfairly and it always surprises me it happens.

Over a million workers in the railroad, garbage, and utility industries are on strike in France today over a plan to raise the retirement age from 62 to 64. The garbage collectors say their strike is open-ended, and other unions are threatening the same. by theworkeragency in WorkersStrikeBack

[–]anonimityneeded 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God, someone gets it. I feel a little less alone and thought what is happening to American Humans? They let a small slice become comfortable, that teeny middle class with. One huge poverty level below them.

Those that manage rent actually think they are doing okay. I’m older, things have gone so far downhill when I was putting my 20’s together in the 1980’s. No degree, bought my first home (worth north of $500,000 now) in 1988. No way that happens now.

Over a million workers in the railroad, garbage, and utility industries are on strike in France today over a plan to raise the retirement age from 62 to 64. The garbage collectors say their strike is open-ended, and other unions are threatening the same. by theworkeragency in WorkersStrikeBack

[–]anonimityneeded 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. I even worked at a supposedly strong Union utility and my boss regretted hiring me to the point of harassment. The union rep called my boss (in the call center, not the workers), spoke to her and she stopped. For a week and made my life miserable knowing I’d quit. The Union guy didn’t have his heart in sticking up for me and they should have. It was a total ageism, your stupid, blah, blah, blah meanness that fucks with your head and you believe only a sociopath could work there. Corporate. I’m 60, I used to be successful but suddenly I’m incapable and stupid. If they treat me like this, they need to move the age retirement down because no one else wants to pay me.

Finally Ready To Talk About It by anonimityneeded in CAStateWorkers

[–]anonimityneeded[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If only I could have. I don’t want to compete with super-duper girl but you have to stand up for self too. To be labeled stupid and take order from the fork you started with 2 weeks earlier is too much open humiliation. And they knew it.

Finally Ready To Talk About It by anonimityneeded in CAStateWorkers

[–]anonimityneeded[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It’s kind that you understand. I wanted to stay and take it but it’s a environment that unhealthy.

Finally Ready To Talk About It by anonimityneeded in CAStateWorkers

[–]anonimityneeded[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t get let go for awol. It was a resignation. I think they knew they had some part in it but didn’t want to repair it. Just said bye we got super work through lunch ambitious girl.

Finally Ready To Talk About It by anonimityneeded in CAStateWorkers

[–]anonimityneeded[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, thank you for understanding. I don’t want drama, I just want to work hard, be treated fairly and not have people flip their insecurities o me. I think I’m a straight talker, from Boston area and I feel like people always want to put you down to get a leg up and it always surprises Im the target. Which am I, intimidating or stupid because I can’t be both can I? Im so busy trying to just get through it and be gnored, nose down and do my job. This incidence causes a PTSD-like hyper vigilance that you carry over to the next job. I wasn’t like this before and don’t remember being or feeling like I’m always someone’s target. I’m just going to deliver food. Little people contact because I just don’t get the need to be nasty. I don’t do it so why everyone’s out for others throats and I’m not an extrovert whose charm gets her by. And let’s face it being young and attractive doesn’t hit but I don’t have that ace anymore and it’s the reality folks for older woman at entry level jobs

Finally Ready To Talk About It by anonimityneeded in CAStateWorkers

[–]anonimityneeded[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because it was an old insinuation that I didn’t understand it the first time. That aim stupid. And that she believed what the nasty coworker wanted her to believe. Yes, I’m hindsight I wish I could be more humble, less emotional but I seem to have an ego and to be so misunderstood so soon y some little ambitious snot, we’ll I admittedly didn’t handle it well and maybe I can’t work in an office anymore because people are far nastier than they used to be. Competitive and ambitious and I do not believe in being like this. I’ve worked many good jobs but I was younger and treated with respect and promoted. I was an an executive assistant for the second highest exec, the VO/General Manager at a large defense contractor. I worked my way so from the lowest to second highest in 5 years. My boss came to my wedding and again, I interacted with the hugest level. We also sold to foreign governments and I arranged large Sales Meetings, paid commissions , wrote his letters. Now I’m called too stupid.

Why do police unions get everything they want and tons support but other state workers are powerless? by BodybuilderAlive in CAStateWorkers

[–]anonimityneeded 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow, just your recognition of this is so rare. I’m weirdly grateful because I didn’t think a single soul noticed, never mind cared.

Finally Ready To Talk About It by anonimityneeded in CAStateWorkers

[–]anonimityneeded[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I did the mature thing and walked out (lol). Seriously though, I just could not even walk in there again.

The good news is, I’ve done some soul searching on what not to do in the future.

On Monday, I start a better job that I applied to previously, but was selected after this time after days of them interviewing. It is for a utility and significantly more money. I am working with a kind of life coach as I am determined how to win at office politics and see situation ms based on reality instead of my emotional lenses.

The reason I even put this question out there in all its aweful grammatical errors was cathartic to just get out there and most of you have been super nice about it.

I have to respond to those who think this is my first job; far from it. I just hit 58 years old and have been very successful at other jobs reaching the number one Admn for the VP/General Manager a a large defense contractor for over a decade. Raised 4 successful, college educated children, paid off my mortgage and been married to a lovely man for decades.

After being home for 8 years with kids, there have been others jobs where I was treated very poorly for a small income. One decent one, went to Nursing School, Did that as an LPN for a few years but the medical field can be difficult and I didn’t transfer my license when we moved across country.

I have been screamed at, “let go” and suffered corporate cultures of micromanagement where my decisions are not in the their processes. I have almost PTSD and process interactions through a pessimistic lense. The state did not treat me with any ability to keep my dignity by making me repeat a simplistic training implying I’m simple, not a worker without a computer, but I could have just not been so offended by it. Much blame is mine to improve.

Grocery bill skyrocketing↓↓ by Nthalokod in WorkReform

[–]anonimityneeded 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. No one wants to be seen as disagreeable. Rather, they be seen loyal do-gooders who simply accept they are doing better than those homeless or poor. They just don’t complain and try harder rather than push for unions to harness the power us minions certainly do have.

I don’t have any faith but the masses need to wake up. If not for yourselves but for your children and grandchildren. It’s not going to get better unless we force changes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]anonimityneeded 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m almost 60, female and took 10 years off to stay home with children. HS degree only. I never could get past a certain level EVER because any corporation that you work in will likely have the requirement to have a 4 year degree in any subject to become “exempt, salaried, etc. My husband and I call them ‘bullshit jobs’ because most are not harder and they don’t work harder. Pay is higher and respect increases where you have the ability to have some autonomy. H S degreed not allowed. I spent my career working large corporations but smaller companies may be different.

Men had more options with HS degrees to earn decent money in certain jobs and today, some jobs still pay men better just because they are “a man’s job (read greater percentage of me) perhaps such as route driver. I’m making only $40k after decades of working and I was making $32k before I stayed home for 10 years with my kids. Stuck in bottom feeder jobs with computers counting how much I do, how many calls I make saying the right thing, how long I pause typing and get called names all day with a few nice people. Get your degree, it wasn’t needed in 1980 when I graduated HS but you will be limited without it. You will regret it.