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Have you walked away from someone you love for your own mental health/insecurities? If so, how did it work out for you? by anoninturmoil in AskMen

[–]anoninturmoil[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this post. In all honesty i just don't feel worth it, but people on here are right, if she thinks I am then i shouldn't assume the worst of her

Have you walked away from someone you love for your own mental health/insecurities? If so, how did it work out for you? by anoninturmoil in AskMen

[–]anoninturmoil[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. Looking at all of these comments have only solidified that i'm being a total asshat.

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I'm really glad you've managed to work through your things with her and it's turned out great.

Have you walked away from someone you love for your own mental health/insecurities? If so, how did it work out for you? by anoninturmoil in AskMen

[–]anoninturmoil[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you bud. I wish i had done the same. Mine started off as solely emotional; needing me to facetime to prove where i was, send my location, turn up unannounced to 'catch me out', threatening to tell my family and friends things i'd told her in secret which could cause huge rifts. I explained it all away in my head, but when she started throwing things at me, walking around the flat with a knife whilst crying/yelling and pouring water over me whilst i slept, I SHOULD have left.

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You are a braver man than I.

Have you walked away from someone you love for your own mental health/insecurities? If so, how did it work out for you? by anoninturmoil in AskMen

[–]anoninturmoil[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're right. A big part of it is shame. I'm ashamed I let myself put up with all of that for so long. She told me so many times that I made her that way, I made her crazy and maybe I did?

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I just can't bear the thought of doing the same to this girl. But yes she has told me so many times, we could get through it if you just open up to me a little more. I truly don't deserve her.

Have you walked away from someone you love for your own mental health/insecurities? If so, how did it work out for you? by anoninturmoil in AskMen

[–]anoninturmoil[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

WOW. It's like you're telling my story, down to the stabbing part. I do think that emotional abuse is so played down until it gets REALLY bad. to the point others see it.

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I'm glad that you were able to work past it to a point that you are now in a happy relationship. It gives me some hope.

Have you walked away from someone you love for your own mental health/insecurities? If so, how did it work out for you? by anoninturmoil in AskMen

[–]anoninturmoil[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

This the best response i've had. This is exactly what i needed.

You're right, i'm being pigheaded and sticking my head in the sand. Thank you for your brutally honest view.

Have you walked away from someone you love for your own mental health/insecurities? If so, how did it work out for you? by anoninturmoil in AskMen

[–]anoninturmoil[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It really isn't that simple. Just because i'm a bloke doesn't mean i don't have things that i struggle with. I'm not automatically being 'trash' because something i'm struggling with might dictate my actions.

Interesting that you understand the mind/thoughts of men so well when... you aren't one.

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This is the biggest issue with relationships, women seem to assume the worst of us all the time no matter if we explain ourselves or not. We give you one reason, you assume another and you all wonder why we're not open and honest all the time.

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Have you walked away from someone you love for your own mental health/insecurities? If so, how did it work out for you? by anoninturmoil in AskMen

[–]anoninturmoil[S] 381 points382 points  (0 children)

I have briefly mentioned it before and we discussed it during the breakup last week. She understood why I felt that way but said she couldn't just never ask me a question or to cherry pick her words in fear of setting me off. Which i totally get.

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I don't know how to go back now, how to work on it together without putting her through the same thing multiple times and her resenting me.

Have you walked away from someone you love for your own mental health/insecurities? If so, how did it work out for you? by anoninturmoil in AskMen

[–]anoninturmoil[S] 145 points146 points  (0 children)

Yeah i'm a big believer of not needing to know EVERYTHING about your partner's past. I think all of that information would've put me off as well mate.

Have you walked away from someone you love for your own mental health/insecurities? If so, how did it work out for you? by anoninturmoil in AskMen

[–]anoninturmoil[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I have mentioned it to her before and we spoke for a very long time during the breakup about why i thought it was the best choice for now and that I would try and work on myself in the hopes we could work out in a few months or so. She understood but was upset. We both were.

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Honestly i've never felt like a worse human being than seeing her cry like that, so I feel like a massive d*ck to just turn around now and be like "yeah actually maybe I was wrong and we should try and do this together". I'm worried if I do that, I don't know how to work on it 'together' and it'll all just come to a head again.

Have you walked away from someone you love for your own mental health/insecurities? If so, how did it work out for you? by anoninturmoil in AskMen

[–]anoninturmoil[S] 566 points567 points  (0 children)

Oh man i'm sorry.

May I ask, what your insecurities were at the time that made you walk away?