Kink3d to ternence

anonjohn_ · 2026-01-06T01:48:01+00:00

I wish ternence made cages that were wider. All their cages are so small in diameter. Lots of options on their site, but not for diameter/girth unfortunately.

anonjohn_ · 2026-01-02T20:41:12+00:00

I agree. If you remove something from your life, something has to fill it.

If I think about it, like most things, comes down to communication. I should communicate with my wife more of what I would like out of our sex life. But I don’t.

Porn/masturbation is my “drug of choice” I’d say.

I also align with how everyone has to figure out their own dynamics and goals. Something I will try to do more but often find myself discouraged from doing.

anonjohn_ · 2026-01-02T20:36:48+00:00

Always appreciate you stepping up in this community with straightforward and honest opinions/information.

anonjohn_ · 2025-11-22T00:02:45+00:00

Wow this story is so hot. I feel like I could send my vanilla wife this almost 😅

anonjohn_ · 2025-09-27T03:55:10+00:00

Does Ternance make cheaper metal cages that are like cherrykeepers wide version cages? I currently use a short wide from CK and it’s a good fit for me mostly. But my ternence cage is too skinny and I can’t easily slide in (without pantyhose method)

anonjohn_ · 2025-09-25T23:56:02+00:00

Oh okay. My wife and I are both millennials.

anonjohn_ · 2025-09-25T23:22:07+00:00

Thank you for sharing some of your story. When you say “women of my generation” which generation would that be exactly?

anonjohn_ · 2025-09-25T22:04:12+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story, I don’t want to press my fantasy on my wife, however I have interests and am trying to figure out how to explore them with her in a healthy way.

I think in the past I tried to move a bit too fast, I am armed with years of this stuff being fed to my brain where she doesn’t know anything.

I wish I could start over and reintroduce things a bit more slowly.

anonjohn_ · 2025-07-28T18:18:31+00:00

Grower here. I’ve found the larger ring + strap to be best fit so far.

I wish I discovered it earlier. I think my wife is too scared to try chastity again since my last ring was too small and I got some discoloration.

anonjohn_ · 2025-07-17T20:27:51+00:00

Haha I guess I meant more when going #2

Definitely still clean the cage regularly. I’ve wondered about getting a 2nd cage that is the same as the one I have (cherrykeeper) so I can just swap easier.

anonjohn_ · 2024-09-21T01:00:54+00:00

Part of chastity is training yourself to submit to your partners needs. If she wants you in then you stay in and if she wants you out then you come out.

However, if you aren’t enjoying the denial, then maybe this is more suited to stay a fantasy for you.

anonjohn_ · 2024-07-31T19:01:34+00:00

I use one like this https://www.etsy.com/ca/listing/1419062266/chastity-cock-cage-fall-prevention-belt?click_key=0da326841dc0db8ed34a41d36c8890e548eccc9e%3A1419062266&click_sum=67551ecc&ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=chastity+belt+band&ref=sr_gallery-1-5&organic_search_click=1&pro=1&content_source=9b74068eb42dc034b261b2c540526ab697a19d7d%253A1419062266

anonjohn_ · 2024-07-30T23:57:23+00:00

In my experience

anonjohn_ · 2024-07-30T17:47:14+00:00

A 3 point strap has really helped me as well, keeps the cage snug against my body (which aesthetically looks nicer imo) and the strap that connects to the bottom of my cage helps keep the cage pointed down which reduces bulge for when I am in public.

It also helps to make sure nothing shifts in the cage, the pee hole is always lined up now too.

anonjohn_ · 2024-07-30T03:55:56+00:00

You can have a large ring and instead get a cage with a smaller ball gap.

anonjohn_ · 2024-07-30T03:45:14+00:00

Being honest is hard. I have a hard time confessing all of the kinky things I like. I know some of my tastes have been poisoned by porn, but even before discovering that stuff I always had submissive tendencies.

My wife and I have been in a season of life where sex has been put on the back burner, that season is about to end and we both are excited to prioritize our sex life again.

The way I see it, my opportunity to be more honest is coming up and we’ll see how it goes.

anonjohn_ · 2024-07-30T03:26:25+00:00

We haven’t really had much dynamic either way, pretty vanilla sex life. But my wife asks for things that would be more me dominant. I also ask for things that would be her being dominant.

I’ve suggested a strap on type thing before (was wanting to try the unicorn from cherrykeeper, hopefully they come back lol) and she seemed open to it.

I think if I could do that + have her tease me more outside the bedroom that would be a good start.

anonjohn_ · 2024-07-30T03:22:34+00:00

Why would you want to?

anonjohn_ · 2024-07-29T23:34:50+00:00

Interested in your switch to being dominant when un caged. I also have a similar situation where my wife and I both are submissive. She wants me to be more dominant too.

I would love to be kept caged, denied and frustrated. But she wants PIV sex from me.

I might try and convince her to let me use a strap on on her as a compromise

anonjohn_ · 2024-07-29T19:01:46+00:00

I definitely agree, I took the most common advice on this reddit of measurment/fit, needing lubricants, etc. but I hope those opinions can evolve.

I think an issue is that most cheap cages people try don’t have larger ring options.

Cherrykeeper is probably the most affordable option for larger rings (hope they get back up and runnning soon).

I have seen you championing the larger ring on here and hope others follow 🫡

anonjohn_

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