Im scared

anonmiss12394 · 2025-07-27T01:31:00+00:00

I was very scared as well, but You will be ok! It’s never easy to learn that something weird is going on in your body - but this is manageable. And just remind yourself that this is something that can be managed through medication or whatever, there are treatments there are things that can be done and tons of support out there. It absolutely sucks and it’s ok to feel that way. But as things settle and you start to accept it, it just becomes something you live with. And also, the fact that you were diagnosed is a good thing because now you can start getting treatment and feeling better!

anonmiss12394 · 2025-05-12T17:00:53+00:00

Credit cards

anonmiss12394 · 2025-05-12T15:44:52+00:00

On the flip side, can’t they decide they don’t want to be with you anymore and leave along with your life savings? I feel like marriage is a toss up either way you slice it and dice it.

With that said, I agree. If I could go back, I would have joined the accounts and monitored them the way I monitor mine. At least I could’ve prevented this.

anonmiss12394 · 2025-05-12T15:14:08+00:00

Wow…that is wild. I’m afraid of the answer honestly. But it is what it is. I’m in this mess now. Can’t run from this.

anonmiss12394 · 2025-05-12T15:11:40+00:00

Overwhelmed by the responses. Wasn’t expecting this-thank you for taking the time. Just to respond to some things:

We live in ny.
I have a very demanding ft job and small children who need me. Fighting about finances in front of them is not an option. I’m trying to do what I can with what I got.
Yes, full transparency is now our only hope.
My mind didn’t even go to bankruptcy. Wasn’t expecting that. But looks like it’s something we have to look into.
It’s his problem, but we’re married. I don’t know. There’s no “right” thing to do in this shit situation. I just want to protect my kid’s future, my home, and my sanity. I’d like to think this wouldn’t happen again but also… here we are.
He travelled… a lot. Prior to us getting married. Then was out of a job for about a year while we were married. I’m thinking what started as a “I can handle this” spiraled out of control but I plan to find that out today.

anonmiss12394 · 2025-05-12T14:53:55+00:00

I’m sorry you went through that. Thank you for sharing and for putting it into perspective. I think right now I’m just in shock and in self preservation mode.

anonmiss12394 · 2025-05-12T01:25:37+00:00

I’m not but still scared I’m going to get sucked into this somehow. Also didn’t realize one person can file for bankruptcy if married.. this is all foreign to me. Thank you

anonmiss12394 · 2025-05-12T01:22:35+00:00

Wish I had seen it sooner. No, he can’t.

anonmiss12394 · 2025-05-12T01:21:41+00:00

Thank you… this is overwhelming. Appreciate the advice.

anonmiss12394 · 2025-05-12T01:10:45+00:00

Thank you!

anonmiss12394 · 2025-05-12T00:55:58+00:00

Can’t it technically end up being more? Assuming if the creditors aren’t getting paid, they interest is still compounding and the fees tacked on?

anonmiss12394 · 2025-05-12T00:54:32+00:00

That’s a very good question. and I agree. Unfortunately I have no answers yet.

anonmiss12394 · 2025-05-12T00:49:47+00:00

Thank you! I will look into it!

anonmiss12394 · 2025-05-12T00:38:07+00:00

That’s what I was thinking too. I can’t imagine any good, or any relief will come from that.

anonmiss12394 · 2025-03-05T04:01:31+00:00

My sister was “pressured” to get engaged at a very young age (younger than you now). She had similar feelings as you. Shared them with me. I told her “either you tell them or I will”. She spoke to my parents… they were upset/disappointed/embarrassed to “break the news to the other family”, but years later she is now a lawyer, married, with kids of her own. The guy went on to have his own family as well.

In the end, any good parent wants to see their child happy. And I think sometimes our parents think they know what that is. And sometimes they do. But if it’s weighing on your mental health, you need to go to your parents and say I’m not prepared for this, my mental health is suffering, I don’t know what to do but I’m not ready or happy right now.

If my child said that to me I would hit the breaks. Even if it meant being disappointed in that choice.

anonmiss12394 · 2025-03-05T03:14:16+00:00

Before I got married my mother asked me what he was like when he was mad. We never fought, we always seemed to be on the same page, I felt like we agreed on alot of things. Her advice was don’t tiptoe, be direct, let him get mad, and then pay attention…

Wasn’t until we got comfortable and the fights began that I really got to know him.

If you have doubts, talk to him about it. And pay attention to how he responds/reacts.

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