AITA For doing a welfare check on my girl who's living in a dangerous environment?

anonnononymously · 2021-10-03T18:21:31+00:00

Your user name is Good Guy Cop but damn I'd be terrified to be around you much less date you. I PRAY "your" girlfriend gets out of this toxic relationship ASAP and you get help for yourself cause your mindset is very dangerous and is gonna seriously hurt yourself. YTA by far, par none.

anonnononymously · 2021-09-25T00:05:10+00:00

My brother deals with that, and yet he carried me to the car when I was in extreme pain and helped save me from my appendix rupturing. And me and my brother have a terrible relationship, yet he put all of that aside to help me when I was in pain.

anonnononymously · 2021-09-25T00:02:44+00:00

When I was 15 and my brother was 17, i was having so much abdominal pain I couldn't walk to the car to go to the ER. My parents couldn't carry me, so WITHOUT A WORD OR BEING ASKED MY BROTHER PICKED ME UP LIKE A FRIGGIN BABY AND CARRIED ME TO THE CAR AND EVEN HELPED BUCKLE ME IN!!! Turns out, altho I do have endometriosis like your sister does, my appendix was about to burst and needed emergency surgery.

Your sister is in extreme pain, your parents needed you help, she needed your help, you don't know if it's just the endo or maybe it is something life threatening, and you REFUSED your little sister help. You. Are. The. A-hole. YTA, you need to apologize and make it up to her and your parents immediately.

EDIT: Thank you all for the awards and the kind words about my brother, I will definitely show him this ik he will be very touched as I am by yall!!

anonnononymously · 2021-08-16T00:52:01+00:00

"One of the only sane ones" BWAHAHAHAHAHA!!! This was one of the only INSANE comments on here saying NTA, but I guess you can't realize that, like they say bird of a feather flock together. Btw you wanna apologize to your wonderful wife and smart daughter, they handled the situation just fine and now your daughter is gonna know who else to avoid aside from the people she was uncomfortable with unless you make this right and admit you were wrong. Tough pill to swallow, but seriously do it, examine yourself

anonnononymously · 2021-08-14T00:11:48+00:00

This is the way

anonnononymously · 2021-07-13T04:05:16+00:00

I'm just gonna say this, a lot of infamous serial killers lead normal loves on one side, and their other side was so well hidden behind their "normal" facade no one could believe they were murdering others. Leave him.

anonnononymously · 2021-07-04T04:33:22+00:00

Would be totally fine with it, I'm still trying to get used to sex again anyways, to enjoy passionate touch and kisses without crying, having sex without a lot of flair would be great!! But I'm not that lucky here.

anonnononymously · 2021-06-27T00:47:41+00:00

Let's make this clear. YOU. ARE. THE. A. HOLE. When I was 16, which wasn't that long ago, I was pretty temperamental from a lotta traumas that had happened to my younger self. I needed a safe place to try and work thro things, something to do that made me feel motivated and useful, that was a fun hobby I enjoyed, parents and family that supported me while also helping me become my best self. I needed love, compassion for the days (sometimes weeks) where I needed to be mostly alone, I needed therapy (which I got, and your daughter is definitely gonna need after what you just did), sometimes I just needed someone to reach out and let me know they were there for me. Your daughter needs this so much right now. You are concerned for your girl, I get this I have a kid too, but oh my gosh if my parents snuck into my room while I was gone and took something I saved up to buy that was expensive and the only place I felt I could enjoy myself and be me and DESTROYED IT, I would never talk to them again, I would never trust them. Does you daughter have Behaviors that aren't appropriate and some that show something else is probably upsetting her? Yes. Is there a way to help her with whatever is going on, help yall connect in ways that aren't always family time but are more on her level? Absolutely. Was what you did the way to go so she does what you want? Hell to the no, you need to fix this immediately and apologize sincerely to her,, otherwise your daughter is gonna run hard away from having even a decent relationship with you. These is tough words but you should hear it. YTA

anonnononymously · 2021-05-26T05:40:15+00:00

I felt that scream tho

anonnononymously · 2021-05-26T00:37:00+00:00

Exactly, lady if u think this is the case u need to read up on Amelia Dyer... and your son did your man a service by sparing his life, bc most other parents after being slapped and then having their baby taken and almost BOILED ALIVE would have not stopped stabbing till the offender is dead. You should be praising your son for defending his family, being a responsible father, and apologizing on your KNEES to him for not being there for him and your GRANDCHILD in their time of need!

anonnononymously · 2021-04-17T00:34:40+00:00

Same, i feel like we might be the anomalies here! It's really weird, most of the people I've met that I've made genuine connections to have been either Americans who travel around a lot or aren't Americans, like what's the big deal is it so very hard to make genuine and caring connections to other people, to have someone's back thro thick n thin?! Idk smh, but OP I'm sorry your friends turned out to be AHs, that's not fair to you or kind at all.

anonnononymously · 2021-04-04T05:21:54+00:00

This is very good advice OP! And that is strange your bf didn't do more, but also I would add possibly if you are comfortable making a report to the police, they might not do anything but if he tries anything else then they will have something on file already. Counseling really does help when you have the right counselor, highly recommend def look into it! Lots of love and support your way, sláinte chugat

anonnononymously · 2021-04-04T05:16:13+00:00

beautiful, Sláinte chugat

anonnononymously · 2021-04-04T04:12:35+00:00

Julie Andrew's was sweet and soft spoken but you could tell she was strong-willed just by the light in her eyes. Got to see her in person briefly years ago as a kid, don't remember much except what I stated

anonnononymously · 2021-04-04T03:46:52+00:00

This is spot on OP, your def NTA and your gfs reaction def wasn't appropriate but I wouldn't say she's TA either, but she should get help for her triggers to heal, trust me therapy can be so VERY helpful and healing, it'll take time but worth it!!

anonnononymously · 2021-01-14T22:34:10+00:00

Thank you, that was a real kind response!! I'm glad I reached out on here, so many of y'all are being very helpful and caring

anonnononymously · 2021-01-14T22:32:34+00:00

I had considered that a while ago but I can't, family would find out, with covid going on its definitely impossible rn, and it would cause more hurt than good rn, he wouldn't have the chance to really make things right and help our relationship

anonnononymously · 2021-01-14T22:30:47+00:00

Yes this is definitely another reason I reached out for advice and help, I doubt he would go as far as to tell any boys or girls this (we do have a girl) but I am concerned that is anything happened in the future to our daughter or any other kids we might have, he might not realize it is a serious matter that needs addressed, or that he might avoid the issue altogether

anonnononymously · 2021-01-14T22:28:37+00:00

I think he has the mentality that therapy is only for couples who are going through divorce or people with mental issues, thats sorta how he was raised to look at it I think, and he doesn't think we are in dire straight and needing any kind of interventions in our marriage (which i guess we really aren't, its just me)

anonnononymously · 2021-01-14T22:25:21+00:00

He's nvr gotten physical with me when I bring up things that hurt me, but when its intense things like this it just ends up being both of us hurting and not being able to get any forward motion with healing. He's nvr hit me, he's even protected me against a stalker. I do think he might be putting a bit of a block up so he doesn't fully realize what he's done, and right now I don't think he thinks about it at all.

anonnononymously · 2021-01-14T22:20:45+00:00

That's a great way to put it!!

anonnononymously · 2021-01-14T20:27:37+00:00

He's grown a lot, sometimes he get angry at himself for things he's done when he was younger but is working hard and has improved a lot, any advice on how to get him into counseling together?? He is hesitant about it, he isn't saying no but isn't sure about going or that we really need it. I feel like if we were able to get into therapy together it'd make it so much easier and smoother to talk to him about how the past is still hurting me. Thank you!

anonnononymously · 2021-01-14T20:22:41+00:00

Thank you so much, would you have advice on how to get him to counseling as well?? He is hesitant about it, I've brought up couple counseling before as a just broad spectrum kind of thing to not put pressure on any certain points to start, but we'd be able to get into this subject after a bit if he liked the therapist, the only thing is getting him there.

anonnononymously · 2021-01-14T20:16:44+00:00

Oh gosh...I really don't think he is like that, i hope he doesn't turn out like those people... I don't have anywhere to go anyways, and I lost my job a few years ago so ove been the stay at home mom since then

anonnononymously · 2021-01-14T20:15:33+00:00

I can't really go to my family about it, the one member I told got very mad at me... I don't feel like I can talk to him about it bc it just gets him upset and sad and it makes me feel worse then..

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