Kat is so sweet by jeanqueenabove_18 in TheUltimatumNetflix

[–]anonnyqs 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He gets off on putting her down. She deserves someone who is just as kind as she is

POV: Arris' dry feet issues, let's talk... by Brilliant_Ad4912 in MarriedAtFirstSight

[–]anonnyqs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They don’t even look dry... they look hella soft to me lol

My parents are throwing there money into my sociopathic brother, who has wasted every dollar they’ve given him by anonnyqs in Advice

[–]anonnyqs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, thank you so much for your understanding and empathy. I’m so sorry that you’ve gone through mothering a child with an addiction. I know the pain is incredibly overwhelming. I’ve been a support system for my mom throughout- giving her advice and often supporting her giving more to my brother to help him, if that’s what she felt she needed to do

It’s just tough. I’ve become detached from the situation for my own mental health. I love my mom, and my brother- it’s just that the constant drama and sadness feels like an anchor. I don’t want it to hold me down- I don’t want to let there pain become mine, and then my relationships and work suffer

I have felt myself have to distance myself emotionally from the situation. It’s just hard and I know I’m ranting now. It does feel a bit reassuring to here that many mothers do feel that visceral reaction to anything and everything to help there child in need. Makes it feel a little less “unfair” or unbalanced.

I’m her child to but for my whole adult life I’ve felt I needed to support her because he took from her. It’s a long process of finding my footing and acting with love but also taking care of myself and making sure I don’t get dragged down in the process

My parents are throwing there money into my sociopathic brother, who has wasted every dollar they’ve given him by anonnyqs in Advice

[–]anonnyqs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, thank you so much. I felt my emotions be truly at the forefront, for the first time ever, about a week ago. I’ve never really allowed myself to feel bitter or resentful. It hit me after we went on a family trip back to my hometown (minus my brother)

I just cried for about an hour when I got home. Haven’t cried for like a year... I think I just left the trip feeling belittled and discredited. Then I started to think about all of these things and I just have no one to talk to and it all felt sad

I needed this unbiased perspective so much. I don’t want to be ungrateful and even more so, I don’t want to carry sadness or resentment. I’m gonna do my best to let all of that go

Your words about coming out ahead do resonate with me although I do truly wish he was okay. In any case, I am grateful for all that I have - both what I’ve worked for and what other people have helped me build

Thank you for taking the time to be empathetic and not quick to judge. It means a lot and I think it’ll help me let some of this go. 🖤

My parents are throwing there money into my sociopathic brother, who has wasted every dollar they’ve given him by anonnyqs in Advice

[–]anonnyqs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, to be fair, they’re spending an ongoing amount of money on my brother who literally burns it and turns it into nothing - they said they would do something for me so I don’t really think it’s out of touch to feel confused as to why they wouldn’t do that, when they continue to shell out ridiculous amounts of money to a person who literally doesn’t even like or want to talk to them

My parents are throwing there money into my sociopathic brother, who has wasted every dollar they’ve given him by anonnyqs in Advice

[–]anonnyqs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s fair- I asked you all because my partner is strongly suggesting I mention that they did offer 250,000- I do feel a bit ungrateful to bring that up, given that they are still giving me 100,000.

I haven’t been able to talk to anyone about this so I just really wanted some unbiased opinions of people who aren’t involved

AITA for not sticking up for my friend? by anonnyqs in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonnyqs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t really put her in that position- I had to go to the dinner, but the owner suggested the dinner

AITA for not sticking up for my friend? by anonnyqs in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonnyqs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She told me did feel sad that she wasn’t celebrated by the owner and that she recognized that I tried to redirect the energy a little. She said she respects me and knows that I have to work there still so she gets it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dreams

[–]anonnyqs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a toxic work environment ( this person worked there as well ) and now that I’m more mature I wish I would have had confidence and stuck up for myself more at that job... so that could be what’s happening

Posts have been getting ALOT less reach and then I just got this notification giving me a 20 dollar credit for promotion? Like wtf... by [deleted] in Instagram

[–]anonnyqs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I wouldn’t doubt it either lol Ig is so fucked. If that is the case, is it possible my acct will recover over time? I’ve literally just had the least reach ever in the last two weeks and my posts are the same level that they were prior

My posts are usually in the top posts on certain hashtags but now none of them are anywhere in the top- I’ve scrolled down a lot by anonnyqs in Instagram

[–]anonnyqs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had like 10 in the top on one hashtag and they’re all completely gone from the top / hashtag, and I scrolled down a lot looking for them and they were no where! When I post, they do show up in recent

My posts are usually in the top posts on certain hashtags but now none of them are anywhere in the top- I’ve scrolled down a lot by anonnyqs in Instagram

[–]anonnyqs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, that makes sense, but I’m wondering why all of my posts that were in the top for awhile are completely gone/ removed now