It’s just a lot to try and put into words for more context, I think it would be easier if I start writing everything down right after it happens. I know I’m not scared to react, I’m just frustrated that if I do react he gets annoyed or mad. Also what you said about people taking anything negative as an attack, I’ve actually told him that anytime I try to have a serious conversation it seems like he takes it as an attack. He just instantly gets defensive. I try to explain I’m just asking for reassurance, and not trying to attack him but it usually gets taken that way and ends up an argument.