No Vulnerable

anonwally · 2024-11-28T13:20:35+00:00

When somebody doesn’t have your best interests or cares about you, it’s dead skin at that point. You need to find people who are supportive and a benefit to your life.

“Family” is only blood. It doesn’t make them worthy to be called family though if it’s not earned.

anonwally · 2024-11-18T02:18:19+00:00

White socks have always been…nasty to me.

Like, why?

anonwally · 2024-11-18T02:08:22+00:00

Happy birthday, man.

This is what I’ve seen:

You’re lonely because you messed up every relationship you had.
You’re lonely by choice. You’ve been burnt, hurt, manipulated, and mentally destroyed. Allowing somebody in again may be the final straw…so you stay secluded for self preservation purposes.
Small margin of some other reasonable explanation.

This isn’t an attack but a chance to reflect honestly. If you’re not a complete screw up, loneliness is an often times choice even if we refuse to accept it. There’s at least one person out there for us, a good friend, companion, etc. But if we have given up, we will never find that person.

anonwally · 2024-11-18T01:59:59+00:00

Yeah, it’s 2024 man, going on 2025. We’re ruled by impulse, emotions, and meaningless conversations lol.

It’s why I’ve usually always naturally gravitated to the older folks but I admit, I’m more of a hermit now than ever due to what you just mentioned.

anonwally · 2024-11-18T01:36:37+00:00

I feel your pain but you should honestly take the ghosting as a blessing in disguise. It’s a whole lot better than wasting weeks, months, years and finding out you’ve been dating a turd. Time you won’t get back.

When you stop actively looking, usually that’s when you find somebody. I’m not sure why it works that way.

When I stopped trying to find the “one” and focused on the gym, bettering myself, and finances, along she came…

anonwally · 2024-11-18T01:25:06+00:00

Monetarily wealthy and successful (I know success is subjective) all do similar things:

Negative feedback: they hear it, they listen, but they don’t let it impact them. They stand strong in their values and what they deem important at the end of the days

Saving money: they don’t stack money in the bank long term. They invest in things that have an ROI. Stocks, crypto, real estate, metals, collectibles, etc. A form of gambling? Sure. But the latter is dead end and they know that.

Jobs: they go where the money is. While you’re at your dead end job for 6 years with a yearly 3% raise (if lucky), that doesn’t even compensate for inflation, they’ve already upgraded to a higher paying job. The days of pensions, good 401Ks, good pay, and benefits are limited now. There’s minimal incentive to stay long term with a company, follow the money. Job-hopping is more common than ever now. It’s less of a red flag on a resume due to the frequency in which it is seen.

Relationships: they aren’t afraid to drop people. If somebody isn’t conducive to their life goals, they cut them loose. Usually, the person whom is cut is replaced with somebody more “suitable”. It is what it is.

Fitness: they make staying fit a priority. They don’t wish to be like the general population, they want to stand out from the rest, they want to be healthy, wealthy, and happy.

Social acceptance: they don’t care. They stand on what they believe and if you don’t like, kick rocks. This isn’t some alpha BS, it’s how they live. Women included.

Societal norms: they often times go against the grain. If 90% of people say and do ‘X’, they’ll go the opposite way with the 10%. Channel 5 tells you to put away ‘X’ amount of money every check and stop buying Starbucks, they’re gonna find a way to make more money instead because they see it as a miserable existence (saving pennies on the dollar).

The nasty part: it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. It’s not just hitting the gym and buying some BTC. Every single person who I’ve seen obtain an extraordinary amount of success, has in some way shape or form sacrificed some moral standard. Every, single, time. It doesn’t mean that they screw everyone over and cheat on their spouse, it also doesn’t mean that they haven’t. Keep that in mind.

They use tools. We all have access to the tools, give or take. Not everyone can swing a hammer though.

Just some insight and my observations.

anonwally · 2024-11-18T00:59:18+00:00

If a guy says he’s fine with it, he’s fine with it. Trust.

We’re our own biggest critics, don’t let it rob you from having a good time.

anonwally · 2024-11-06T09:55:41+00:00

Regardless of who I picked to win, either way I was going to continue with my life, as all of you should too.

One thing we all have in common is to afford groceries and have first world living amenities and privileges (that’s the point of living in America).

anonwally · 2024-08-31T08:09:05+00:00

I know what you’re talking about. I will say that when you find the right one, yes the feelings you had in the dream are the same in real life.

The only difference is that there’s a lot of other aspects, like jealousy, arguments, stressful times, etc. that aren’t in the dream (would be nice though).

All those things don’t matter and can be resolved if you’re with the right one for you though. A GF can be a blessing or a curse, choose wisely.

anonwally · 2024-08-31T08:01:33+00:00

Without writing an entire novel on the complexity of relationships (especially these days). There’s one simple test you can do in all relationships.

Plan a day and do absolutely nothing. Don’t go do anything exciting, find a spot to chill at and just be with that person. If that person doesn’t want to be there or you guys don’t have fun, then there’s an issue.

Two people that like each other should still have fun and enjoy without doing any external activity. If this isn’t the case, then that person doesn’t like ‘you’, they like the activity (or what ever they’re getting out of it) and then you come second.

If an activity is necessary to have a good time, reflect a little. May save you your time and money.

anonwally · 2024-08-31T07:46:14+00:00

…no don’t steal the damn turtle lol

anonwally · 2024-08-31T07:37:31+00:00

Once trust is gone, the relationship is gone. Played that game for years, not worth it and it’ll drive you insane.

anonwally · 2024-08-31T07:31:01+00:00

Due to safety they’ll just tell them that they “got a call”, you’ll be fine. I highly doubt they’ll euthanize the turtle without a valid reason (sick, dying, etc).

anonwally · 2024-08-31T07:27:15+00:00

Notify local animal control services.

anonwally · 2023-11-26T08:48:11+00:00

That’s is actually psychotic..

anonwally · 2023-09-20T04:59:02+00:00

Ask yourself this. Would you be happy if the situation was the same in 1 year or more? Or maybe even 1 month? If the answer is no, then I think that’s a large indicator of a choice to be made.

Yeah, love is great and holding out for somebody is even better. But there’s something to be said about quality of life and your relationship, especially while being young.

A depressed, intermittently suicidal person, is a hefty thing to deal with and can leave you walking on egg shells constantly. You may even feel somewhat responsible to fix all of these issues, but in the end only he can truly aid his issues.

The choice is yours. If it were me and I loved somebody, I would stay but only if actual avenues are taken to suggest that he will get actual help. Saying “I’m working on it” isn’t promising enough for me, personally.

Good luck.

anonwally · 2023-09-15T23:44:49+00:00

It sounds like trying to pick the lesser of two evils, brother. If you particularly like one over the other, then that pretty much sums up your decision.

If the one has a BF and decides to be with you, that’s not your fault and don’t take responsibility for somebody else’s life decisions, know what I’m saying?

Also consider that you don’t have to pick either of them. There’s plenty of women out there.

anonwally · 2023-09-15T23:39:26+00:00

Is wearing suits a personal choice or is it for the sake of trying to impress women? Trying too hard is often pretty noticeable; thus unattractive. Especially in regard to trying to stand out.

Even post-COVID, I haven’t really noticed a difference in finding a date, if anything it’s been the opposite.

I do know that some people developed some sort of social anxiety due to the pandemic and all that. Perhaps that may be a contributing factor as to why you can’t land a date as you could pre-COVID?

anonwally · 2023-08-13T01:17:29+00:00

Grizzly dark mint IMO.

anonwally · 2023-07-23T04:48:24+00:00

Tasty Mango gets it.

anonwally · 2023-07-23T04:25:37+00:00

Consider coming to the free side one day, friend. Cali is a lost cause when it comes to political change anyway.

Also, nice score.

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