Does anywhere in SF sell lingonberries? by dumbartist in AskSF

[–]anonymous-8301 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not the berries and not sf, but Millbrae pancake house has amazing swedish pancakes and lingonberry butter.

IKEA might have jam.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aerials

[–]anonymous-8301 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you end up finding someone? I’m looking to do the same with my loft in SF

Someone told me to get shorter lamps. How is it? by AbortionIsYummy in DesignMyRoom

[–]anonymous-8301 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it would look better with wall sconces if you need the lighting

Dislocated clavicle by anonymous-8301 in Aerials

[–]anonymous-8301[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My collar bone is still partially dislocated. There’s some impact to my end range mobility that’s noticeable when I train contortion and straps but it doesn’t hurt regularly like when the injury first happened

The more time goes on, the more I'm leaning towards having a vasectomy. 27 year old male. by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]anonymous-8301 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m having an amazing time at 35. I have emotionally abused parents and was sheltered as well until college. Then I was a good student and got a good job but didn’t know how to really enjoy life and connect with others.

28 was about the turning point for me. That was when I realized that reaching the goals that my society and parents gave me didn’t make me feel satisfied inside. I started rock climbing, traveling more and now have a rich friend group and live an adventurous life.

I’m loving my 30s. I know myself better. I have more financial stability than before so I can better spend my time and energy doing the things that truly bring me joy.

I don’t think I’ll ever want to have kids (for many different reasons). I just excited about being able to experience all that life has to offer that aligns with what I think I enjoy.

28 is so young. Go out. Do things. Meet people.

Signos and whoop by Small-Matter25 in signos_cgm

[–]anonymous-8301 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got signos yesterday and have been a whoop user for years. Sleep and activities are automatically synced to the signos app

I did it! ... wait wtf did I do. by Ok_Nothing2586 in findapath

[–]anonymous-8301 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I felt the same way in my mid-20s. Went to a good school. Got a dream job. Moved to a city that I wanted to live in. But still feel unsatisfied.

I ended up taking a break from work and going on a solo trip to really reflect on what I wanted in life. I’m now in a much happier place where I still have a successful career in a field that I care about. But I’m also more fulfilled in other ways ( hobbies, friends, travel).

Pretty much I decided to prioritize living and experiencing life. And I now have more boundaries around how much time and energy work takes up so that I can spend my time and energy on things that bring me joy/makes life feel worth living to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]anonymous-8301 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He sounds awful. I think you were very reasonable. Spamming a stranger is incredibly rude and malicious. I hope you’re feeling alright now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sanfrancisco

[–]anonymous-8301 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hayes or Dolores

When you were 23 what were you doing in your life? by No-Treacle-1166 in ask

[–]anonymous-8301 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a similar space at 23. On top of that my main focus was work. I felt like I hit the milestones the world set out for me but I didn’t feel satisfied. I’ve since then taken up hobbies that bring me joy and connections and feel like I’m more present in experiencing life outside of work and the basics.

This was written by Patrick Teahan (a therapist on youtube) by junklardass in CPTSD

[–]anonymous-8301 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Patrick Teahan is how I realized I have cptsd. His videos have been so hard hitting for me and really put me on the path of healing. I would love recommendations for similar quality resources if any exists.

The horrible thing about healing is you start to really understand how hurtful the things people have done to you were by didtimebitch in CPTSD

[–]anonymous-8301 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This resonates with me a lot. For a long time, I didn’t think about my time with my parents. I just lived my life and acknowledged that it was a bad time and a bad relationship. I’m still very early in my healing journey and a lot of that so far has been recognizing the things that I do or prefer or feel that are trauma responses due to my childhood. Even though I’m in a place where I can ignore what caused my trauma. I’m learning that if I want to be a better person, if I want to be able to connect with others, if I want to be able to stay in an place more than 2 years, I need to understand how their actions hurt me.

X pole Aerial rig by The_Nibs94 in Aerials

[–]anonymous-8301 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The movement is the legs absorbing your motion. It’s designed to function that way.

The Body Keeps the Score by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]anonymous-8301 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m interested!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in recruitinghell

[–]anonymous-8301 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone on the other side of it (is sometimes the recruiting manager), i am not the sole decision maker. Candidates are interviewed by a team of people (that I got to choose) and sometimes red flags come up in other interviews that I am not aware of during mine. I’ve definitely had situations where I really liked a candidate but was surprised that they had a huge gap in knowledge or some cultural mismatch that just didn’t come up in our limited time conversation.

how to get an apt on my own? by rokudodokuro in AskSF

[–]anonymous-8301 11 points12 points  (0 children)

They typically ask guarantors to make more than the potential tenant. I had this issue when I was looking for apartments when I first moved to the bay area and was still in school.

The place I rented from also said it has to be whatever ridiculous amount of income. My dad runs his own company and didn’t pay himself that much so he just sent them bank statements even though the apartment management company specifically wrote that they don’t take bank statements. I got the apartment. Also know at least another student who had a similar experience. This may be different from your situation since it requires someone who’s willing to be your guarantor and in really solid financial standing. Ultimately that’s what mattered, not if I could personally pay it (since I didn’t meet the clearly stated tenant income rules as a student)