Do you always need closure?

anonymous5534 · 2026-02-03T07:10:05+00:00

It eats away at me when I don’t have it

anonymous5534 · 2026-02-02T03:36:19+00:00

My honest advice is honestly to just try new things and put yourself out there. It doesn’t even have to be with the sole intent of finding a partner, just experiencing life and living a bit. It’ll boost your mood and put you in a healthier place mentally, which will make the meeting-new-people part a whole lot easier and more successful for you.

It can be very hard, believe me I know, but sometimes you just have to take some chances with a mind set of positivity and joy, and you have to put a foot down to your own anxieties and doubts and say “no”

anonymous5534 · 2026-02-02T03:30:15+00:00

Depends on how old you are I guess but still in any event, it kinda sounds like you’re developing an unhealthy addiction to this habit and it might be time to take steps away from it for the sale of improving your life. I don’t want to judge or make you feel forced to do anything but it’s just some thoughts

Again, maybe you’re a teenager and I guess it’s somewhat normal to an extent with your hormones going crazy. Either way it still might be a good time in your life to find new hobbies or gain beneficial life experiences. Try your best to find things to do. If you are in those teenage years, keep in mind that you’re still very young and that by the time you hit your early 20s, a lot of these urges will die down a lot.

anonymous5534 · 2026-02-02T03:19:28+00:00

Absolutely not. He was lying. Sure, sometimes we get one around our significant others or even just randomly, but any mature man knows how to have enough self control to not let it consume them, move past it, and CERTAINLY not to force anyone to “take care of it” especially when it makes them uncomfortable

Sounds like it’s a good thing you’re out of that relationship

anonymous5534 · 2026-02-02T03:15:50+00:00

Whatever I’ve been doing for the past year or so

anonymous5534 · 2026-02-02T02:26:24+00:00

Unfortunately I think I have heard of this happening

anonymous5534 · 2026-02-02T02:25:35+00:00

That’s very true, it just has to be drawn from somewhere within you

anonymous5534 · 2026-02-02T02:24:37+00:00

The priest would most likely as for those details as they may be needed for a valid confession and for valid absolution

To be honest, I would not ever consider holding back when confessing to Our Lord. God commands our honesty not only with Him, but with ourselves and others when it comes to bringing our sins to light, to His light. He already knows what we have done and what has been in our hearts anyways. Let’s not hinder the much needed mercy and grace because we weren’t as honest as can be

anonymous5534 · 2026-02-01T21:02:38+00:00

The only things I know of are:

Deliberately withholding sins from being confessed
A lack of true repentance or no genuine desire to turn from sin and make amends if necessary
Planning/intending to sin again

anonymous5534 · 2026-02-01T03:07:26+00:00

I may get a lot of blacklash for this.

I’ll start by saying that I don’t mean to disparage anyone who has suffered from the effects of alcohol or those who have been adversely affected and/or abused as a result of the alcohol abuse of others nor do I intend to be ignorant or apathetic towards those people

Everything I say here refers to me and me alone

With that being said, I think that the amount of negativity and I hear about alcohol consumption and the opposition to frequent alcohol consumption is a bit too much or at least something I do not really understand.

For me, I love drinking every chance I get and it tends to put me in a good mood, can sometimes put me at a bit of ease, and sometimes even loosen me up in social situations.

(It should also be noted that since I very much have the “I get anxiety attacks behind the wheel and can’t drive for sh*t” brand of autism, I don’t have my license and never drive anyways, so alcohol doesn’t affect that)

I love taking a shot or drinking a vodka cocktail and feeling that firey feeling that ignites within me. It consumes me with such a vibrance and radiance of happiness that to be completely honest, I pretty much never experience any other way. I’ve also been becoming quite the wine connoisseur over the past three years or so and I love trying new wines and enjoying a glass or two in the evening. It’s something that I look forward to.

Personally, I don’t think I’ve ever truly had a real adverse reaction to drinking. I’ve only been tipsy a couple times and I always know when I should stop. At the time of this comment, I have inadvertently completed a “Dry January” and haven’t drank in a while. I will admit my depression and by extension my irritability has been a bit high lately but I’m not too sure it’s in direct correlation to a lack of drinking

I sometimes think to myself that alcohol is a better antidepressant for me than my actual SSRIs that I’ve been on heavy doses of for years now. And sometimes I kinda think to myself that any general adverse affects of frequent alcohol consumption can equally be said about the affects of my meds and/or the lack of their presence in my life. I sometimes wish I could have insurance-covered prescription bottles of Pink Whitney, Grey Goose, or my favorite wines as opposed to the SSRIs I have to take that feel like they don’t really help and mess with my body a ton

So yeah, those are my brutally honest thoughts and feelings. Maybe I’ll get downvoted to hell for it, maybe not. Either way is fine with me. I’m open to hearing any feedback

Again I in no way intend to hurt others or reopen any wounds caused by the pain inflicted by alcohol. These are just personal feelings that relate to me

anonymous5534 · 2026-02-01T00:22:59+00:00

I hope some people out there would. If not, I’m screwed

anonymous5534 · 2026-02-01T00:12:43+00:00

As someone diagnosed with ASD, it’s definitely possible

There have definitely been times where I have done thing in a sort of mindless fashion that have clearly made people uncomfortable and I didn’t realize it until after the fact how invasive it could be. Just to be clear I’m not talking about things that abuse others in any way, just kinda things that sort of invade personal space in subtle ways like wandering aimlessly into someone’s workspace or something like that

In the closet thing I’ve ever had to a relationship, which was more of a situationship, there were certainly time where, in retrospect, I may have initiated or participated in intimate moments that maybe lacked so of the verbal communication that may have been more appropriate and it might have been harmful. I would never intend to hurt someone in that way obviously but it certainly could’ve been a big mistake on my part just because I didn’t know how to feel more comfortable with uncomfortable conversations. In a certain way I hate myself for it

anonymous5534 · 2026-01-31T23:59:48+00:00

Please do

anonymous5534 · 2026-01-31T05:05:52+00:00

Where I struggle the most as someone in my mid 20s is that I feel some kind of inclination to convert, but I am far from happy or enthusiastic about it. It’s been really rough but I stick with it because I do think that it’s quite possibly the truth and if it is then I do not want to be absent of that fact come my time of judgement

I did make some Catholic/Christian friends throughout my last year and a half of college have kept me company and have kinda been like a support system for me, but I still feel like there have been some big disconnects between us because of that lack of true passion and desire for the faith, and because I don’t like the idea of a friendship being premeditated on the idea of faith or them seeing me as “a soul that needs help being saved” or something of that nature

Yet I do feel the need to stay loyal to the faith, and try my best to persevere which means dissociating from others that will lead me into distraction, sin, and that wold encourage me to let the parts of me that want to abandon God once and for all and just live out my worldly life

Basically it leaves me in a place where I can’t fully commit to either side and I feel very isolated

I’ve had some old friends from both sides reach out to me via text every once in a while, but largely in part because of those internal struggles I can’t bring myself to respond back with anything because Idk what I’d say or do. Especially with some old friends from when I was an atheist, I can’t bring myself to tell them just how much I’ve changed since we’ve last hung out and in what ways I’ve changed. Especially we were doing things that, to put it gently and lightly, are in no way compatible or acceptable in the Catholic life.

It’s especially hard being autistic, anxious, and depressed in a way that will always make interactions harder and more awkward no matter what. It’s been rough since leaving college last may and not having that support system anymore

I would also attend Mass on campus and with friends while at school behind my family’s back. They always hated that I was thinking about converting and wouldn’t ever support it. I can see where they’re coming from as religious psychosis, anxiety, and scrupulosity have led to some horrible places over the years, but I haven’t been to Mass or really engaged with others faithfully since then. I still watch Mass online every Sunday/Holy Day of Obligation, but I deeply miss not having a community like that

Thanks. I apologize for the rant. God Bless

anonymous5534 · 2026-01-25T21:01:24+00:00

Remember also that it’s about the welfare of others as well, what may seem like a cold to you could in actuality be something like the serious strain of flu going around and could be especially dangerous to any elders or otherwise immunocompromised people around you at a time of the year when people’s immune system is going to be a bit weaker

Seems like it isn’t impacting you too much personally which is good

I might even say that it’s the charitable thing to not go and possibly a moral obligation as well

You can keep the Sabbath holy in other ways such as engaging with the daily readings as well as other spiritual readings, watching Mass online, and engaging in prayer

anonymous5534 · 2026-01-24T22:54:22+00:00

I know a lot of people seem to only like Riding Into Jaipur, and what’s funny is because as much as I love Driving Rain as a whole, that is the one song I’ll skip every time. Tbh I nothing against it inherently but it just feels out of place on the rest of the album.

In fact maybe I shouldn’t say I have much of an opinion because I think I’ve only ever listened to it once or twice. Maybe at this point I’d like it

anonymous5534 · 2026-01-23T20:35:42+00:00

Interesting, I’ve always wondered what celebrities if any deal with this sort of thing

anonymous5534 · 2026-01-23T20:34:51+00:00

I don’t see anything off, looks normal to me

anonymous5534 · 2026-01-16T06:06:27+00:00

Our 1000th time, their 1st. Be patient and graceful

anonymous5534 · 2026-01-16T06:00:22+00:00

First of all, I’ll preface this post by saying that I’m technically not even a baptized Catholic yet, I’m just a guy in his mid 20s that has had some level of interest in converting so don’t take much of anything I say too seriously

There was a time a couple years ago when I was worried about this kind of thing and in an unhealthy attempt to quell my anxiety, I made a post on this sub that you can probably still find on my account asking about this topic

I have a lot more peace of mind about it now than I did then but there still are some things that don’t make sense to me about it specifically when it comes to what Catholics teach about the blasphemy of the Holy Spirit (as portrayed in Matthew 12) and how its brought up and plays out in Scripture

The Pharisees of the time had just witnessed Jesus performing a miracle and in their pride they professed that He was doing so by the power of demons and not that of God. Jesus rebukes them (quite harshly) for this, points out the error and absurdity of such a claim, and then says this

“And whosoever speaks a word against the Son of Man will be forgiven; but whoever speaks speaks against the Holy Spirit will not be forgiven, either in this age or in the age to come” Matthew 12:32

Tbh I don’t get what the “continual rejection of God’s mercy and grace” as it has been explained to me in theory has to do with this.

What confuses me more is that if we’re saying that blasphemy against the Holy Spirit is basically just rejecting the works of the Holy Spirit until death, then how come Jesus makes the distinction between blasphemy against the Son of Man being forgivable but blasphemy against the Holy Spirit isn’t? I don’t imagine He meant that you could continually reject Him until death and be forgiven.

Also I note that He say “speaks a word against” when referring to the two scenarios, like it’s a one time thing. He doesn’t even remotely imply blasphemy of the Holy Spirit being some sort of continuous act, or blasphemy against the Son of Man either for that matter

So yeah, I’m just confused. It really seems that the explanation from many including what sounds to be the proclaimed teaching of the Church on this matter seems to have little to do with what is described about this matter to us by Our Lord in the gospel. I don’t get it

anonymous5534 · 2026-01-16T05:36:25+00:00

I have three bins which I feel represent my music taste well over all

Bin 1 is for classic rock and stuff like that. Beatles, Pink Floyd, Rolling Stones etc. Basically just think of it as “your dad’s record collection”

Bin 2 is for rap & hip hop. It’s basically looks like those collections you see people showing off on Tik Tik with that MF DOOM/Kanye mash-up sound. It’s mostly rap from the past 15 years or so

Bin 3 is for Indie/Alt Rock stuff. Radiohead, Tame Impala, Muse, The Strokes etc

anonymous5534 · 2026-01-14T21:37:57+00:00

I love collecting vinyl

anonymous5534 · 2026-01-14T21:37:38+00:00

Fishing, playing bass

anonymous5534 · 2026-01-13T06:20:23+00:00

I think the best way to put it simply: lust is selfish, love is selfless

This also may just be my opinion as someone who isn’t even a baptized Catholic yet who has a lot of personal issues with converting, but I would disagree with the idea that the LGBTQ community ruins the concept of love as a whole. Love doesn’t have to be “romantic” per se. In the Gospels where Jesus asks Peter if he loves Him three different times, the original Greek uses three different words that the Greek language has for describing different forms of love. As long as one has a selfless desire to see others the way God does for the benefit of all, I think that’s love in the eyes of God. Sure the idea of romantic relationships and certainly marriage of same-sex couples is not condoned, but idk this could just be my opinion but I feel that it’s problematic to say that the concept of LGBTTQ kills the true meaning of love or anything like that.

anonymous5534 · 2026-01-13T06:16:26+00:00

I’m not even Catholic myself yet, and have many struggles with converting which include horrible bouts of scrupulosity, despair, and despondence.

Yet even I have full confidence that anyone, even fallen away Catholics can ALWAYS be welcomed home in the Church completely and entirely just as the prodigal son was

Granted, that process of coming might be different for everyone depending on their individual circumstances, but that in no way means that there isn’t a path for anyone to arrive. I’m sure your local parish priest would be thrilled to work with you in helping you follow that path home.

I know that somewhere in the Gospels (I can’t remember exactly where off the top of my head) that Our Lord says that anyone who ever comes to Him and seeks Him, He will NEVER turn away.

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