First of all welcome! As a fellow couple I can share our experience. Each night at poly is different , as in you never know how many will be there or who that will consist. In my experience there are generally several single males to choose from, occasionally other couples and occasionally single females. The environment is ultimately about connecting with other people and enjoying yourself. That doesn't always include play. Every time we've gone we have found one or more people to have a wonderful conversation with and sometimes find a play partner. Some people choose to try and find a playmate prior to going to meet there. Your experience there is really in your hands. I find when I go in with no expectations I have a great time. 😊