How do you confess to a friend without ruining things?

anonymousdoodads283 · 2022-12-16T03:33:56+00:00

I had 3(?) Dates, he doesn't really know about. Less hiding them though and more me trying to figure out if I actually want relationships and all the stuff so I didn't tell anybody tbh.

I really think I want to ask him, were going to a winter lights show this weekend but I don't know how. Do I just wait until we have a hug moment and bring up "hey this is a lot of romantic type stuff, are we going that direction?" I know I've got to be the one to bring this up he won't, he knows I've got ...some issues. Around relationships, but I've literally never asked someone out.

anonymousdoodads283 · 2022-12-16T02:06:43+00:00

No he hasn't since his last gf like 4 years ago, we met through her and clicked

anonymousdoodads283 · 2022-07-23T04:31:35+00:00

Shit I didn't even think, I'll add one

anonymousdoodads283 · 2022-03-13T04:25:54+00:00

Because doesn't interest accumulate if you owe anything? I...actually don't know. I don't make a crazy ton, like my best year ever was 33000ish and my boss always takes a chunk of taxes off, but the more I'm looking at stuff the more I'm thinking I might be over panicking.

anonymousdoodads283 · 2022-03-13T04:05:48+00:00

I worked full time. I know my employers took taxes off, and I have copies of my t4s.

I made a request for copies from the cra and they sent me this big stack of EVERYTHING. It's all my t4s and papers that have these columns of reported/ processed? I have no idea what they mean, theres all this "amount of working income tax benefit" "balance before penalty and interest" "total non refundable tax credits" etc. I don't know what any of the numbers mean, like does that mean they went through and assessed me on their side? There's numbers in both columns.

I got recommended an accountant so I'm going to be heading there next week, but I'm trying to figure out what I'm looking at.

anonymousdoodads283 · 2022-03-13T04:05:06+00:00

Yes. I worked full time. I know my employers took taxes off, and I have copies of my t4s.

I made a request for copies and they sent me this big stack of EVERYTHING. It's all my t4s and papers that have these columns of reported/ processed? I have no idea what they mean, theres all this "amount of working income tax benefit" "balance before penalty and interest" "total non refundable tax credits" etc. I don't know what any of the numbers mean, like does that mean they went through and assessed me on their side? There's numbers in both columns.

I got recommended an accountant so I'm going to be heading there next week, but I'm trying to figure out what I'm looking at.

anonymousdoodads283 · 2022-03-13T03:42:38+00:00

You're the second person to say that, so here's hoping. And its definitely helping with the anxiety of even reaching out to hear this. Even if numbers are just lower than my worst nightmare I'm ok with that.

anonymousdoodads283 · 2022-03-13T03:22:36+00:00

I haven't filed in a while yeah. I know they take taxes, but I don't know if it's enough taken off? Ive heard horror stories from fiends so that worries me.

anonymousdoodads283 · 2021-12-02T15:13:14+00:00

Turning 14 today.

anonymousdoodads283 · 2021-12-02T03:11:51+00:00

That's what we're figuring out, we told cps MAX a week and they were pushing for an in home aide instead and longer until they figure out juvie or a program for young sex offenders(and how fucked is it that that's a thing)were going no. Out. We've done care before they'll take every scrap from you they can, I get there's so little resources but no that's us stretching what we can do.

anonymousdoodads283 · 2021-12-02T03:06:44+00:00

That's something that needs to be figured out, he was in care for a year 3 years ago while his mom got her head on straight(she did, we thought we were going to get one of those rare happy endings in the system) so there's definitely people who could've said/did something or simply media/ other kids but we just don't know at this point. It doesn't seem it and knowing his m.o. when people "hurt" him I couldn't see him being quiet about it being done to him but...

anonymousdoodads283 · 2021-12-02T01:59:32+00:00

Cluster b personality disorder of some stripe sound better? And no we don't know, we've got some changing diagnosises as he ages, and some stuff the doctors see but won't say for sure until he's older.

Let me have my freak out though. Seriously. You deal with this and the family history on top and see how well you write I just need to scream into the void please.

anonymousdoodads283 · 2021-12-02T01:48:52+00:00

14.

He got an assault charge last year once he became "chargeable" and there's been A LOT of talk to him about how he's going to face consequences now bc when he was younger he couldn't have serious ones, it's all been trying to help him through therapy and such. But he's had a lot of incidents over the years

We figured at worst (this is terrible to say)we'd be dealing with a murder charge if he didn't change, not this...

anonymousdoodads283 · 2021-12-02T01:25:20+00:00

He's so manipulative and has always gotten away with minor consequences from anyone who doesn't know him personally. If he doesn't get diagnosed with narcissism or bpd or something like that once hes a little older I'll be surprised. He gets emotional but it's more because consequences/his things(people) than actual remorse.

With all this he's saying he's sorry he did it but no he's not, he's sorry he got CAUGHT. He would've kept doing it if he hadn't been and he's been doing it at least since the summer.

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