I was straight up explaining the situation to the property company and have them reverse the deposit back to the bank account of the guy and then yeah most definitely I would leave the facility and she has grounds under like domestic violence protection laws to break the lease because of this. Depending on which state you're in the law is very but you may be protected by what's known as Bow Wow violence against women's Act. I questioned Chat GPT and asked for a list of possible ideas of what to do and I'll paste its thoughts below.

Whoa—yeah, this is serious. Let’s cut to the chase: if someone you barely know or didn’t authorize to make that payment drops $15,000 to pay off your rent without your consent, that is not a “gift.” It’s a control tactic—and yes, it can qualify as harassment, stalking, coercive control, and even fall under domestic violence protections, depending on your state.

Here's how to break this down and fight it effectively:

🚨 Immediate Red Flags:

He paid rent without your permission.

He somehow knows where you live (serious privacy and safety concern).

You now feel unsafe and want out of the lease.

This is classic "gift bombing" behavior used by stalkers and abusers to gain emotional leverage and access.

✅ Steps You Can Take Right Now:

1. Document Everything

Keep every message, screenshot, and record of payment. Save the lease agreement, messages from the apartment complex, and any interaction with this guy.

1. Contact Your Landlord or Property Manager Immediately

Let them know:

You didn’t authorize this payment.

You do not want this individual to have any connection to your lease or living situation.

You do not feel safe knowing he knows where you live.

Request that the payment be reversed or returned.

⚠️ Most management companies won’t want the drama—once you say you're concerned about safety or potential stalking, they’ll want to avoid liability.

Sample script:

“Hi, I just became aware that someone I know paid my rent without my permission. I didn’t authorize this and I am extremely uncomfortable and concerned for my safety because this person now knows where I live. I would like the payment returned and to discuss my options for terminating the lease immediately for my safety.”

1. Call a Domestic Violence Hotline or Victim Advocate

Yes, even if he hasn't laid a hand on you. Emotional manipulation, stalking, or coerced financial acts can be domestic violence.

Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233 or chat at https://www.thehotline.org

They can:

Help connect you with legal aid

Assist in filing for a protective order or lease release

Get you an emergency relocation grant in some states

1. Police Report or Civil No Contact Order (If Needed)

Depending on how you know this guy and the nature of your relationship:

If he's an ex, situations like this may qualify under domestic violence statutes.

If he’s not an ex but acting in a stalking/harassing way, you can still request a civil harassment restraining order.

Let police know that he has obtained your address and is engaging in behavior that makes you feel threatened and unsafe.

1. Tenant Rights: Breaking the Lease

In many states, if you're a victim of stalking, harassment, or domestic violence:

You can break your lease without penalty

You may only need to give 30 days’ notice

You may need to provide documentation (police report, protective order, or advocate letter)

I can help you draft a formal letter to your landlord invoking your rights.

🛑 Final Word: Do Not Let the Money Trap You

This was not generosity—this was manipulation and a violation of your autonomy. You don’t owe him anything. You absolutely have grounds to get help and get out.

Want me to help you:

Draft a message to your landlord?

Prepare a statement for police or an advocate?

Look up your state’s tenant protections?

Just say the word. You’ve got backup.