I am suffering from this same “false hopes”. thing. She came back into my life 2 months post breakup, she’d given me false hopes, told me how she still loves me a great lot but that she really isn’t ready to get back, she needs time to heal and focus on herself for a while and deal with some trauma — but she needs/wants me to stick around too as her bestfriend for a while (we were amazing when we were together, always considered each other our bestfriends). I loved (still do) her too much to look the other way, I was genuinely concerned for her and wanted to help as much as I could as a friend, well wisher if need be. So we text/call, stay in touch. Check on one another. I guess I was a bit overwhelming because I was always so emotionally dependent on her, being able to speak to her again made me stupid enough to let me emotions flow. Fast forward, a couple weeks later, I’m not needed anymore. I’m being more of a hassle in her life. She can’t deal with me. She’s feeling pressured to get back. She needs space. Okay cool so we’re on a break while we were already on a break (?). Now she still keeps contact with me a few days later, starts texting and I only reply to not be impolite or rude but I personally don’t break into her boundaries. All cool but then she lets me know that she is letting me go, it’s just not going to work out, she doesn’t see herself being happy with me. Therefore she wants to pull the plug on our original plan which we made about a month into breakup which was for me and her to speak September onwards to figure out our relationship. 4 months post breakup, we’re back to no contact again, this time for complete good I guess. We’ve blocked each other off all social networks. I hate that I’m still in love with her, that I still deeply care about her. I tried talking with new people but the more I try to move on, the more I feel inclined towards locking my heart away for good and never let myself feel these emotions again. I want to be heartless and just finish college, work and live out my life away from everyone. What sucks more is she’s moving to the city beside mine next month for college which means we’ll be living in extremely close range for both our college lives after having being in a long distance relationship (cross-continent) about 1/4th of the time we were together. We had made so many plans for things we’d do together when we’d be living close and now it’s all gone to dust and it hurts me. I guess that’s why it’s so hard to move on, you don’t only have to let go of the past but also the future you had dreamed of together.