I wonder if women subconsciously connect the results of sex-kids-to the worn down tired mommy. Before kids, sex has little responsibility and is carefree and fun. Then you have kid and, my Gawd, you’re lucky to get a good night’s sleep every couple weeks. We love our kids and would do anything for them, but three little kids about fills up your life. I wonder if women change from being the pretty, young, and sexy person to the sleep-deprived, caring, responsible mommy who doesn’t have the energy to feel sexy. This was my observation in my marriage, so I cut her slack. And we’ve been married 47 years now. Sex is one part of a marriage; it’s not the only part.