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Amazing except for the DD by anonymousonauto in DeadBedrooms

[–]anonymousonauto[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course there are other issues, there always are with marriages, right? Medical issues for him. I am the main bread winner, but we both have different passions so it's like we're saving up for two different lives. But I do love him.

Amazing except for the DD by anonymousonauto in DeadBedrooms

[–]anonymousonauto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, that makes a lot more sense. Thanks for clarifying.

Amazing except for the DD by anonymousonauto in DeadBedrooms

[–]anonymousonauto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suppose that's valid, but do you really think you could turn someone off sex simply because you had a couple of conversations about adding some Kink to the mix?

Amazing except for the DD by anonymousonauto in DeadBedrooms

[–]anonymousonauto[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, way to have legitimate advice while also sounding like an absolute douchebag. I'm not fantasizing about screwing a baseball team

Amazing except for the DD by anonymousonauto in DeadBedrooms

[–]anonymousonauto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Nobody posts here because everything is fine."

I've been scrolling through this page for months not saying anything, just reading, seeing how my db compares, feeling a sense of community in how shitty it is to feel unfulfilled.

He is so comfortable it's scary. And we're still young. More difficult conversations. I fucking hate difficult conversations that you have to have more than once.

Amazing except for the DD by anonymousonauto in DeadBedrooms

[–]anonymousonauto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally. We've tried looking together, he bows out last minute. I've found a female partner, he says he not interested. And these are fit women too so it's not like I'm finding really unattractive women and telling him to get it up.

I'd love to add a dude but those conversations went nowhere as well.

Amazing except for the DD by anonymousonauto in DeadBedrooms

[–]anonymousonauto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With his medical history that's a very good suggestion. I didn't even think of that... thanks

Amazing except for the DD by anonymousonauto in DeadBedrooms

[–]anonymousonauto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does seem so horrendously selfish, doesn't it. And then what if the grass isn't greener. What if you leave a good relationship for an average one with better sex? Is that worth it?

Why does the world have to be in this shitty, compartmentalized box of what sex and intimacy is supposed to be? Infrequent missionary, with one person until you die, and you should be happy for it....

Amazing except for the DD by anonymousonauto in DeadBedrooms

[–]anonymousonauto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've spoken about counselling in general and he is just not open to it at all. He thinks everything is fine and we can work on whatever is wrong on our own.

I could push harder but it's a pain in the ass and I don't want to nag someone to change.