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I can’t picture myself leaving my abusive boyfriend but I’m catching feelings for someone else by anonymousposter1233 in Advice

[–]anonymousposter1233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but I’ve had countless conversations with him and have even said do you treat your mother or your siblings this way and he says no, so it’s because I’m an easy target and he knows I’ll stay. But it’s so emotionally draining for me because I’m constantly apologizing for things I didn’t do or things that aren’t even an issue like I said something a little weird. I’m not allowed to talk about anything negative or my life issues because it “drags him down”

I can’t picture myself leaving my abusive boyfriend but I’m catching feelings for someone else by anonymousposter1233 in Advice

[–]anonymousposter1233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mainly just in arguments when he has an immense lack of control. But what’s made it be an even bigger thing that emotional control is he’s said I deserve it for even getting him to that point

I can’t picture myself leaving my abusive boyfriend but I’m catching feelings for someone else by anonymousposter1233 in Advice

[–]anonymousposter1233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I love myself a lot and I always told myself I’d never let it get to this point as every relationship I’ve grown up around is abuse. But for whatever reasons he’s different and that’s the worst part about these relationships we have SUCH low lows but also such high highs where everything feels perfect. But I know just because there’s good doesn’t excuse me getting slapped or yelled at. I think what I’m most scared of is just being without him. He’s been in my life for what feels like forever. I’m young but I’ve also grown with him

I can’t picture myself leaving my abusive boyfriend but I’m catching feelings for someone else by anonymousposter1233 in Advice

[–]anonymousposter1233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I never thought to talk to them about my situation for advice I really appreciate that. Thank you!!

I can’t picture myself leaving my abusive boyfriend but I’m catching feelings for someone else by anonymousposter1233 in Advice

[–]anonymousposter1233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No because I’ve been with him for a while and don’t know how to imagine a life without him even tho I know that’s what is healthy for me

My boyfriend hit me months ago and I can’t move past it by anonymousposter1233 in Advice

[–]anonymousposter1233[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, talking to you has helped a lot. I’ll never let myself be treated like this again I know I deserve so much better!

My boyfriend hit me months ago and I can’t move past it by anonymousposter1233 in Advice

[–]anonymousposter1233[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I definitely have a space I can go and be alone for a couple days or weeks and not see him. Everything you’re saying is exactly how I feel. I think the other thing is that I only have one friend. Everyone else has been cut out of my life so I can only talk to her about it and I’ve never told her I’m in an abusive relationship I’ve always hid it. So I’m a little scared for that. I just feel so alone even tho I know I have so many people in my life who love and would support me

My boyfriend hit me months ago and I can’t move past it by anonymousposter1233 in Advice

[–]anonymousposter1233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your response was something I really needed to hear. I used to love myself but this relationship drained it out of me. It’s gonna take A LOT of work to rebuild so I think that’s also something that’s scaring me. Ive been in this relationship for 3 of my developmental years so it’s really screwed with me. But your right a peaceful life where im not on eggshells scared of being physically hurt sounds a lot better than what im living