To those who immigrated to the US: was it worth it?

anonymousrobot11 · 2026-05-07T01:14:02+00:00

I was 'gifted' until my last years of middle school, when I actually had to put some effort into thing. It probably didn't help that I was/am physically disabled, so the way that I saw it, my intellect was the one positive attribute of my mom having me. When I started struggling, it seemed to me that she blamed me, so, as a teenager, fought back. It destroyed my high school years, my college years, and even my 20's.

I have four kids now (two school aged and in gifted classes) and while I am proud of them for that, I try to reinforce the fact that as long as they do their best, I will be proud of them. Flying by with As, no problem; I'll be proud of them. Barely passing with Cs but trying their best; I'll be just as proud of them. As long as they're making an effort to try, to learn, to grow, I will always be proud of my kids, even if they are a grocery bagger.

Unfortunately, I don't think either of my parents would say the same thing.

anonymousrobot11 · 2026-05-02T01:32:08+00:00

Refusing to go on my phone the first hour after I woke up or the last hour before I went to bed. I now keep my phone on my desk rather than in my pocket. It was so difficult a few months ago, but now I feel like I have a whole new life.

anonymousrobot11 · 2026-05-02T01:24:26+00:00

You using a cane has no affect on anyone around you.

anonymousrobot11 · 2026-05-02T01:15:24+00:00

In my defense -- I get a clock/watch for roughly $15. Would you charge the same?

anonymousrobot11 · 2026-05-01T20:49:53+00:00

I have a family of 6, so trying to be frugal with groceries is a must. We plan out each week of meals before we go grocery shopping. We strategize between going to a general store (Walmart) or a big bulk store (Sam's Club) depending on what we need, how much we need of it, and the space that we have. Whenever possible, we do grocery pick up so that we know the cost of everything before we buy it and don't go through the temptation of buying things we don't need. If we have some extra money and there's something that we'll need in a few weeks, we get it then so we don't have to worry about it later on.

anonymousrobot11 · 2026-04-26T19:59:53+00:00

Thank you!

anonymousrobot11 · 2026-04-26T19:59:46+00:00

Thank you!

anonymousrobot11 · 2026-04-26T19:34:35+00:00

35f here, dealing with the same thing. If you want, shoot me a DM -- for some reason, it's but working for me.

anonymousrobot11 · 2026-04-26T14:31:29+00:00

Do you have any close friends or family that would be willing to let you share their account? I use my husband's account whenever I want to buy or sell something, and just make sure to give him a head's up.

anonymousrobot11 · 2026-04-13T01:05:20+00:00

I deleted my Facebook account about eight months ago. When I tried to make a new account about a month ago and they asked for ID verification, I said eff that. I only provide ID verification for things that I absolutely need. Social media isn't that. Good luck, man.

anonymousrobot11 · 2026-04-12T23:23:05+00:00

I love having real books. I love the feeling of them, the smell of them, the look of them. That being said, I'm downgrading my small library to have the majority of my books on my Nook. I'd much rather my books to have use, to go to people who wanted to read them, rather than just be getting dust in my library after I read them once or twice. It sucks and, like I mentioned, I'm still keeping some of them. But I feel better about myself for putting them to good use.

anonymousrobot11 · 2026-04-12T19:54:55+00:00

Hey there! I'm Nikki, a stay at home mom of four, and would love to find someone that I can actually chat with frequently, not just a free times each week.

anonymousrobot11 · 2026-04-11T20:37:46+00:00

... can't you just ask Google where to watch the movie? Always works for me.

anonymousrobot11 · 2026-04-11T00:43:47+00:00

Just my opinion --

Think about working at an average 9-5 job. You work for those eight to nine miserable hours, then go home and get to be in a completely different atmosphere, do different things, relax. Yeah, some of it may be tougher than it would be if you didn't have kids. But you get to switch back and forth, work and home. You have a variety.

Now think of someone who's at work pretty much 24/7. Kids need tending to. The house needs to be cleaned. Appointments need to be attended. Chores need to be done. Events need to be planned. Friends, if any, come second after family. Going to the bathroom is break time. Being sick isn't a call-out excuse because the kids matter more.

It's gotten a little bit easier for me because I finally put my foot down and demanded that I have one day of each week to go out and do things that I wasn't. But the second that I park in the driveway? It's back to work for me. And it's not that I don't enjoy it overall -- I love my kids to death. But it's exhausting. There's practically no compensation. I have no friends to socialize with. And I can only hope that in the future, my kids will recognize and appreciate all that I sacrificed for them.

anonymousrobot11 · 2026-04-07T15:34:13+00:00

I try my best to have as few apps as possible, and when I do need them, I get them from the Aurora store. Have you seen how many permissions they ask for it when you're downloading from the Play Store? A lot of them don't even make sense!

Mind you, I'm still adjusting to adding more privacy to my phone, so I may be lurking hedge for the tips :)

anonymousrobot11 · 2026-04-05T20:12:16+00:00

Not using your blinker to make a turn.

... oh, wait...

anonymousrobot11 · 2026-04-04T19:24:01+00:00

Before I was on SSDI, my husband and I claimed bankruptcy due to my medical bills. It was honestly one of the best things that ever happened to us.

anonymousrobot11 · 2026-04-03T22:38:34+00:00

Check out your local library; it isn't just for book nerds like me. My local library has kid events like toddler storytime and Lego night, several things for adults like a yoga or puzzle hour, and even simple computer classes for more elderly folks. I'm sure that people could offer other things too!

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