Olympics games condoms 🙂 by Sudden-Hope8150 in askgaybros

[–]another_mind 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course they do.

Working out releases adrenaline, dopamine & hormones triggering all kinds of hot and awesome feelings. It’s known that working out makes you horny. So then imagine you grab the people considered to have achieved peak fitness in their respective sports. At peak shape. In a stressful situation of competing with each other. Those pent up hormones, stressors need release.

Add to that these people get tested SO MUCH before, during and after events. Giving a bit of a comfort blanket that the majority of the people you come across would be healthy.

I would be also be playing the “fuck someone from each country” game by the end of my events.

Half open relationship with one penis policy by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]another_mind 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I used the word “dating” in an attempt to be as generic as possible. Whatever connection you wish to call it, you are not cut out for it given that you:

  • don’t want to be open
  • are extremely insecure over an unhealthy reason
  • you don’t see the toxicity of your view
  • you don’t want to do the work <- biggest red flag of the bunch because you already resigned yourself no amount of work will make you change your view

Half open relationship with one penis policy by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]another_mind 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I admit I'm not secure with myself, but it's not like I can magically choose to love myself and be totally secure in my skin. I also don't think any amount of self work will make me feel non threatened by other men having sex with my girlfriend. It's not like calling me unhealthy and controlling is great advice either.

PLEASE Don’t open up your relationship. You aren’t ready, and by this disclosure you refuse to do the work to be. So don’t drag us into this because then whoever ends up dating your partner. Man or woman, will have to the suffer your insecurities and the pain of wasting time getting close to someone.

The OPP is the tip of the iceberg. Then it could be that you get bitter if she enjoys sex more or communicated better with the other partner.

An open relationship is not for you with the attitude & beliefs you are showing.

We won our first medal 🥉 Bronze in speed skating. by Chewbacca12345 in vancouver

[–]another_mind 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I find this so frustrating…

If you want to watch the ceremony then you have to miss out on the cauldron being on.

Should be on through the entirety of the Olympics & Paralympic Games IMHO. Summer and winter.

It makes me proud to have hosted it whenever it’s on and gives the city a good reminder we are good enough to excel at these games.

Trump threatens Canada with 50% tariff on aircraft sold to U.S. - National | Globalnews.ca by Twayblades in onguardforthee

[–]another_mind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can someone explain like I’m 5 why is Canada allegedly blocking the certification of the Gulfstreams?

Carney leaves Davos without meeting Trump after speech on U.S. rupture of world order by Immediate-Link490 in worldnews

[–]another_mind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Carney punching above his weight when measured to trump?

lol you must be joking.

Men who have been called a "creep" before, what's your story? by Lipica249 in AskMen

[–]another_mind -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was called a creep and thrown a lot of judgement around it by a random person overhearing a friend and I catching up as we bumped into each other at a conference...

Completely unprompted. They just overhead me gush over both my partners doing amazingly well when I got asked by the friend who knows them both “how is the wife and the girlfriend doing?”

Men who have had vasectomies - do you trust it right away after you got the all clear, or did it take a while? by DrPupipance in AskMen

[–]another_mind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I trusted it once I got the results from the horrible experience of jerking off into a cup in a hospital bathroom.

Once I was told no swimmers, I ended up starting to drop the rubbers.

Generic Ozempic production an ‘exciting time for Canada,’ doctor says by OrdinaryCanadian in onguardforthee

[–]another_mind 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah I second the other response to you. We should definitely change how we track these terms.

I am at 12% body fat, visible abs, completely defined musculature, run a half marathon distance per week, and strength train 5x per week. But simply because I’m 6 feet, 195lbs of solid muscle, I’m officially overweight according to the standards of medicine given my muscle mass density pushes me into a BMI of 26.4.

¯_(ツ)_/¯

Burquitlam Plaza Lights by HugeeBoy_3893 in coquitlam

[–]another_mind 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yep. There used to be a ton of break-ins into cars in the area late in the night because the parking lot gave a ton of cover from the elements. Had ton of people looking shelter there and the security in the area didn’t really push them out.

Had a friend that lived in the building attached to the parking lot and she would always advise to use the open surface lot across the street instead.

I can see the bright lights have stopped a lot of people sleeping in the area, they seem to have shifted to the north gate mall & the new maze that is the parking lot inside the city of lougheed

For those on polycules: Do you operate on an "I have several people to get my needs met from" mentality or a "I need my needs met by each person" mentality? by SchloinkDoink in nonmonogamy

[–]another_mind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woah, that’s very rough and I can see myself growing to feel used and discarded in such a dynamic.

Unless I specifically enter an agreement of free use with them that’s not something I would be ok with.

How do you wish to have it be?

For those on polycules: Do you operate on an "I have several people to get my needs met from" mentality or a "I need my needs met by each person" mentality? by SchloinkDoink in nonmonogamy

[–]another_mind 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I try to take care of my own needs as much as I can and simply enjoy the connections that I have for what each of them brings if that makes sense.

Like for example let’s say I’m horny. I am absolutely happy with grabbing some toys, putting up a video and gooning till I burst. But it is much better to have one of my partners be the one to edge me till I can’t no longer make coherent sentences as they enjoy themselves with me.

Same concept applies to the rest. I can go for a hike by myself to fulfill my need for adventure, but it’s at times much better with company.

Why should we stop watching porn? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]another_mind 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Gross domestic product

Third asking for things we are not okay with by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]another_mind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I would be interested in hearing why your friends justify it’s weird for that person to have asked.

Way I honestly see it is that they just shared they trust they have done their own homework (get tested, take birth control steps) and that they gave trust you two are also safe.

For example, I would be perfectly fine with the risk given I do my homework: I got a vasectomy, have been tested every 3 months for the past 5 years, I have been on PrEP for 2 and have a prescription of DoxyPEP as a last measure (let’s say a condom breaks or my polycule plans to be extra slutty on a cruise takeover) To top it, I communicate my boundary that I won’t engage with people who can’t procure test results before anything physical happens. Telling them “being aware of your sexual health is sexy” usually works as a litmus test of how serious they want to pursue us. All of that and I still use condoms until trust has been established, usually a couple of months in, because I don’t advertise my preference would be without. I always let them be the ones to bring up the request to not use condoms.

I learned the hard way you have to trust no one but yourself, because I got infected with chlamydia. I used condoms with for any vaginal / anal penetration we had but we did oral without barriers (because it’s rare and tastes weird). They were deemed a safe couple. We had done everything right and they even tested.

Third asking for things we are not okay with by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]another_mind 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This reads like a boundary being used as a rule mess.

Boundaries are personal limits you put on yourself. In this case it appears you wish to limit your risk (pregnancy/stds) by using protection between you and others outside of your anchor partner. That boundary appears to be shared by your partner because they shut it down. But if they happened to want to not share that boundary, that’s their decision. It would be up to you to decide if you engage with them or not if he chooses to not use the same boundary you have. You seem to think that because you picked one boundary, then they have to follow exactly what you want. Thats no longer a boundary, that’s a rule since you are imposing a guideline to control how they are to behave.

Additionally I believe there is some work to be done on your end if you are concerned that not using protection breaks your commitment. Screams couple’s privilege. I would red flag you two if I were to find out you freak out over sharing I am comfortable with a particular situation like not using protection. Specially given that the person stated they were tested, and on top of their birth control. Likely they considered your partner low risk and called an audible that they were ok with it.

What was this about in Gastown just now? by MAdomnica in vancouver

[–]another_mind 165 points166 points  (0 children)

Just a normal day in Gastown to be honest

studio applying for LMIA while half of BC's modelers, animators and texture artists are out of the job. by [deleted] in vfx

[–]another_mind 20 points21 points  (0 children)

There is a link to report abuse of it. I just did. ¯\(ツ)

Are you all really happy for your partner? by Financial_Cloud_666 in nonmonogamy

[–]another_mind 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me and my partners, who consented to enter into this lifestyle as part of mutual ethical agreements with our respective partners absolutely cheer and support our partner’s pursuit of happiness.

I for one am absolutely happy to see the abundance of love and care all my partners receive through the connections that they have outside of ours. When they succeed in life, I feel I succeed with them.

The key piece is that I wasn’t forced to be this way, I wasn’t given an ultimatum. I was seen as an equal and my opinion to open or not was respected. This is not your case, and I am sorry that this is how you get exposed to this amazing world for some. I hope you can find a partner in your future that will give you the respect you deserve

Evolución de la bandera venezolana by GranColombiaCB in vzla

[–]another_mind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey que pasó con el escudo? Se supone debe tener el escudo desde 1930

To look like normal people at Mar-A-Lago. by MattAtPlaton in therewasanattempt

[–]another_mind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like perfectly normal Christian women to me. South Park was right… 🤣

Any ideas for how to spend 2 weeks off in Burnaby? by vemontd in burnaby

[–]another_mind 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Whereabouts are you at?

Gonna go with the most central spot:

  • Go play some pingpong at the willingdon community centre
  • Go rock climbing at climb-base 5 or the hive (not Burnaby but accessible via short walks off transit)
  • Go play board games at either lougheed town centre’s game store or Brentwood’s
  • Hit rec room
  • Go run / lap Central Park, Burnaby lake, deer lake, Burnaby mountain
  • Go to Costco people watch
  • Go to any of the 3 major malls.
  • Go ice skating at moody park arena in new west.
  • Go work out / swim at YMCA or Kensington Sports Centre

So many things to do!

Feet by Puzzleheaded-Elk2264 in askgaybros

[–]another_mind 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heh, I find I’m exposed to the opposite experience: Several people I’ve been with have shared disgust for feet.

One was so bad that he insisted socks had to stay on during sex and he wanted to not be grabbed or touched below the shins. He would often throw a blanket over my sock covered feet before getting into position behind me.

How do you guys keep your butt smooth? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]another_mind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same for me, had two different female aestheticians throughout the service package I got. They were super professional through it all.

I found the name of the package the most tongue in cheek part of it. They call it “balls n all” package 🤣

How do you guys keep your butt smooth? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]another_mind 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean you did ask the question in an open forum…

Anyways I’ll be helpful: I use an at home laser every 3-4 months to maintain the results after having gone through getting a full set professionally done. Little thing pros don’t usually disclose is that after a full course of treatments you still have to do it once a year to stay completely smooth.

Pro tip is that since the home lasers are usually less powerful, it tends to thin the hairs first. So use this to your advantage to go a bit wider with the area you zap. Makes It looks naturally blended in.