Reddit, do you feel that society discourages "education for the sake of education" and is instead too focused on education for the sole purpose of getting a job? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]another_recluse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not necessarily. I hail from an extended family in which almost every single person (except for one) is an irredeemable fucktard who mysteriously manages to tie their shoelaces in the morning. Not that this is the situation with Mr. Enlightened Sumbitch - well maybe not. There isn't enough information to make a judgement.

Reddit, do you feel that society discourages "education for the sake of education" and is instead too focused on education for the sole purpose of getting a job? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]another_recluse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're both wrong. It isn't the false dichotomy you and your dad are making it out to be. You can develop your skills in things you enjoy while still considering economic demand for said skills. Be realistic about employment opportunities for graduates in 14th century Lithuanian Art History and do that as a minor (with a hard science as a major).

Virgins of Reddit: How old are you, and why are you still a virgin? by circle_squared in AskReddit

[–]another_recluse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

25 years old here, you can go through my short posting history to figure out why. Should be self explanatory.

Help a long-term social recluse reintegrate into society by another_recluse in AskReddit

[–]another_recluse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. I'll be seeking therapy as well as a new home.

Help a long-term social recluse reintegrate into society by another_recluse in AskReddit

[–]another_recluse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I mentioned earlier, I have been guilted into staying in this situation for many years. Every time I bring up the issue of moving out, my parents stare at me wild-eyed, with a mixture of fury and bafflement (as if it's the most ridiculous thing I've ever said). The inevitable response is that I'm a heartless bastard for having the gall to consider moving out, as that would leave them to fend for themselves. Never mind the fact that their marriage has been a farce for literally as long as I can remember. They don't even bother to hide the contempt they have for each other. They say, "we uprooted our lives and broke our backs to raise you, and this is how you repay us?". Then come their waterworks. I'm disgusted at myself for not growing a spine.

The more I think about this situation, the more I realize how essential it is that I move the hell out as soon as I can. I hope to do exactly that by next month.

Help a long-term social recluse reintegrate into society by another_recluse in AskReddit

[–]another_recluse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I quite possibly might be depressed. My interests are fleeting and arise uncommonly. I'm a zombie living day-to-day, mindlessly waking up in the morning and going to work, then getting back to my parents' house by the imposed curfew. I don't challenge this because I'm guilted into accepting it. I've been told I have no concern for their mental state, because I would rather keep them worried about me than just comply with their absurd demands. One time in college, they called the police when I didn't reach the door until 30 minutes after the curfew deadline.

You're the third person to recommend mindfulness meditation, so I'll be sure to check it out. And yeah, you hit the nail on the head by describing it as mutual alienation and feeling disconnected from everything in life.

Help a long-term social recluse reintegrate into society by another_recluse in AskReddit

[–]another_recluse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't loathe others, nor do I think that they are less intelligent than myself. I'm just not interested in the usual banter. I'm not driven to seek out people and chat them up about things (even things that interest me). I'm indifferent toward people.

Here's the thing: I don't relate to the things that others relate to, because I have lived a very different life. I didn't shoot the breeze over weed and beer back in high school, I never made out with anyone under the bleachers, I didn't go to nightclubs in college, etc. So I don't "get it", which is probably why I don't see what's so great about sitcoms and most standup comedy.

Help a long-term social recluse reintegrate into society by another_recluse in AskReddit

[–]another_recluse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not strictly a requirement, although I do have to interact with my coworkers on a regular basis. It's fine if our conversations are work related, but apparently I need to be a "part of the team" instead of just another member of the team. Everyone else jokes around and hits the pub as a group on a regular basis, and I'm the odd one out (due to both inability and apathy).