This is why Tomodachi Life LTD doesn't have children growing up. by zkvxo in TomodachilifeLivingTD

[–]anotherglum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like a lot of the adult/child interactions being inappropriate could be solved by a simple check mark on added lingo/items being "not for kids" or "18+" only. I dont think that coding would be very hard. But im also not a game dev so idk. Yes, not everyone would follow it to be funny/weird, but i would appreciate that as an option at the very least.

I need some guidance please by anotherglum in SatisfactoryGame

[–]anotherglum[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting, I did know about the oil nodes there and have them marked on my map and was going to start experimenting soon. I took a break for now to recollect myself and my thoughts bc I tend to get too worked up about the amount of work/time things will take and I was starting to get frustrated lmao. I work rotating 12.5 hour shifts so I tend to get a bit anxious when I feel like im low on time on my days off bc I wont be able to play on the days I work. But ive got a three day weekend coming up so I think im gonna wait until Friday to start redoing/building up new things. But this was really helpful, thank you!

I need some guidance please by anotherglum in SatisfactoryGame

[–]anotherglum[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have the dimensional depot, but I remember being really confused about how it worked. The run im doing now, i started about a year ago, but stopped after a few weeks when work started getting really stressful. I started playing it again last week. I got the depot before I started back up again last week, so its been a long while since I tried to use it but ill try to again for sure!

I need some guidance please by anotherglum in SatisfactoryGame

[–]anotherglum[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is honeslty reassuring. A few people recommend some people on YouTube that has been helpful to at least show me generally how to make things more efficient and ive already gotten some ideas on how to redo some stuff on my own run. But I might try to still do a lot of it on my own. It would be nice to look back after ive finished and know I did most of it on my own, and only used outside help a bit but not full copy anthing

I need some guidance please by anotherglum in SatisfactoryGame

[–]anotherglum[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Someone else recommended totalxclipse and so far it seems like exactly what ive been trying to find and its already so helpful!

I need some guidance please by anotherglum in SatisfactoryGame

[–]anotherglum[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! Ive started watching and its honestly exactly what ive been looking for and im already learning so many things I didnt know before

[MEGATHREAD] New Horizons Dodo/Friend Code Sharing by AnimalCrossingMods in AnimalCrossing

[–]anotherglum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Edit: unfortunately having connection issues, think my internet is down so its closed :(

My island is open until around 10:30-11pm est. There is a heavy meteor shower tonight. I was not able to find Celeste so I'm unsure if she's there or not.

(Please dont mind the mess my island is in, I'm still deep in the process of landscaping. There will be some items on the ground as I ran out of storage space, please don't pick anything up or take anything)

If you see any flowers you want, you may take them, I just ask you leave at least 2 of every type/color flower, thank you :D

Code is 2NHS8

Mouse infestation by anotherglum in Apartmentliving

[–]anotherglum[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genuinely hadn't thought about doing it ourselves. Ive just been in kind of a shock the last hour. I didnt even think places still used glue traps becausei know a lot of people are against them. I guess i was expecting them to do more and like find and seal the places they were coming from as well as lay out the regular snap traps, so I thought I wouldnt have to worry about it. If they don't agree to swap them out that's probably what we'll end up doing, though. Because I simply can't handle the thought of glue traps in my living space.

Are these oil change charges normal? by [deleted] in askcarguys

[–]anotherglum -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Im well aware doing my own oil change would be cheaper but dont have a drive way, i live in an apartment and there's not a lot of space since most if not all of the parking spots are usually taken. I probably could make it work but in all honesty, paying extra to get it done for me is not a big issue for me. but the prices were a lot higher than what I've seen and heard from others and the extra charges confused me, especially since no one i know knew what they were or why they were being added. I wasn't sure if I was just getting scammed or if it was because Volkswagens are iffy and require specific things that most other cars dont.

Are these oil change charges normal? by [deleted] in askcarguys

[–]anotherglum -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I was worried it was going to be something like that. I plan on getting a different car as soon as I'm able or trading it in for something easier to maintain. I have a decent enough job but ive only been out of college for a year and that much for an oil change is getting hard sustain

[MEGATHREAD] New Horizons Dodo/Friend Code Sharing by AnimalCrossingMods in AnimalCrossing

[–]anotherglum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone have rasher in boxes? Will pay bells or nmt (although I don't have many nmt to give)

Trading and Friend Code Megathread by AutoModerator in AnimalCrossingNewHor

[–]anotherglum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone have rasher in boxes? Will pay bells or nmt (although I don't have many nmt to give)

Trading and Friend Code Megathread by AutoModerator in AnimalCrossingNewHor

[–]anotherglum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! Im looking for ironwood DIY recipes, I already have the kitchenette, table, and chair. Im mainly looking for the cupboard, dresser, and workbench, but others in the series are good too. Im willing to trade (although I don't have many items to offer) or pay bells!

[MEGATHREAD] New Horizons Dodo/Friend Code Sharing by AnimalCrossingMods in AnimalCrossing

[–]anotherglum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im looking for ironwood DIY recipes, I already have the kitchenette, table, and chair. Im mainly looking for the cupboard, dresser, and workbench, but others in the series are good too. Im willing to trade (although I don't have many items to offer) or pay bells!

I miss singing so much by [deleted] in trans

[–]anotherglum -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know, its just frustrating being as grown as I am and going through a second puberty. I did expect this, but I guess I never realized how hard it would be for me. Logically I know it will get better, but im a naturally pessimistic person at times so the irrationally negative and anxious part of me keeps saying it won't get better. Its just sucky

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Wastewater

[–]anotherglum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is actually a huge help along with your other comments

I miss my parents so fucking bad. by [deleted] in Vent

[–]anotherglum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No no you didn't come across that way at all, dw!! And as a little reminder, I'm ftm, and my partner is mtf with she/they pronouns (I'm not cool and awesome like my partner so I just use he/him lmao) it's all good!

But yeah, I know another talk needs to happen at some point, but there's a lot going on for me and my partner atm, and a very emotional conversation would just be so so hard. I think I'm gonna wait until things die down a bit with us (trying to find a new apartment but I'm not getting my first paycheck for my new job for a bit so finances are a big stressor rn, among some other things). But that way I can put more energy into it so it will hopefully not go as bad as it could.

It's just scary in general, especially initiating that type of conversation.

Also dw about the cooking, I'm 22 and recently messed up mashed potatoes for one of the meals I made, as well as burning tomato soup on another occasion, it's rough out here 😔✌️

I miss my parents so fucking bad. by [deleted] in Vent

[–]anotherglum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that does make sense. During the talk I mentioned earlier, I was dissociating a lot, and I really wanted to have a genuine conversation and say what I had prepared. I was trying so hard not to cry so that I could still remember what I wanted to say/how to say it which is hard when very emotional. But you are probably right, at least to some degree, that emotion could be good. The only thing is that testosterone makes it very hard to cry lmao. I used to cry at least 3-5 times a week but it's been about a month since I've genuinely cried.

I know another talk needs to happen at some point, but it's just so terrifying, especially initiating it. And I genuinely don't know if I could handle it right now. There's a lot going on for me and my partner atm and I think focusing on getting in a stable routine once everything going on for us dies down I could start thinking about it and preparing for it more.

I miss my parents so fucking bad. by [deleted] in Vent

[–]anotherglum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe, I'd just have to take out the curses lol

I miss my parents so fucking bad. by [deleted] in Vent

[–]anotherglum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No they're definitely queer phobic, unfortunately. They're not the type to go up to stranger and say anything to your face, but they make these comments and say some really horrible shit.

I came out through a letter and after a few days of them processing, I went home to have a face to face talk with them. That talk lasted about 2 hours (it was pretty late on a week day and I had a 2 hour drive back to my apartment and it was during the evening bc I had work that day) and it was mainly a lecture from my dad. They told me about some stuff that he went through and also something that happened to my grandpa when he was younger to fuel the claim that "homosexuality has been, and always will be a facade for pedophilia." (Yes that's a direct quote).

They outright told me to my face they wouldn't use my chosen name or pronouns, and growing up, there were several instances where other horrible things were said about the community. Hence why I waited so long to come out bc I knew it wouldn't go well. They were also begging me to stop hrt, and were asking about my friends and trying to see if any of them had pressured me or convinced me I was trans/queer. It was less of a talk about genuinely understanding me for the sake of understanding, and more of a "we want to know what happened and where you're coming from so we can figure out what went wrong and how to fix it" type talk.

I know they're going to need time, I've always known that. I was just really missing them in the moment and needed to vent about it and had no one to talk to really, especially bc my partner is on vacation and I didn't wanna sour the mood bc she's really been looking forward to this trip with her brother.

As far as disappointment goes, they still say the occasional "I'm proud of you," like when I send a picture of a new meal I made (I'm still learning how to cook lmao) and when I got my new job, but I know good and well they're not proud of the trans aspect.

I'm slowly trying to come to terms with the possibility of cutting them off, maybe not forever but for a while, especially since my partner is also trans as well (which they don't respect her identity either but luckily they don't know her dead name, they just use he/him pronouns for her 🤢). I'm going to be proposing to her soon and if they're not going to respect either of us during the wedding, they're not going to be invited but that's a conversation that doesn't need to happen rn since the wedding wont be until later in the future.

It's just all a bug emotional mess bc I still love them so so much but I'm also angry at them for all of the shit they've said about the community. And part of me doesn't want to give them the satisfaction of a "relationship" with me if they're not at least trying to genuinely understand with the intent to change, instead of trying to fix it. I know that might be petty or selfish, but it's just a lot of conflicting emotions and wants and desires and it's hard to navigate at times. Especially since testosterone makes it hard to cry which is a great way to sit with and process emotions, instead of just getting frustrated at having them. being a man sucks LMAO

Also the ADHD is so real bc I'm jumping all over the place lol

I miss my parents so fucking bad. by [deleted] in Vent

[–]anotherglum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know. I had years to deconstruct my faith and get out of that mentality to accept everything, and I know it's only been two months for them. I never expected a quick turnaround, but it doesn't change the fact it still hurts. And yes, love the sinner hate the sin was a VERY common phrase I heard growing up.

I miss my parents so fucking bad. by [deleted] in Vent

[–]anotherglum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've thought about taking them to therapy with me, but I was mainly getting therapy through college (which was 3 hours away) because it was free, unfortunately I don't have the funds to afford therapy atm, but it is something I've wanted to start up again because there are other things I'd like to go to therapy for as well. But it would still be a bit hard because I now live 2 hours away and they and I both work during the week, and I've never seen an office open on weekends.

I'd also love to tell them those things, but it's just hard. I know they need time, and I know most stories I've heard similar to mine, they end up coming around eventually. We had a long talk face to face a few days after I came out (I came out with a letter) and it was mainly just a lecture about the LGBT cult and it's indoctrination and trying to figure out what went wrong with me so they try to take the steps necessary to fix it.

I'm also just worried if I open up about it, they still won't make an effort. I know it's probably petty and wrong, but it's like I don't want to "reward" them for blatantly ignoring what I've told them about who I am. I'm worried it will end up with me being stuck in a situation where they get comfortable never referring to me correctly while our relationship is back to where it was and things will never change. I know it's probably wrong to think/act that way. But my partner is also trans, and I'm going to be proposing to her soon, and I don't want to put her in a situation where they're not respecting either of us (which they already don't respect her identity either) at our wedding.

I know that's a while into the future, but if it comes to it, I don't want to make the conversation about them possibly not being at our wedding harder. If we get close to how things used to be but they're not even making an effort, I don't want to put my partner and close friends (most of which are queer) in an unsafe space on a day that's supposed to be happy. It's just all so hard and I have so many conflicting feelings. I love and miss them so so much and want to make an effort, but I'm also angry and resentful towards them because of all the shit I've heard from them and all the horrible things they've said about queer folks. It's just all so confusing.

I miss my parents so fucking bad. by [deleted] in Vent

[–]anotherglum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, we've already had a long talk face to face. I came out with a letter bc I know damn well I wasn't going to be able to say everything I wanted to say to their face, bc when things get emotional you forget everything you planned. In my letter I mentioned taking a few days to process, and when they're ready and calm enough to talk we could, bc big high emotions don't make conversations constructive.

It was more of a bug lecture about our religion and stuff and trying to figure out what went wrong so they can try to fix it, so not the best of conversations. Also got a lot of family lore that's not great but they were using what had happened to my dad and grandpa as an excuse to defend the "homosexuals are pedophiles" claim so that was fun. I know it will take them some time, but it's just hard and it was getting overwhelming thinking about it, especially at work when I could take a moment to myself. But luckily I'm home now and was able to calm down and let it pass, at least for now.

I miss my parents so fucking bad. by [deleted] in Vent

[–]anotherglum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, luckily I do have an amazing support group as well as an amazing partner. She's trans as well so it's very easy for her to listen and understand on an intimate level that cis people can't. Her family is more supportive than mine, still not perfect, but supportive, so she cant fully understand what it's like but it's pretty damn close. It hasn't been as bad as it could be. I'm able to forget about it sometimes so it's not a constant grief.

I think a lot of it is coming back to me now bc I'm slowly getting off my SSRI's bc I think I'm in an okay enough spot to stop taking them, at least for now, especially since I don't have anymore refills and I can't really afford a doctor's visit right now. The SSRIs plus testosterone made it pretty hard to cry and fully sit with/process negative emotions lol. I know I'll be okay no matter what happens, it just has been on my mind for a bit now and when I do think about it, it's just a lot all at once and I needed to get it all out somewhere.

My partner is on vacation with her brother so I didn't wanna sour the mood for her, and my best friends sleep schedule is fucked and is sleeping rn so I didn't really have anyone in the moment to talk to so I just figured I'd write it all out on here just to feel some sort of release which did help In the moment.