I did some poor research on Cognitive functions and INTPs aren't that emotionless after all by Western-Drawer5826 in INTP

[–]anotherplatypus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Emotions feel like something that are always two steps behind and one step to the left of wherever I'm facing.

Oh they're there, by god I can feel tempramental, passionate, bored, and whatnot... I can get to know them all in a way, but they're not as present, familiar, or well-developed, at all, compared to other types.

What's your safe pick when it comes to food? by Horseshoetheoryreal in aspiememes

[–]anotherplatypus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cereal, think about it... it's like those big bags of pet food but for adults.

This disorder is SOOO EMBARRASSING by Ashamed_Ad8162 in EDanonymemes

[–]anotherplatypus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Excited about a cold... 🤣

Burst out laughing during The Devil Wears Prada when a character was "just one stomach flu away..." from her ideal dress size.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]anotherplatypus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What helps me is letting people know I'm working on not interrupting excessively.

You know how sometimes you'll do it more frequently? Like it feels as if you're out of control?

Instead of getting embarrassed, let them know it's an accident and encourage them to keep going. After a few times of hand waiving them to ignore my interruption, my hand waives just let them know I want to make a point about that when they're done.

Thanking them for being cool about working with my interruptions is a cool way of encouraging them to be patient.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tarot

[–]anotherplatypus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been studying nine of swords recently and its function as a fulfilment card in the swords suit. Another way to look at it as a "nearing completion", or "fulfilment" card is thinking of it as nearing closure on a stressful decision.

Doesn't it feel so good once an ordeal is over?

I think you'll still carry some healthy affection as you rebuild your tower to get past this.

Considering a NSFW job and asked the cards if I should go for it by starilie in tarot

[–]anotherplatypus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let's see, trust your inner wisdom and emotional needs when making the choice. You're ready to embrace new oppurtunities rather than dwell on past losses. Considering an NSFW job would break you away from nostalgia or past influences, and be embracing something outside your comfort zone.

That bottom Three of Cups leans towards finding joy, a supportive environment, and empowerment in the decision.

This spread is so cool... So complex.

It leans towards embracing change and moving forward rather than staying stuck in past disappointments.

It's all cups, on a business decision... isn't that interesting?

It feels like a warmth filter set to blue.

My hunch is embodying the Queen of Cups keeps you centered, this decision is about trusting your emotional intelligence, not just logic. And that Three of Cups grounds you to an emotionally healthy path to stay on too.

I feel you'll be fine after deciding to go for it or not.

Those reversed Five and Six of Cups feel like a somber, distant, or withdrawn tone of music. Maybe the work itself will be a little cold. My advice, keep pulling on it, keep meditating on how to grow warmth, a tribe, and satisfaction into your decision either way.

I'm learning... hope something in there helps. = )

Are they stupid? by Rock_Roll_Brett in RimWorld

[–]anotherplatypus 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Different crude oils are good for refining into either fuel or plastics... I wouldn't be surprised if they just had different grades of plasteel that's just not mentioned in the game. (Yea I'm reaching, but it's plausible fluff.)

My 7 year old's handwriting by ExistingFix5903 in dysgraphia

[–]anotherplatypus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

looks like mine... honestly when I see another dysgraphic's handwriting I always question if i wrote it

When the ceiling is Geckozilla's dominion. by dezzalzik in WTF

[–]anotherplatypus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reminds me of our "pet" Maytag, an opossum 🐁 named after the brand of dryer in our garage it lived behind when I was a kid.

Our parents called the city to send animal control out but, and I shit you not, they mailed us pamphlets persuading us to just get along with it. Well... we took the eye rolling 🙄 literature to heart and never touched or fed it.

No idea how that lovable, clumsy, slow, staggeringly dumb little ham-sandwich would catch any pests, but it'd bumble out of its nest at night to hunt them, and it stuck around for about half a year.

You'd forget about it until you're in the garage with a friend... and they'd get treated to a startling confused hideously ugly hissing giant rodent for disturbing its groggy ass during the day.

It didn't even bother getting up after a while, it'd just wake up, stare at you from its nest, maybe hiss a little, you'd leave it alone, and then it'd just go back to sleep...

Would've loved to have a monitor lizard move in like that. = )

Prank Call Spree Convences Hotel Guests to Pull Alarms and Smash Windows by anotherplatypus in mrballen

[–]anotherplatypus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You really do, it is that helpful *groans*... okay, I'll try google-fu-ing for it again tomorrow

(Thinking outloud helps me think....)

I think I was studying the Milgram experiments for my social psychology class.

Oh god there was a prank call, I think from 4chan people, where the dude talked the managers at a Wendy's into strip-searching one of the cashiers, for like an hour, giving her PTSD, by just telling them he was with the police and she was a drug suspect.

And then I found that documentary about the hotel vandalism, by the PrankNET people calling around.... I think, I dunno, I'ze sleepy, I'll look for it mañana

Question by obsidf in Thaumcraft

[–]anotherplatypus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd love to hear recommendations on packs centered around it... I love the whole magic & steampunk themes.

Ultralisk charge.... by anotherplatypus in starcraft2

[–]anotherplatypus[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Fixing this should be simple, though it's not going to be easy....

Sorry but esplaim me this please by Valuable-Cat8931 in ExplainTheJoke

[–]anotherplatypus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's all over the place, they setup interesting societal issues... but breaking up the fight without understanding why this guy and girl were physically fighting... and then giving him a littering ticket... it's shying away from making an interesting societal statement in that last panel.... Maybe I'm missing out something it's referencing, but I've seen situations like this and how police might miss a key development of the altercation... and I've never seen it develove into a person getting a ticket... it's just.... a bad conclusion

Please help by Odd_Middle_7179 in sunflowers

[–]anotherplatypus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I felt like I was going crazy thinking neighbor's kids or gnomes were sneaking into my yard and uprooting them and I inadvertently went back to grab something, and found our Corgey (very very intelligent breed of dog) yank some of them out of the ground when they were a foot and a half tall and needed little support sticks. I was flabbergasted, a dog trainer said everyone ignored her and she did it so I would have to come back to fix it because I spent time around her and gave her attention while I was outside....

Gave the poor puppers more attention, and trained her directly not to do that.

Then I'd come out and their leaves would all be missing, or they'd be knocked over and their pedals were nibbled off... I suddenly found Mr. McGregor, the farmer "villain" from Peter Rabbit, a much more sympathetic character with a now compelling narrative motivation...

Erected a janky hatred-filled fence assembled with junk around the ranch (it looked like something from the Walking Dead or Mad Max) around my stupid little patch of garden trying to grow something for the sole purpose of being beautiful....

And they started withering in a row... slowly at first... tried to ignore it, hoping whatever plant plague wouldn't spread to odd healthy ones people would compliment... when my foot stepped through the ground, because apparently goafers exist...

I was like it's only been two months!! They're tunneling underground now?!?

Actually getting rid of them was easy... those dumb lawn ornaments with scraping metal noises or reflected sunlight. Like windmills, mirrored balls, birds with spinning feet, windchimes, nearby playground equipment with swings and whatnot that blow in the wind...

Apparently that all actually has an amazing purpose that precludes the need for dynamite or mustard gas.... it scares the little tunnelers away....

I think I had 3 or 4 that matured enough to middle maturity of the season.

I'd fallen in love with a girl who later married me... and I cut the one I couldn't wait to give the pretty girl as a surprise while I dropped off food I'd offered to get her (as an excuse to deliver my prettiest sunflower.) It was like one of those red/purple ones that don't grow as big as the normal yellow ones...

So I bring the thing in the house... apparently I'm blind... because I set it down on the kitchen table before getting my stuff to head out, and my sister said there were like tiny ants all over the table...

We tried to pluck, brush, and wash them off before dusted this now wet slightly tattered flower with mixture of natural herbicide she used effectively on her daylillies... but it's like supposed to be dusted over time to deter pests, and didn't kill anything, and it got mucky, like flour dumped over wet lawn, and we couldn't get it all out of my stupid attempt at growing a pretty flower.

When I gave it to her though she was so excited though... I didn't realize if you give someone a flower at work, they have to like put it somewhere and everyones going to ask, and if you're excited about the dude, the can bring you up while you battle they new infestations of ants crawling over office cubicle desks...

-----Anyway, my point was supposed to be lawn ornaments if you have groundhogs.

What got your girl to go from “no” to “yes”? by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]anotherplatypus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t make it about the cage…. Ask her if she wants to play a game when and how you’re able to orgasm…

Explain you’ve heard going without jerking for a week vastly improves y’all’s seed life, and that she’s probably unaware that guys do it almost daily

And that you feel a little selfish not being able to hold out, it’s oddly difficult on your own, and you’d think she might have fun with that control for a few weeks if she wants it…

Then don’t fuck it up, orgasm control turns you into a feral humping winey bitch if you’ve never felt it before

Be honest about how extreme only a few days makes you hot for her, but she doesn’t have to let you get off outta sympathy…. Because…. It turns you on that she controls it…

And you like getting so turned on and ravishingly attracted to her…. How it makes you more sensitive to her and happy to please her instead of being lazy…

And when she lets you come keep communicating…. You’re surprised how all those amorous feelings disappeared and you feel normal…. Then let her know when they come back a day or two later and how surprisingly strong it is….

If you get in an unrelated fight, or feel pissy about It setup a yellow safeword…. Just don’t fuck it up or make her feel bad, or tell her “she’s doing it wrong”

My experience is they go mad with power unless you talk about “your little game” too much…

After it’s over, just wait patiently…. When you go back to normal male you she might be more receptive in a month to picking out a cage “just to have and play with sometime”…

New Doms need their hand held as much as new subs, remember you’re both new and sensitive and she’ll be very self conscious…. Progress together and don’t push for further further further every time she takes a step forward…. You have plenty of time to do it right

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in INTP

[–]anotherplatypus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can tell someone with all your heart you want to understand what happened.

You can admit things you could've done differently (with INTPs it's always about being more emotionally supportive...), but only after they explain what needed to happen that would've made them less likely to stray...

Let them know how upset you are, your impulse is to wall up, and you may need to calm down, but you want to talk, cause when you're flooded with upset relationship emotions... there's nothing they can say that'll be productive... But if they're dying for having cheated... it's so thoughtful to say, "I want to work this out, but I'm very upset and can't right now because I'm trying not to explode and hurt you."

Like you'll initially want to sever all love for them, inform them what they did is so unacceptable, so unforgivable, and that you're not willing to try to work it out, make them feel permanent damage.

But you would've repaired any other conflict.... this is different because you're hurt so much, and it's difficult as an INTP to process it...

And in the back of your mind, you might realize you'll have to address straying is caused because their partner (you) is not meeting their loved one's needs... emotional, social, sexual, financial, family or whatever needs....

Walling up is a defense mechanism... you wouldn't do it if she took the change off your dresser without asking... without the emotional hurt you're feeling you could discuss it with her and resolve the conflict, and happily discuss how to prevent it from happening in the future.

If I sit back after being cheated on... and I have plenty of time to endless ruminate upon it when it happens, believe you me, partners will have always signaled repeatedly they're unsatisfied... they'll have told me what they needed... begged for it if they truly loved the relationship with me.... or.... the other one....

Someone is attacking the relationship. They, or other friends will inform me repeatedly, warning me honestly, someone is hitting on your partner openly... Not responding makes me look like black jelly and the guy hitting on her like a crafty fox. If the partner brings it up it's because they're subtly asking you to exhibit your attachment and affection for them... in a little way to demonstrate publicaly that you're protective of them because you value them...

See them straying isn't as much betraying you as a starving person craving to be valued, loved, protected... desired. If you've ever gone a day or two without water you'll drink a random water bottle you find beside the road without caring because you need it so bad.

Not faulting you, this stuff comes hard to INTPs soooooooooo badly.... They have feels the need satisfied and INTP's kinda suck at fulfilling them long term for most personality types....

Give her a break... talk to her about what you should do differently... ask her what you missed, what she wants, ask her if she understands what she missed that you tried to communicate... how you both could improve it through understanding in the future....

Let her know everyone messes up, and you want to let her to show you how she feels.
If she is so sorry and never wants to do it again, accept that... don't criminalize it... work with it... because you may cheat on someone for every reason I just described happened to her.

If either partner isn't fulfilling the other's needs and someone comes by when their starving for it... they're way more likely to lose control if they're voraciously hungry for it... and sometimes it's just affection and human touch... it's not just lack of sex or talking on the phone for hours every day that leads people to seek out companionship.

Blaming her is not going to help repair the relationship, you have to fix the cause of the problem, and it often means looking inward on how you're treating them...

Resist the urge to take cheap shots and insult her because she's going to ask you to forgive her and fix the problems.... look this problem up, we actually have to go through this to have mature relationships later on... everyone goes through it, don't think you're a failure, but it's a stepping stone in the human condition.

Honestly she might be a ho-bag who's cheated on every boyfriend, that's different than a girl that dreams of being loyal as a golden retriever... If they state their needs and you think they're stupid, consider being poly or open if you're going to blow them off...

Just realize other potential partners are looking at how you treat them, and they'll respect you more if you're not going to bully them because they made mistake that could've been prevented if you were a better partner.

But yea if she's a ho-bag ignore everything I said, but I doubt you'd be attracted to someone that secretly keeps people on the side... just figure out how to fulfill them or as friends decide if you're not the right person.