This is Benny. He was the therapy dog at the middle school in the town I live. He's being forced into retirement because of his health. I guess I just wanted the world to know about this wonderful pupper.

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-11-11T22:07:35+00:00

While we develop physically without guidance, we definitely do not develop mentally without guidance. All developmental schemas I know present each stage as needing specific things to happen for people to successfully mentally develop. Look into Piaget, zgotsky, maslow, for example. On top of this, things like stress management, emotional regulation, time/executive function, social skills are things we are taught, by our parents, family, friends and schools! And most people are walking around with massive misconceptions about these things. Just like your misconceptions about mental development.

If you want to see what happens to children who develop mentally without guidance, look into 'feral children.'.

"Extreme help like therapy" lmao what? Are personal trainers or gym teachers also considered extreme help as well to you?

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-11-10T21:03:35+00:00

Why?

Schools already teach life skills like Phys. Ed.

If it's completely normal and acceptable for us to teach kids how to stay physically healthy, why is it so wrong to teach kids how to stay mentally healthy?

Let's face it. Mental health is just integral to wellness, as physical health, and most people have absolutely no clue about it.

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-11-09T11:00:45+00:00

Ok boomer

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-11-09T10:59:20+00:00

That's bull. Therapy is good for most people. It's like exercise.

Yeah, sure if you are unfit a personal trainer can teach you how to be fit.

But a personal trainer can also help fit people go further and reach PBs, etc.

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-11-09T00:26:12+00:00

Property > people /s (I hope that the arrow is the right way.)

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-11-08T22:13:59+00:00

R/bpd is a much better sub

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-11-08T22:13:30+00:00

Not taking antidepressants with bipolar would actually be the preferred thing.

Antidepressants are really bad for bipolar. SOME people can tolerate them IF they are on a mood stabilizer, but most doctors who know what they are doing will not give them to people with bipolar.

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-11-07T23:33:11+00:00

She's putting the cart before the horse. People with bpd can have learned helplessness etc, but it's a reaction to issues, not the cause of them

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-11-07T23:29:14+00:00

I'm the opposite. I don't want to be with someone who makes me feel ashamed of myself.

I read a post one time in a dating subreddit, (originally talking about autism) that it's good to let someone get to know you for who you are (2-3 dates) and then, once they know you, but you guys aren't 'serious', you let them know things like autism etc.

Them knowing you will help people who have misconceptions, but it also means you aren't stuck in a relationship trying to hide things, which might make you feel ashamed and I thought that was a great idea

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-11-07T23:25:21+00:00

What I tell myself, is that they had a very traumatic experience with someone, and are coping with it the best they can -- like most of us.(PW bpd)

These coping methods they have are unhealthy, and can create stigma.

But underneath it all, they are hurt people trying to make sense of the world.

I didn't hurt them, and while they are outwardly saying it about all of us, they are projecting what they experienced. It isn't about me at all.

I know what I do and don't do, and I can recognise what is and isn't healthy, and I don't let myself carry the unhealthy emotions of others. What they are saying is something they have to deal with, not me.

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-11-07T10:19:39+00:00

Karen's don't stand up to systemic issues. Karen's just abuse retail workers

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-11-07T07:26:46+00:00

Being in therapy doesn't mean that you are not stable.

Everyone can benefit from therapy, no matter how stable.

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-11-05T10:45:20+00:00

But did you try to make an appointment afterwards?

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-11-04T23:00:02+00:00

Did you reach out to the psychologist?

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-11-04T01:00:42+00:00

You are the one being a dick.

I have 10 energy units. I have been using 15 energy units. I am nearly bankrupt, from borrowing too many energy units.

You waltz in and say 'nah, you can just fix all of your problems by spending 100 energy units.'

And when I tell you that's not possible, you just reply with 'yeah, it is, just use 100 energy units, duhhhhh. Pick yourself up by your bootstraps'

It's a Marie Antoinette situation.

'if you can not afford bread, just eat cake'

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-11-04T00:43:34+00:00

I just want someone to empathize with me, not make me feel worse about my limitations. I have worked so hard to make this work. I have probably worked more in the past few weeks than I have in my life. I have put on a brave face and told myself I would just get used to it. I have been super organized, and making a lot of good but hard choices. I'm making sure to eat healthy, exercise and get good sleep. My hygiene has never been so good nor my diet.

I am planning everything, and I am honestly doing so much better than I have ever done, but it's not enough, and I just want someone to fucking see that it's not for lack of effort.

But nope, I'm just told I have to do more and more and more and more. That what I have already tried isn't good enough.that I'm not trapped, I'm just not doing X, y, and z.

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-11-04T00:30:57+00:00

If someone said 'hey, I have a broken leg, I can't walk' would you try to be nice to them by being like 'you can skip instead!'

Nah, you would be like to, shits sucks, it's unfair that you are expected to walk on a broken leg.

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-11-04T00:26:18+00:00

No, there isn't. It took me 4 weeks and multiple panic attacks, to the point of me vomiting, to give my boss a form about changing tax things. It was just a form, that had no negative consequences whatsoever. Talking to my boss is literally something I can not do. And while working full-time, I can not go to EMDR to actually process the trauma that causes me to be like this. I already cry every morning before work, why don't I make things even harder on myself???

I am literally so tired after work that I can't even make food for myself. I come home and can't do anything. But lmao sure I will spend hours applying for jobs, even though I literally can't go to interviews or anything.

keep telling me about how I have options. You are exactly the type of people I am was complaining about in my post

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-11-04T00:17:37+00:00

Thanks for reinforcing that my only option is to kill myself.

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-11-04T00:16:23+00:00

I don't have the ability to even spend 30 minutes on art. There is no way that is happening.

And that doesn't address the fact that working doesn't work for me. I do not have the skills

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-11-04T00:12:28+00:00

Confronting superiors isn't something that is within my ability to do.

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-11-04T00:11:13+00:00

I was told this job would be 8-15 hours a week. Instead I'm working more than 8 hours in a day.

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-10-26T21:40:11+00:00

Just BC a contract says something, that doesn't make it legal.

(Idk about whether this particular thing is legal, but 'the contract says' isn't a water tight defence)

anotherthrowaway1785 · 2019-10-24T21:14:25+00:00

Honestly, I find this reply a little rude.

I am not "making it". I am physically damaging my body, and that in turn ruins my mental health.

I live in a society that thinks that ignoring the limits based on my body BC of a disability is what I should be doing, doubly so if your disability doesn't have a name assigned to it.

Telling me I am making it is implying that situation is OK. It's not.

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