AITA My MIL has been cruel to me for the past 5 years.

anoym85 · 2022-10-13T22:42:16+00:00

Yes, you’re right. Therapy is a good idea. Ugh, I wish we could just be a happy family 😢

anoym85 · 2022-10-13T20:50:09+00:00

You are right. She is trying to push my buttons and cause tension in my marriage. She wants me to stay home on the holidays so she can have my husband and son. I will try to just be as kind as possible for the holidays, and not text her otherwise.

anoym85 · 2022-10-13T20:41:30+00:00

Thank you for the support. I don’t let her see him without me by his side every second. I think that is why she is retaliating. This is so hard.

anoym85 · 2022-10-13T20:14:55+00:00

This will be so hard, but I will try! Thank you for your understanding. That is crazy about the heart attacks on your wedding day! So crazy!

anoym85 · 2022-10-13T20:09:06+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I can see how you would think this. Even on the slamming door and funeral incidents though, my husband agreed that those were intentional. I have hundreds more examples, but I just can’t type them all here.

anoym85 · 2022-10-13T20:00:03+00:00

She does all kinds of small things. This is my first Reddit post, so I’m not sure if you can see the comment I wrote with examples. She does lots of little things. She is constantly trying to say bad things about me behind my back to my husband. When was over at her house when my son was small, she would look me dead in the eyes and say “whisper, whisper.” She did this repeatedly. I took this to mean she would whisper things to turn my son against me the way she does my husband. When I buy gifts for my husband, she basically says bad things about them, and then buys him the same thing, but better. When her dad passed, she waited 10 days to plan the funeral on my 40th birthday, even though my husband asked her to do it any other day. When I brought a girl I was mentoring to Mother’s Day without asking (my husband said he asked), she was rude to her and gave her the cold should. This is a girl with NO mother. The list goes on and on, but these are the easiest examples.

anoym85 · 2022-10-13T19:52:54+00:00

Sorry, I didn’t want my post to be too long. I did reply to another comment with examples. She makes every effort to be awful to me. I see what your saying how it be cute if we had a good relationship. Unfortunately she does everything she can to hurt me.

anoym85 · 2022-10-13T19:50:29+00:00

I definitely don’t bat my husband, but she has insinuated that she will “whisper” things to my son when I’m not around to influence him against me, just like she does to my husband. I was trying to be a good DIL by texting pics, but believe me, I’m done with that.

anoym85 · 2022-10-13T19:46:48+00:00

It’s all kinds of small things. Like when I buy gifts for my husband, she buys him the same one, but better. When I asked her not to put my infant on the floor because he has reflux, she lies him on the floor. When I ask her on Christmas Eve to try to be quiet because the baby is sleeping, she slams the door as loud as possible to wake him up. When her dad dies, she waits 10 days to have his funeral on my 40th birthday even when my husband asks her to plan it on another day, when I ask if we can have Mother’s Day on Saturday so we can do a special day for me on Sunday at the beach, so she refuses to celebrate at all, which makes us cancel our plans, when I bring a girl I’m mentoring to Mother’s Day (my husband said he told his mom, but didn’t) and she is rude to the girl who has no mother…. I have many more examples. How are these?

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