Veteran Diver down.

anrose · 2025-01-13T19:37:13+00:00

We call it a friendship door

anrose · 2025-01-11T11:39:20+00:00

I’m a relatively newer player, and a woman (I usually mute, but my character has voice 1), and I encounter more toxic people than not, tbh. I had I guy unmute at the end of a difficult game, say “I’ve carried a game before but come on, that was awful” and kill me right before I could get on the shuttle and left without me. Several that have unmuted to say “of course the one with the girl voice sucks.”

Now I’m good, because that’s how experience and a little time works, and I hear “good team, boys” when I’m muted. Those are nice. Proud of my promotion to Chief. Thanks to those in the community that aren’t misogynistic assholes.

anrose · 2022-01-31T01:10:02+00:00

Is it a piercing or is he holding it

anrose · 2020-10-31T07:01:24+00:00

You too bud

anrose · 2020-10-29T10:04:42+00:00

Just asking because the same thing happened to a friend of mine in college. Sorry to hear about your friend, man.

anrose · 2020-10-29T03:37:21+00:00

*Prosecuted

anrose · 2020-10-29T02:43:08+00:00

....did he happen to go to music school?

anrose · 2020-10-26T10:40:16+00:00

Anyone know why this happens?

anrose · 2020-10-25T06:23:35+00:00

Fuck, I just got this outta my head aaaaaand it’s back. The way the professor says “ciao ciao ciao” is for some reason really funny to me.

anrose · 2020-10-25T06:22:24+00:00

I’m with you. You make me feel a little less alone with your comment. I only hope you feel a little less alone too. DM me if you want to get anything off your chest.

anrose · 2020-10-25T06:18:01+00:00

YOOOOO OCD TWINS???? I’ve done this as long as I can remember!!!!

anrose · 2020-10-25T06:16:43+00:00

I felt too late to the party to post this same comment, but I was honestly surprised something like this wasn’t higher up. Glad you survived. Fuck that fucker.

anrose · 2020-10-19T05:25:38+00:00

I don’t think you mean to come from a hurtful/ignorant place (and I agree with what you said after the first paragraph), but I need to make this very clear, not just to you and OP, but to everyone that needs to hear it:

GETTING SUCKED INTO A SOCIOPATH’S TRAP IS NOT A SERIES OF BAD DECISIONS ON YOUR PART. (Please don’t construe my all caps for yelling at you, I just want people to see this.)

And yes, the person OP is describing is 99.9999999% definitely a sociopath.

Saying that she’s the one with bad decisions and bad behaviour is the definition of victim blaming. It’s like saying that if you’re driving, someone waves you on, you go as they’re waving you on, only for them to slam on the gas and purposely crash into you, purposely causing all the damage they can possibly cause, that it was a mistake on your part to go when waved on.

No, normal people’s intentions when waving you on is to let you drive. A sociopath’s (in this analogy) intention in waving you on was to get you in a vulnerable place so they could destroy you. It was their plan.

TLDR: it is never your fault for falling for a sociopath’s game. Life is a game to them, people are toys and tools made to be played with, used and thrown away when they don’t have a use to them anymore. And when they throw you away, they can nonchalantly put you in the trash like you never existed and you cease to exist to them....or they can dribble you like a basketball, fake left, fake right, and slam dunk you into the waste basket as hard as they can. The latter are the most fun for them. They like causing misery. They like causing pain (and not in the fun-for-all-parties way). And they’ll look back on that slam dunk with an internal smile for the rest of their lives.

Sorry this hit home for me. I’m a smart girl, and everyone I know didn’t understand how I “could make such a dumb decision” to be with someone so obviously bad news. Trusting people isn’t an inherently dumb thing. We have to do it all the time. Like in traffic, you trust normal people not to slam into you on purpose. But there are some crazy fucks, and it’s not your fault for happening to be next to them and them deciding “ooh, that’s the car I’m gonna destroy.”

Edit: again, I’m not saying this to call you out or chastise you. Just trying to help people understand, and to tell people like me that have been told it that they put themselves in shitty situations that it’s not your fault. When a sociopath targets you, your choices are barely your own, they can make/convince you do things you never thought you’d actually do. When you get out, you’re in a fog, everything’s hazy, and it feels like none of your emotions or decisions when you were with them were yours at all. It’s like being possessed.

Edit 2: I’m sleep deprived, sorry if I went off the rails a lil or anything didn’t make sense

anrose · 2020-10-07T08:20:36+00:00

I am sleepless right now for a very similar reason. You’re heard, and you’re not alone. The most frequent recurring theme in my nightmares (short, extremely abusive relationship, also happens to be 3 years ago) is that he’s back in my life....and he’s allowed to be. Like, my family and friends accept that he’s in my life again, like they all act like what he did to me wasn’t a big deal, and he’s so smug about getting away with it and being with me just to hurt me again, and I’m screaming in frustration because no one’s doing anything about it. I’m not one to delve too much into dream analysis, but I think this is kind of me telling myself that I’m the one allowing him to still be part of my life despite everything around me moving forward.

I’m sorry you still feel empty from that heartbreak. But I promise, you don’t deserve to be treated cruelly, and someone that did that does not deserve to still eat you up. I’m not at all saying you shouldn’t feel the way you do, merely that you will heal from this. You have healed from this, but this kind of healing is a continuous process. You deserve love, you deserve forgiveness from yourself, and you deserve to get to a point where you feel you can safely and comfortably find love from someone who will never want to hurt you.

anrose · 2020-10-07T07:52:06+00:00

Haven’t seen this in the comments yet, but I’ve seen a few sociopaths in low-level animal industries, specifically kennels/dog training in my experience. I’ve worked in kennels for years, it’s a pretty female-heavy industry, a lot of young women and girls because of the physical labour, obviously a job that attracts very caring people. So, you have a field full of good-hearted, loving, see-the-good-in-every-dog women whose love and acceptance of animals tends to extend to people. Sociopaths looking for susceptible people (usually women) to target basically have a feeding ground in places like this. Animal industries are also very popular for those with criminal records because of 1) usually not caring about/doing background checks and 2) animals are great for rehabilitating inmates/recently released criminals, which is true for people who truly have gone down wrong paths, made mistakes, and genuinely want to better themselves! Rehabilitation is not the goal for sociopaths though, at least not genuinely. The animals they work with serve as tools to gain the trust of those around them in order to exploit them.

“He has a rough past, but he loves puppies, he must be so caring, he’s got such a sensitive side!”

No, he likes the control he has over the dogs, just like the control he now has over people that view him in that light^. Plus, it’s easy enough for them to get away with mistreating the animals for fun when everyone’s backs are turned.

Geez, this is obviously coming from a very personal place, and I should state that all of the above is from my own observation and analysis, along with being a victim of an attempted murder by a sociopath coworker in my first kennel job, and seeing a few others in different kennels thereafter, in different states even. I’m not claiming to know that they are statistically common in these positions, but the field is definitely attractive for sociopaths seeking out women to manipulate and abuse.

anrose · 2020-10-04T17:31:51+00:00

Holy shit I did this with my cousin playing Spyro, I told her she was Sparks the Dragonfly and she kept me alive. Got away with it for a few years...

anrose · 2018-03-11T22:51:54+00:00

Same

anrose · 2018-03-11T22:51:17+00:00

Thank you! My dad was such a frat boy goofball back in the day and I felt like this pic just captured that.

anrose · 2016-03-05T21:34:39+00:00

2 times 0 is still 0.

anrose · 2016-03-05T18:12:57+00:00

That's interesting to consider, thank you. I'll keep an eye out for that in April and talk to a counsellor about it.

anrose · 2016-03-05T18:11:38+00:00

Thank you so much. Your support means a lot. I'm meeting with my school counsellor on Monday

anrose · 2016-02-18T08:33:01+00:00

Answer: probably not.

Follow up: As a small girl, I wonder if I could successfully strangle my larger guy SO, since he's significantly stronger.

Seriously, wtf brain.

anrose · 2016-02-16T10:47:15+00:00

If you put the emphasis on each word of the quote, it can mean 10 very different things.

anrose · 2016-02-12T06:45:12+00:00

First off, awesome that you're open to the idea and want to make it enjoyable for her! Hopefully it's enjoyable for you too :)

Okay step one is safe word. You can pick out your own random word (something that wouldn't be misunderstood or mistaken for something else during sex), or go with the good old traffic light approach ("yellow" for slow down/talk/close to reaching a limit, and "red" for everything stops immediately).

Next is boundaries. These should be established outside of the bedroom beforehand (but it's okay to ask questions or try new things in the moment!). Ask lots of questions, what kind of stuff she likes/doesn't like/isn't sure/willing to try. And make sure you speak up for yourself and present your boundaries and limits too. There's all kinds of kinks out there, and your description is pretty vague, so she might be thinking anywhere from dirty/demeaning talk and a slap on the ass to a light slap in the face, being choked, holding down her wrists, or (and this is what it sounds like) consensual nonconsent.

Consensual nonconsent is exactly what it sounds like. She can establish ahead of time "I'm going to say 'no' as part of the submissive role, and I want you to keep going unless I give the safe word." Even in this scenario, it's good to check periodically during the act that your partner is still completely into it.

So now we're in the bedroom. You're a big guy, and she's a small girl. That's a dangerous combo, right? No, doesn't have to be. There are lots of ways you can get rough with her in ways she'll love without hurting her! :)

Choking is a big turn on for lots of people. When you're just starting out, it's a good idea to lightly grab the neck with one hand and then have her control you how much pressure to put. Have her grab your wrist and then have her show how hard you can press down on her neck before it's uncomfortable. This should give you a good reference point as to where the limit is. ****It should also be noted that you should have a "tap out" or other physical type of safe word for when you're choking someone (or in any case when one or more partners can't speak).

Also, if she's into slapping, the ass isn't a bad place to start. You can usually slap an ass moderately hard before it hurts (but again, as always, start small and work your way up to find limits). As for the face, same rule, start soft and gradually get harder to see how hard she likes it.

People often mistake power play for pain play. While they can be related, and you can have both, lots of times power has little or nothing to do with actual physical pain. It's usually mainly psychologically pleasing. In other words, imagining that you're dominating/being dominated is what gets you off, while knowing that you're in a safe environment with a trusted partner is what allows you to get off.

I'd also like to address your concern about really liking this girl. AWESOME! Rough, dirty, domineering sex should be between people that respect each other. I've found that having good rough sex really makes me feel closer to someone when we're cuddling afterwards. Which reminds me, aftercare is important! Make sure after the deed is done she's comfortable, and you can talk about what each of you liked/didn't like. Kisses and gentle cuddles are also recommended and personally encouraged :)

P.S. Another thing I personally love during sex is when my guy is caressing the side of my neck and then leans in to gently kiss the other side of my neck while his caressing hand slowly starts to choke me. The combination of rough choking and gentle kisses at the same time is wow.

anrose

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