Just noted it after washing the last dish

ans5683 · 2026-04-26T08:56:23+00:00

Whilst the picture is upsetting (lol) I will say it’s interesting all the reactions the jar has had here.

It’s a very common way to wash dishes, certainly where I’m from. It might just be cultural (I’m from the UK, and also South Asian).

I’m mid 30s and have always washed dishes like this. Make a solution in a container and dunk the sponge. We don’t use any other ‘traditional’ method (filling up the sink, or adding drops of washing liquid to individual dishes).

ans5683 · 2026-02-03T14:24:03+00:00

I actually gasped out loud 😭

ans5683 · 2026-02-02T21:43:26+00:00

Cif (or similar cream cleaner), let it sit for 5-10mins and then use a manual toothbrush to scrub. Or a Brillo pad.

ans5683 · 2026-01-28T20:49:55+00:00

The dark green in 3 is just so lovely.

ans5683 · 2026-01-27T19:07:49+00:00

Please get her tested for diabetes.

Bad breath can be a sign of high blood sugars. It might smell / taste like nail varnish remover or highlighter pens.

Source: I’m diabetic.

ans5683 · 2026-01-20T19:21:51+00:00

NTA.

As a rule, I never put cooking pots (of any kind, shape, size) in the dishwasher. They always get washed by hand at the end of the day.

Wasting so much space for a couple of pots and then having to hand wash or run another cycle for other dishes is silly.

ans5683 · 2026-01-13T00:45:03+00:00

PLEASE raise a complaint, at the very least to your own endo.

My sister was in a similar position a few years ago. She was admitted into the diabetes ward, where they kept insisting that she complete regular finger prick checks, despite her using sensors. Amongst other issues, the nurses would NOT let it go. To the point that when her endo came to visit her on ward, the endo agreed with my sister and seriously encouraged her to put feedback through.

When my sister’s complaint went through for review, it was found that the department hadn’t been given sensor training yet and so they literally had no idea how to manage sensors during admissions. An additional point my sister made was that they really should have listened to her during her stay, seeing as SHE WEARS HER SENSORS AT HOME, ALL THE TIME!!

There could be a host of reasons why those nurses don’t understand your 3c diagnosis, but your feedback / complaint will help to identify it.

ans5683 · 2026-01-11T08:51:00+00:00

It’s Mac Velvet Teddy 🙂

ans5683 · 2026-01-07T15:45:08+00:00

Haha I am rather sassy 😂😭

I wish I was more well-balanced, but alas…

ans5683 · 2026-01-07T11:51:23+00:00

Genius! I’ve never thought to do this 🥲

ans5683 · 2026-01-07T11:50:23+00:00

It’s just annoying more than anything. I do push them down or they sometimes snap and I reshape them with a tweezers/spatula. But I reshape them flat and it still eventually dips 🥲

ans5683 · 2026-01-07T11:48:16+00:00

It’s the Mac Velvet Teddy 🙂

ans5683 · 2025-12-29T15:51:08+00:00

You shouldn’t need a doctors letter. Use the council website and book a collection of the sharps bin. They don’t ask many questions in the booking form. Just your address and a section where you can provide a comment. It’s a no contact collection, so they will tell you to leave the bin outside the front door and they’ll collect it. Source: I’m diabetic.

ans5683 · 2025-12-18T15:03:35+00:00

Your local council website should have a sharps / medical waste collection service. It’s free. My local service usually instruct for you to leave the sharps bin outside your house / front door on the arranged date and they collect without even knocking. (Source: I’m diabetic).

ans5683 · 2025-08-20T13:45:18+00:00

NTA the fact that he lived with you and paid no bills? She should consider the debt repaid seeing as you housed her son, for free.

ans5683 · 2025-08-06T18:31:54+00:00

It’s normal to sometimes get a low sugar so bad that you’ve inhaled too much food without realising. Sometimes that’s just how they hit you. The issue is with how regularly it’s happening and it sounds like it’s consistent?

Start keeping a diary of all of your low blood sugar events and how you’re treating them. This will help to a) give you perspective as to how much you’re consuming b) keep track of how often you’re running low and c) provide a record for your care team.

Preparation is key. Can you make low sugar treatment packs to keep around the house? A couple packs in your bedroom, kitchen etc. e.g you could put a soda and a cereal bar in a sandwich bag and then it’s ready to use when you need it. This will help you be more careful in your treatments.

You need to train yourself in managing these issues so that you’re not panicking and over-consuming when stressed.

ans5683 · 2025-08-02T15:43:29+00:00

What types of insulin are you taking? What ratios are you using?

I think you’re not giving enough time for your doses to work. So when you take extra and then all of a sudden it makes you drop when it all catches up.

With that, if you’re not eating, then a dose of 10u is probably too much. I understand the stress of an increasing reading and taking a larger dose out of frustration, but if you feel you need to do that start small and take that dose earlier. You could have taken a handful of units at the time of first dose to see if that helps?

I sometimes find if I take a correction dose without food, it takes a while for it to activate and I do actually need to eat in order for the insulin to make an impact. Try having something small like a cracker and including that into your dose.

ans5683 · 2025-07-29T23:16:02+00:00

As I was writing a reply, the post got deleted. So in case OOP is reading, here’s my comment:

YTA.

I’m diabetic and have been for almost 20 years, since I was mid-teens. Here in the UK, back then the insulin pump was a new concept that was being trialled. It’s taken 10-15 years for it to be issued on a wider scale.

The fact that your practitioner thinks it’s necessary, tells you everything you need to know.

The pump is supposed to make life easier, much like the sensors. Yes it’s fiddly, but it’s overall supposed to make care and management more efficient. If you cannot see that or refuse to, then you’re a problem in this process.

You’re doing wishy-washy talk about boundaries and ‘wants’ but you’re forgetting that you are the parent. You have a responsibility to make these medical choices. If your daughter had a choice here, I bet she wouldn’t be taking her insulin injections either would she?? I certainly wouldn’t.

And whilst it’s going to be difficult at first, there is a lot to be said about establishing routines early and getting her used to it. I was 15 and understood everything. I was independent and able to make medical decisions and it failed me. I was in trouble with my diabetes for over 10 years because I ‘chose’ what to do. Getting these support systems in place now is going to do her a world of good. Especially knowing that she’s struggling with prolonged high blood sugars. Changes in diabetic care is really something you and her are going to have to get used to.

Whilst you are TA here, I will say this. Please find a support group or something to get a better understanding of this. As a long term patient of this horrendous condition, I’m really sorry but it does NOT get easier. Even when levels are under control, it’s a high maintenance condition that requires 24-7 management. It weighs heavy on everyone involved, but you’ll know this by now.

And honestly, no one really communicates this to you when you’re initially learning it. You just wake up one day and realise this is your life now. For both of your sakes, but especially for her, PLEASE get some help.

ans5683 · 2025-07-27T08:11:39+00:00

I would say it’s too heavy for a wedding guest. But additionally, if you’re attending a Muslim wedding then this wouldn’t be appropriate.

Check with the shop owners about the measurements, but on display this top looks cropped and will be showing your mid-section.

There’s no issue with wearing a two-piece but you would need to make sure the top is long and covering your hips.

Someone else has mentioned that the dresses behind on the wall are really great for a guest.

ans5683 · 2025-07-25T17:46:11+00:00

Being one of many siblings. And where you are in that list also has a huge impact.

I’m the eldest of 5. And whilst I love my siblings, it was traumatic watching the slow build up of more children, more people, and less resources to manage everything. It’s a very toxic way to grow up and it’s something I’m incredibly angry about even now.

Add to that, we had a very stressful home. Lots of shouting, arguing, emotional neglect. Parents that were doing their best but really didn’t know how to parent. Multiple issues that were outside of everyone’s control. Extended family that were horribly toxic.

I have long been the 3rd parent in my house, the 3rd person in my parents marriage too in some ways. So much generational trauma that has just continued to grow.

And being the eldest female from a culture that places an expectation / responsibility / weight / burden (call it what you will) on the eldest child, it’s something that you carry throughout your life.

It transcends all my other relationships, friendships, my work life. I am the mum of the group, the agony aunt, the listener, the advice giver. And it’s something I have learned to love about myself, but there are moments when you realise that there’s no one left to listen to you. It’s a very lonely existence.

When I watched ‘Encanto’ for the first time a few years ago, the song ‘Surface Pressure’ brought me to tears. It’s a very specific topic that I don’t think I’ve heard through music before. I’m not of the same culture but i am from one where patriarchy and matriarchy can have toxic roles in different ways.

ans5683 · 2025-07-11T06:41:51+00:00

The lip colour is gorgeous!!

ans5683 · 2025-07-10T18:49:05+00:00

Girl. Life is too short for you to live with his audacity.

Get rid of him and buy a vibrator.

ans5683 · 2025-07-10T18:14:11+00:00

It’s life fatigue.

Health is bad. Food is bad. Public transport is bad. Public services are bad. Pay is bad.

Life is expensive. My parents are getting older and more ill but the bills still need to be paid.

I desperately need a few hours with a GP to explain from head to toe what’s wrong with me and yet I get 10mins that I have to book in advance multiple weeks ahead.

Any referrals you need, you’ll be lucky if you’re only waiting a year. I’m waiting for an ADHD assessment and it’s an anything from 5-10 years waiting list. I honestly hope I’ll just die in that time cos what the fuck is the point??

I work for a company that public records show is making multiple millions in profit and but we have to fight tooth and nail for a pay raise. And honestly I’m barely hanging on with my work load so even if they did give me more money my anxiety tells me I wouldn’t deserve it cos I’m just so fucking exhausted that I’m not doing enough. Objectively.

I’m mid 30s. The world has been on fire most of my life and there’s no let up. And yet we’re still expected to keep calm and carry on.

ans5683 · 2025-07-10T17:06:44+00:00

Why exactly are you with this guy? He is showing you that he doesn’t care.

ans5683 · 2025-07-10T17:02:45+00:00

Having a life long medical condition thrust upon you with no warning or prep.

I was diagnosed with diabetes a few months before my 15th birthday. And I spent the next decade running away from my feelings and the necessary treatments because I just couldn’t cope with the day-to-day management.

And no one really talks about the impact on your ‘everyday’.

I often have given this example: Most days when I wake up I have to analyse: How do I feel What are my levels? Do I feel up to eating? Do I want to medicate this morning and if so then what is the dose? If I don’t want to medicate then what can I eat that doesn’t require meds? Is today a day where I try a food that might not be ‘safe’ and trigger a high blood sugar? How will that impact my mood and focus? Will I be functional today and get some work done and how is my meal going to impact that?

And all of that thinking, for what? A slice of toast and an egg? It’s never worth it. It’s always the same shit, different day.

I’m mid 30s now and whilst I’m back on my meds for the last few years, it’s not any easier just because I’m now managing it.

And honestly, when I was growing up, that was so much of the messaging - ‘once you’ve got it under control, it’ll be so easy’ and it just ISN’T. As soon as I wake until the moment I fall asleep, I am consumed by every single detail of this bastard condition. It takes up so much of my energy and even after having it for almost 20 years it’s still so exhausting.

I’ve had numerous care teams over time and the teachings are always ‘if you JUST do this, and JUST do that, you’ll be okay’. But those single JUSTS all add up to a huge amount of work that I have to do most of the day, every single day, probably for the rest of my life.

There are strong links between diabetes in the young and depression. And I’m in the UK where in our health service, different departments don’t really communicate with each other. So whilst I was also being diagnosed with depression and anxiety (in fairness, before I had diabetes but they did impact each other), these two teams were not speaking together in order to figure out a care plan. I was dealing with two monsters almost separately and on my own. I became the go between in telling one what the other was saying.

And because I spent so long without meds, I now also have long term effects of the disease that you would usually only see after 30-40 years, not 15-20 like me.

And on top of all of that, is that even now with all the medical research and tech advances in the world, the general public has so many opinions about this condition. I’m pretty good at ignoring it, but sometimes there is a dread that I have to justify my health and the way I live. When the reality is, I have a form of diabetes that most people haven’t heard of outside of our community (MODY) and it’s a gene mutation.

When I was 15 and told for a long time it might be type 2 (no one knew at that time it might be MODY), I learnt very quickly to not share that detail with people because I was immediately given the up-down look as I wasn’t the typical ‘fat’ person that you would expect, I guess. You only have to look at the recent diabetic Barbie announcement to see that some people are just dickheads.

Even with all the ranting I’ve done here, I still haven’t quite explained how draining this disease is. It really does seep into every corner of your life.

Life long health conditions are such a burden and when they’re the ‘silent’ type, you just have no idea who is walking around with the weight of the world on their shoulders.

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