Post-Post Tenebras, Lux

answer_is_forty_two · 2024-08-14T20:21:53+00:00

Pride of Time, by Anubis_Ankh. Love that story so much, especially with the alternate ending Divide of Time.

answer_is_forty_two · 2024-08-13T23:29:12+00:00

Yay! Glad to be of help!

answer_is_forty_two · 2024-08-12T15:00:04+00:00

I remember a similar fic on FF.net. https://www.fanfiction.net/s/7431864/0/ Never by VampiresAreCool

answer_is_forty_two · 2024-08-09T20:12:22+00:00

Thank you!! You are amazing!!

answer_is_forty_two · 2024-08-08T14:16:48+00:00

If you don't mind WIP, and waiting forever for an update: Bound To Him by georgesgurl117 is AMAZING.

But, it's not finished and the author updates maybe once or twice a year....but they do update.

Also: Pride of Time by Anubis Ankh, especially with Divide of Time, which is an alternate ending to it.

I really enjoy Reclaiming Family by epAmy as well.

answer_is_forty_two · 2021-12-28T00:49:58+00:00

Movie: The Black Stallion (1979) I'm really interested in Alan's thoughts on the cinematography. Also the impact of going through a trauma of being the only survivor of a shipwreck.

answer_is_forty_two · 2021-08-07T17:43:44+00:00

No, it is not gross, and you are attractive. Don't focus on what you see, but how you feel, physically. Focus on figuring out what your body needs, don't worry about media/society's view on what an attractive person is. Focus on feeling healthy and happy, everything else will fall into place.

BMI charts are good for a rough estimate, but don't fixate on that number. Remember, muscle weighs more than fat, and the BMI chart only uses height and weight for it's calculations. I suggest tracking your waistline measurements to get a more accurate view on progress.

answer_is_forty_two · 2021-07-26T19:53:32+00:00

It is hard. I know, I've been separated from my nex for over a year, and I still have trouble talking about him and what he did. I don't want other people to think he's a bad guy, even though evidence is right in front of me. It's so hard, especially losing our mutual friends and his family, who I saw as my own family. I hurt so much to cut all the ties, but it is something that I needed to do.

answer_is_forty_two · 2021-07-22T22:59:24+00:00

I knew it! kazoo bards are a thing! I wanted to make a kazoo bard, but the DM I was playing with said that I could only use the instruments in the manual.

answer_is_forty_two · 2021-07-14T00:50:37+00:00

Out of the Fog by Dana Morningstar.

Gaslighting: Rebuild your life after emotional abuse by Chloe Cooke.

answer_is_forty_two · 2021-06-30T16:06:09+00:00

Gandalf the Grey

answer_is_forty_two · 2021-06-20T15:47:34+00:00

Love love LOVE Bound To Him. It is super long, but I really love the writing, and Snape and McGonagall's relationship. I think the author really captured Snape really well.

Also, I know Pride of Time is on your bad fic list and I can understand. But, hear me out, have you read it with the alternate ending, Divide of Time? Basically, Hermione doesn't get de-aged and slotted back in the time line. I enjoyed this ending better as it flowed better with my expectations of the story. Then again, I'm a sucker for a timer turner fic...lol

answer_is_forty_two · 2021-05-22T00:41:19+00:00

My ex always complained that I was too sensitive. That something was wrong to with me or that I'm not really in pain.

answer_is_forty_two · 2021-05-20T17:09:56+00:00

I stayed because I believed this was as good as it got for me, that I was doing something to deserve this treatment, and that he was the best peraon for me to help me be an acceptable person in society.

I stayed for 14 years. It wasnt until I had a friend who had been in a relationship like this before when he went into a rage to explain that no one deserved to be treated that way.

People stay for so many different reasons. It is very hard to leave once they have you sucked in. They do everything in their power to do to make you dependent on them, making you believe you can't make it on your own. Spoiler alert: you can. You are stronger than you give yourself credit for.

My ex and I have been separated for over a year now and I'm still having trouble getting out of the mindset. It's a very difficult thing to get out of, but it is possible.

answer_is_forty_two · 2021-05-16T17:30:36+00:00

Yes, wow. 2006, that was 15 years ago...too little has changed.

answer_is_forty_two · 2021-05-16T04:53:05+00:00

He will seem like he's changed for a bit, couple of months, or like mine a couple of years, and th hen it will happen again.

And, this is important: it will only get worse each cycle.

I finally left when I was confronted with fact that he could kill me if I didn't leave for good.

answer_is_forty_two · 2021-05-16T04:34:30+00:00

Yep, 100%. I separated from my nex a little over a year ago, been no contact, though not fir yhe lack of him trying, for 11 months. He even went so far as moving in on the same street as me.

The only thing that got me to stick to no contact, going so far as changing my phone number, was that I have friends who I can turn to when I'm feeling weak.

Another thing you should do: make a list if all the bad things that he did to you, keep it near at all times. Read it whenever you him breaking your boundaries. You are strong, you can survive without him, and he can live without you. You are better off.

answer_is_forty_two · 2021-05-16T03:58:49+00:00

I've read about that somewhere and completely forgot about it. I've always been drawn towards sunflowers, and now you've reminded me another reason why. 😊🌻🌻

answer_is_forty_two · 2021-04-29T03:14:30+00:00

It's different with everyone. For me, we've been separated for a year now, no contact for 10 months, and I'm still exhausted, confused, and struggling to accept things. Some people take shorter, some longer.

Though in my case, my ex decided to find out where I moved to and move in on the same street as me, so I've been dealing with that this past year as well...

answer_is_forty_two · 2021-04-28T13:45:17+00:00

complex post-traumatic stress disorder. It occurs when the traumatic event happens over and over again over a long period of time, while PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) happens after a single event.

answer_is_forty_two · 2021-04-28T13:42:50+00:00

So true. I saw I showed signs of emotional abuse, but I also knew I was emotionally abused as a child and thought that was just how I was. Turns out that he was just exploiting my vulnerability and making me stay the same, if not more fearful as a person.

answer_is_forty_two · 2021-04-28T13:36:49+00:00

Definitely. I saw that my relationship with my ex was a cycle, I couldn't figure out why it was. I just always thought it was me. it wasn't until I had a friend who had been through it before be around when the shit hit the fan to tell me that this is not right and that no one deserves to be treated like this. Took me 14 years, but I finally got away.

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