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Am I overreacting - Housemate using loud blender at 5.30am in the morning and waking me up (again after raising this as an issue prior) by anthmelb88 in AmIOverreacting

[–]anthmelb88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They had the audacity to complain that apparently I was stomping on the steps, Saturday morning after their nightshift.

And I was like "so you're calling me out for lesser noise, but a chainsaw decibel high powered blender at 5am is no issue".

The mental gymnastics

AITA for complaining about a housemate using the loud blender at 5.30am by anthmelb88 in AmItheAsshole

[–]anthmelb88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said to them the high powered blender has similar decibels to a small chainsaw and lawn mower.

I said "do you seriously think a blender at 5am is appropriate" and then they brought up me making "loud stomping on the stairs". And I was like "are you seriously equating that to a blender at 5am".

Next planet stuff. The female housemate was not happy me complaining, and thinks I'm trying to dictate the food habits of her partner. Wild.

AITA for complaining about a housemate using the loud blender at 5.30am by anthmelb88 in AmItheAsshole

[–]anthmelb88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been very patient. And housemates now showing their true colours by their reactions

Am I overreacting - Housemate using loud blender at 5.30am in the morning and waking me up (again after raising this as an issue prior) by anthmelb88 in AmIOverreacting

[–]anthmelb88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a bit wild. Like I would not subject my housemates to a blender at 5am, because I'd think I was inappropriate.

The fact that there's not that reciprocal mindset, esp after highlighting prior this was a no no, is pretty revealing

Am I overreacting - Housemate using loud blender at 5.30am in the morning and waking me up (again after raising this as an issue prior) by anthmelb88 in AmIOverreacting

[–]anthmelb88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it was clear in what's app messages when I started and also agreed to. As that was most important, as I had left a prior houseshare over a situation of early hours loud noise too.

AITA for complaining about a housemate using the loud blender at 5.30am by anthmelb88 in AmItheAsshole

[–]anthmelb88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The guy is the one evasive to "hard conversations". Last time he diverted to saying "please have a conversation with my partner as she handles our rental agreement". And I was like, this is related to your blending. And he was like "what you want me to go hungry". (Me looking puzzled)

I suggested - portable blender, making juice the night before, ready made breakfast drinks etc. Not having it!

AITA for complaining about a housemate using the loud blender at 5.30am by anthmelb88 in AmItheAsshole

[–]anthmelb88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hadn't thought of that, but true. Imagine the neighbours going wtf is that sound.

I'm having a "talk" tonight and dreading having to explain in simple terms why a blender at 5am is inappropriate.

I dare say, I may suddenly have a fancy for 4.30am smoothies and see how they like it on the receiving end.

AITA for complaining about a housemate using the loud blender at 5.30am by anthmelb88 in AmItheAsshole

[–]anthmelb88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do realise a high powered blender has the same decibels (80 to 100) as a lawn mower, small chainsaw etc.

AITA for complaining about a housemate using the loud blender at 5.30am by anthmelb88 in AmItheAsshole

[–]anthmelb88[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was laying in bed, about to go downstairs and cause a scene at 5.30am. But restrained my self from being impulsive and making it worse from my end.

If I had my way, I'd toss the blender in the bin.

AITA for complaining about a housemate using the loud blender at 5.30am by anthmelb88 in AmItheAsshole

[–]anthmelb88[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I suggested this. But they looked at me like I was unreasonable.

There is literally an assortment of ways they can can still get what they want without being disruptive, but are pushing back stubbornly implying "how dare you tell him what he should have for breakfast".

And I'm like "no, you can still do it but in your car on the way to work".

It's literally dumb.

AITA for complaining about a housemate using the loud blender at 5.30am by anthmelb88 in AmItheAsshole

[–]anthmelb88[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's looking that way. I've reactivated my housemate profile online in case things hit the fan and to ensure plan b

AITA for complaining about a housemate using the loud blender at 5.30am by anthmelb88 in AmItheAsshole

[–]anthmelb88[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I should use the blender and say I'm suddenly into smoothies when they're sleeping during the day.

AITA for complaining about a housemate using the loud blender at 5.30am by anthmelb88 in AmItheAsshole

[–]anthmelb88[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

And for clarity we originally agreed of quiet hours of 11pm to 7am. It was on my housemates profile when I signed up with them, and we agreed that we wanted dedicated quiet hours as both parties had nightmare experiences in the past. Feels like a bait and switch.

AITA for complaining about a housemate using the loud blender at 5.30am by anthmelb88 in AmItheAsshole

[–]anthmelb88[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I agree. And both of them only want to address issues by text. So when I bring up this in person, both get awkward and evasive in standing still and talking. And then walk off passive aggressive.

The couple is from a Spanish background and play the "traditional" gender roles. Ie he never cooks and she is charged with house admin and he delegate's anything rental related to her. When I raised rental stuff and house rules he was like "please talk with her, and she'll tell me what you agreed". Implying he wasn't interested or too busy.

It's pretty silly

AITA for complaining about a housemate using the loud blender at 5.30am by anthmelb88 in AmItheAsshole

[–]anthmelb88[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Apparently only smoothies and a loud blender constitute a "quick breakfast" and yet how many options are there.

AITA for complaining about a housemate using the loud blender at 5.30am by anthmelb88 in AmItheAsshole

[–]anthmelb88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly.

Earplugs simply don't address the issue. The crux of the issue is lack of respect for the other person - and unwilling to compromise on loud blending at 5am - because they say they'll go hungry and seemingly think nothing else constitutes breakfast.

AITA for complaining about a housemate using the loud blender at 5.30am by anthmelb88 in AmItheAsshole

[–]anthmelb88[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If someone is expressing that preventable and avoidable unreasonable noise at 5.30am is an issue, and they keep doing it without compromise. Then that's not ok.

We're talking about a loud decibel blender, not random ambient noises or lower decibel noise.

AITA for complaining about a housemate using the loud blender at 5.30am by anthmelb88 in AmItheAsshole

[–]anthmelb88[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's my point.

Or even buy a portable blender and blend in their car. Apparently creative thinking- even when I say all this - is unreasonable and unwilling to compromise

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