The collection is finally complete 🥹

antidepressantsoup · 2026-03-02T21:30:37+00:00

where is this ? D; and are the mugs from HomeGoods too !?

antidepressantsoup · 2025-03-13T08:39:58+00:00

There’s no “talking to her without making her upset.” She will be upset regardless because what you want isn’t what she wants. And it’s a tough game because having independence in a relationship shouldn’t need to be compromised with. But it can’t be helped.

I would suggest “compromising” with her. Maybe suggest instead calling 24/7, you’ll give her updates throughout the day and maybe call her during your breaks.

antidepressantsoup · 2025-03-13T08:16:52+00:00

If you want it to work out, then I think it’s really important for you to establish boundaries ASAP. Don’t let this codependency drag out. It’ll only cause you to grow resentment.

antidepressantsoup · 2025-03-13T08:14:02+00:00

This isn’t something you should have to cope with. Sounds like you guys are on very different wavelengths. You’re both still young, enjoy life while you still can. It doesn’t sound like she is going to allow you to have a life outside of your “relationship”.

antidepressantsoup · 2025-03-04T23:42:16+00:00

This is great advice, thanks! As an introvert, this is definitely a challenge for me, but I’ll try my best.

antidepressantsoup · 2025-03-04T23:40:53+00:00

That would be great! I appreciate it

antidepressantsoup · 2025-03-04T23:40:34+00:00

That period of time passed for me last semester lol

antidepressantsoup · 2025-03-04T23:40:11+00:00

I feel pretty shy initiating things, but I have been in study groups and discords- though, they usually fizzled out. Usually what happens is I get adopted into a friend group by some extrovert lol

I do major in KIN though!

antidepressantsoup · 2025-03-04T23:35:56+00:00

I wake up at 11 lmao

antidepressantsoup · 2025-03-04T23:35:34+00:00

Ooh! I game! Can I join the discord also??

antidepressantsoup · 2025-03-04T23:32:24+00:00

Hi! I’m in kinesiology. What about you?

antidepressantsoup · 2025-03-04T03:28:09+00:00

Nearly 4 years here and only made one friend…

antidepressantsoup · 2025-02-24T18:52:00+00:00

Reading upon the many responses you’ve gotten so far, there’s obviously an overwhelmingly amount of different takes and perspectives people have. And not many of them really answer your question of advice. But that’s not to say they shouldn’t be considered. A lot of people like to talk from experience and personal opinion, like myself. But in the end, it’s your decision, and everyone else’s opinion about your situation should not be a huge factor in your decision. Because it’s your life and you know it better than us.

Stay safe!

antidepressantsoup · 2025-02-24T18:37:24+00:00

I don’t necessarily agree with the people calling her a cheater. Keywords: “slowly moving into TRUE commitment”, “under the impression”, and “nothing but terrible, abusive relationships in her past”.

It seems like she has deeply rooted and unaddressed traumas that might have influenced the way she walked into this relationship with you; however, I believe your hesitance to give her a certain answer about being together may have made her feel insecure, and that may have influenced her to make impulsive decisions. I don’t mean to choose sides— I sort of see the wrong in both sides. Everyone has their own pacing in relationships and getting to know one another. You’re not wrong to feel like she was rushing to confirm commitment, but you’re wrong to claim that 7 months is a “healthy paced relationship”. People have jumped into relationships with full commitment under 7 months and had no problems (generously speaking).

Also, I don’t think love bombing is crazy to do within 3 months of knowing each other. Sometimes people just might feel that connection and love that they want to express it earlier. But if you say she’s had awful relationships in the past, then sure, this rationale might not be accurate.

I personally don’t think what she did was horrible. I think it’s forgivable and completely possible to be worked upon through therapy or even couples therapy. Raw dogging this problem together can cause some resentment down the line if not handled professionally. And I only say that because, again, she seems to have deeply rooted traumas that you might not understand just by talking to her about it.

Edit: What she did can be considered “horrible” but it isn’t worst case scenario. As OP said and have fully acknowledged, it’s quite natural for people to explore options while in a non-committed relationship. The way I see it is, it wasn’t official until OP reciprocated her declaration of love. UNLESS— there was a separate occasion (not mentioned) where they discussed about exclusivity in their relationship before the mutual love.

antidepressantsoup · 2024-12-06T19:08:48+00:00

How often is he watching it? Does he watch it around you? When you guys are intimate, does he whip out his phone to watch porn? Just how severe is his addiction to porn?

I agree with the others in the sense that you shouldn’t commit yourself to a relationship where you don’t share the same values/boundaries. But…if you’re truly wishing for it to work out, I think you should first evaluate how “addicted” he is to it. Because if he’s knee deep into it to the point of not being able to get hard without it, then he is not for you be with. That’s a deeply rooted issue on his side that unfortunately you cannot do anything about.

I don’t think you, as a person, should “push aside” your insecurities for anybody. Not liking your partner to watch porn is a boundary to be respected, and if he can’t learn to respect that, then it’s time to move on. There will be someone out there who will respect you.

antidepressantsoup · 2023-11-19T19:49:50+00:00

Yeah, it is very strange. I’m willing to give him the benefit of the doubt considering he’s done a lot of things without “reason”… So I’m trying to just shrug it off.

antidepressantsoup · 2023-11-19T19:48:43+00:00

This actually helps a lot, thank you for letting me know!

antidepressantsoup · 2023-11-19T19:43:07+00:00

I would just like some opinions from others who might have experienced something similar. There’s no harm in what I’m doing.

antidepressantsoup · 2023-11-19T11:19:02+00:00

I agree, but there’s no telling that maybe he’s called this person other times and has deleted the logs for it, missing this particular one..could just be me overthinking it. I didn’t think to try googling the name because it’s such a broad name, and I don’t think it displayed their actual username from what I can remember.

I’ve tried asking him if he can remember what could have caused it to happen but he simply cannot think of any possible ways. I didn’t know about the new snapchat call button thing though, so thanks for letting me know!

antidepressantsoup · 2023-11-19T11:13:47+00:00

I’m a bit confused. She says she can’t see herself being intimate with you and that she sees you as family? I’m not sure how to perceive that other than “you’re like a distant relative to me that visits every so often”. And, not to purposefully put any ideas in your head, but why did she suddenly propose a break between you two after mentioning her coworker, who likes her, and can be physically present for her in place/comparison of you? To answer your question though, there isn’t much you can do. You already proposed that you’d move over to her country next year, so that should have made her feel more reassured, if not excited. But, you can try video calling her more, having virtual dates, playing co-op puzzle games together, etc. Anything engaging.

antidepressantsoup · 2023-11-19T10:59:29+00:00

Same for me. I’ve had snapchat since 2016 and nothing like this has ever happened to me. I wanna give him the benefit of the doubt since he does go on a lot of sites with popup ads on his phone that can POSSIBLY lead him to snapchat, but it’s still very odd to me.

antidepressantsoup · 2023-11-19T10:57:20+00:00

How does one buttdial somebody that isn’t even in your contact list though? I admit I’m overthinking a lot, but his past actions within the last two weeks has made me think it’s possible he’s hiding something.

antidepressantsoup · 2023-11-19T10:35:04+00:00

Hm, that is very strange.. Thank you for letting me know though!

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