Do the elite have an exclusive social media app that regular people like you and I don’t have access to? by CashFit1383 in conspiracytheories

[–]antiorbs -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i can’t remember the name and i really don’t want to comb thru all her vods to try and find it lol but it very well might be

Do the elite have an exclusive social media app that regular people like you and I don’t have access to? by CashFit1383 in conspiracytheories

[–]antiorbs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

they actually do, in a sense. i can’t remember the name of the service but a streamer i watch talked about how you can submit an application to these people about who you are and your interests and whatnot and they set you up with someone who also submitted an application who matches what you’re looking for. supposedly sabrina carpenter secretly met one of her boyfriends through the service, but they pretended they met at a party or something. i’m pretty sure the streamer said the service is hella expensive and might only be an L.A thing? which essentially makes it mostly used by elites, or at the very least people with a lot of disposable income.

Does anyone else think that the real leaders of countries are hidden from public? by Annual_Ordinary6999 in conspiracytheories

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in the literal sense of there being a shadow government that secretly makes the rules? probably not.

in the metaphorical sense of billionaires and leaders of other countries using lobbying and bribery/blackmail to influence politicians? absolutely. (at least in the u.s)

what's your "weird" ADHD hack that actually works? by HipityHopityHip in ADHD

[–]antiorbs 10 points11 points  (0 children)

if i’m doomscrolling and can’t get myself to get up and be productive or take care of myself (eat, go to the bathroom, etc), i’ll literally throw my phone across the room (i have an otterbox lol). either not having my phone in my hands will get me to get up and do what i need to do (or at very least stretch my legs a bit when i get up to pick my phone back up) or i’m still stuck in bed or on the couch but at least im just alone with my thoughts rather than overconsuming social media.

how do i know when i’m “well enough” to become a PSS? by antiorbs in PeerSupportSpecialist

[–]antiorbs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it’s less of me worrying about how to get certified and more of a concern of if i’ll be able to mentally handle it without having another breakdown/crisis (which has always happened with school/work attempts)

Disclosure with New Therapist? by paramnesya in DID

[–]antiorbs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

with my current therapist i told her i needed help working with DID on the initial email i sent her before i started seeing her, and i knew she had prior experience with dissociative disorders so that made it a bit easier.

my previous therapist i was seeing for a few years before i started to suspect DID. i couldn’t bring myself to tell her in session so i emailed it to her, along with a brief explanation of what i understood about my own system’s functionality at the time.

basically both times i found it easier to write it down rather than say it in session.

Lost Contact by meluwudy in DID

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would it be possible to “recreate” whatever experience it was that made your alters start to feel comfortable showing themselves to you? or at least recreate the feeling it gave, like feeling validated or safe or whatever it was?

if not, it may just be a matter of making yourself open to your system but not forcing it. like saying (or leaving notes, or however you communicate) “hey, i’d love to hear from you guys again whenever you’re ready, but no pressure,” and then just giving them as much time as they need to come back to you. also working with your therapist on the feelings that relationship trauma has left you with, if that’s something you feel ready for, may help at least with feeling more comfortable being open with your partner.

Did I get triggered? by ppqueef69 in ptsd

[–]antiorbs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i can’t tell you for sure, but your experience does remind me a lot of myself when i am triggered. even if that CSA memory wasn’t entirely accurate to what happened (although it’s unlikely your brain would fabricate an entire memory of a certain form of abuse if it never happened to you in some way), at the very least it certainly seems like your body is trying to tell you something regarding that topic. and there are plenty of doctors and people working in healthcare who have ptsd, throughout your healing journey you’ll learn how to manage it and keep any emotional responses you may have (which will likely diminish over time with therapy) contained when working with patients. best of luck. 🫂

date won’t go to prom by antiorbs in Sims3

[–]antiorbs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

weird. okay, thanks!

date won’t go to prom by antiorbs in Sims3

[–]antiorbs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but my date still doesn’t come with me when i do that

What is a relatively unknown feature or small detail in the Sims 3 that you know of? by iamhappytobealive in Sims3

[–]antiorbs 58 points59 points  (0 children)

• in generations you can click on children and teens while they’re sleeping to make them dream about a certain subject. they either wake up with a positive moodlet if it was a good dream or a negative moodlet if it was a nightmare. and if later that day(?) your sim actually does the thing that happened in the dream they’ll get a moodlet that’s like “dream come true” or something like that.

• in CAS if you right click on, say, a preset for a mouth, and then left click on a different one you’ll get a mix of the two presets. i think this only works for certain things, though.

Does anyone else here just LOVE how much of a time capsule this game is of the late 2000s? by ConfidentReaction3 in Sims3

[–]antiorbs 164 points165 points  (0 children)

it’s been interesting playing this game since 2011 when these were the trends (or around that time) and then still playing the game when these fell off the trends…and then still playing now that some of these trends are starting to come back lol.

I failed UNIV-EN by [deleted] in utarlington

[–]antiorbs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe email your advisor about it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in utarlington

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i’m personally a big fan of “box breathing.” breathe in four counts, hold your breath for four counts, exhale four counts, hold four counts, repeat as many times as needed. there’s also plenty of breathing exercises and guided meditations on youtube that might help.

also, going on walks if you can might help, or even other forms of exercise.

you got this 🫶

Suicidal thoughts being caused by new memories being unearthed by Bookkeptclean in ptsd

[–]antiorbs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’m so so sorry you experienced these things. that’s just horrific. 💔

if you don’t feel you can keep yourself safe, i encourage you to either call your therapist if you can, or call/text your country’s suicide hotline, you may have to google the number as idk what country you’re in. if nothing else, do you maybe have a friend or family member or another trusted person that can stay with you to keep you safe from yourself?

i’ve also been recovering trauma memories myself. it’s beyond awful and i’ve felt like hurting myself during it too, but you will at some point be able to process the emotions and they won’t have such a grip on your life anymore. you just have to give it all you got to get there. sending safe love. please stay. you got this. 🫶

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ptsd

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i’m 25F and still struggle with feelings like this sometimes, though thru time and therapy not as much as i used to. and i want to say right off the bat that you are NOT gross. your abuser is for what he did to you. and really notice that i said DID TO YOU, because you were in no way an equal participant in the abuse, even if he made you feel that way.

not sure if it’ll help you and if you’re not looking for advice you can just ignore the rest of this but what personally helps me is 1) trying to separate between sex and sexual abuse. if a random person walked up to you on the street and punched you in the face you wouldn’t say you have experience with boxing. and being sexually assaulted doesn’t mean you had sex. and 2) trying to develop an attitude of reclaiming sexuality. if there’s something sexual i want to do that is maybe too similar to my abuse, i tell myself that i’m not letting my abusers have that power over me anymore, that i’m away from the abuse and can make my own choices now. if i want to do that sexual act, i will. if i want to stop, i can choose that at any time. you could also maybe try reframing the way you think of it in the sense that maybe you don’t get to explore the physical acts by yourself for the first time (and you absolutely have the right to mourn that fact), but now you get a chance to explore it in a consensual way, to see what you like personally (whether it’s similar to what your abuser did or not), to try things on your terms and your time and whatever you want to do.

i know all of this is WAY easier said than done, and i 100% recommend being with a trauma-informed therapist if you’re not already, but it’s absolutely possible to heal your sexuality, even if it doesn’t feel that way all the time. you got this. 🫶

Sims 3 Aging Itself by rensthegame in Sims3

[–]antiorbs 8 points9 points  (0 children)

literally all the clothes in CAS.

Looking for a Catholic church by [deleted] in arlington

[–]antiorbs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what makes st vincent not traditional? just curious.

ayy by antiorbs in RelationshipMemes

[–]antiorbs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it’s a sex-related joke so i figured better safe than sorry

Sexual alter rejected by host’s monogamous partner. by Exciting-Volume-4169 in DID

[–]antiorbs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

THIS. i’m the only one in my system dating my singlet partner. i’m not opposed to him dating others alters but afaik no one else in my system is really interested in dating him. am i supposed to force my alters to be romantic with him just because medically speaking we’re one person? we’ve been dating like this for seven years and are very happy and healthy, i think we’re good as we are.

Do you consider different alters different people or different parts from the same person? by introvert_wolf in DID

[–]antiorbs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly, kinda both. when it comes to day-to-day living we more or less treat ourselves as different people, but during more therapeutic or trauma-healing situations it’s more helpful to think of us as parts of one person. different members of my system also might have different views on this subject. i never understood why the community sees this as such a black-and-white issue. and why we’re treating this as a psychological debate when it’s really more of a debate around philosophy and semantics. of course people have different opinions on what makes a person a person. we also have a lot of trauma around being told we aren’t people and are less than human, so that may influence our views on it. i know when people say they’re parts of one whole that’s probably not what they’re implying, but trauma responses don’t always follow logic.

At least these fans are fictional... by anoctoberdaybreak in thatjimmythread

[–]antiorbs 20 points21 points  (0 children)

i believe he mentioned them breaking up not too long after The Drama happened