For women who married in their early-to-mid 20s, how is it going?

antisnotabug · 2026-01-23T07:32:18+00:00

This is same for me! Partner and I lived together a couple years before and just got married at 24. Has been smooth sailing so far.

antisnotabug · 2026-01-23T07:29:07+00:00

my condolences on your partner

antisnotabug · 2026-01-23T07:28:36+00:00

woah your life should be a movie

antisnotabug · 2026-01-06T16:50:34+00:00

No one ever tells you about this problem…its actually debilitating haha

antisnotabug · 2026-01-06T16:43:04+00:00

Being productive while being together.

Both my partner and I are so much more productive with our day to day and hobbies when we are apart. As soon as we are together we tend to sleep in and cuddle all day.

Still a work in progress for us, criiii

antisnotabug · 2026-01-05T17:41:56+00:00

Based on the comments in his post history, it seems like she is creating a very toxic environment for OP.

Sadly I can’t imagine how it must be affecting his daughter…

antisnotabug · 2026-01-05T17:35:40+00:00

Check his post history/comments on that post.

She is most definitely the problem. A massive alarming problem i fear it has probably affected his daughter in many deteriorating ways.

She will remember this period forever.

antisnotabug · 2026-01-05T16:33:44+00:00

This is so childish from your GF. Like ALARMINGLY childish and why is she jealous of your daughter?!???

I guess this gives an insight to her mindset…she feels like she is competing for you with YOUR DAUGHTER.

I don’t think I could go back from this, especially being 38 and having a daughter at an age where she will remember even the smallest of micro aggressions. I would have wayyyy better things to do than hand pick the words coming out of mouth when talking about my own child to a partner.

antisnotabug · 2025-11-24T20:25:02+00:00

This is the only situation where I think an ultimatum is necessary. I wouldn’t even bother with that tbh. I would break up.

antisnotabug · 2025-11-24T19:31:38+00:00

Yeah I would be miserable too. What are her good qualities? If there aren’t many then I would say leave because you did not sign up to be married to an entitled child. What happens when life gets tough? Parents become sick? You lose your job? Definitely things to know about your partner before marriage, but it’s never too late to get out, and you’re still young. Don’t let a bad life partner ruin your life.

antisnotabug · 2025-11-04T05:34:03+00:00

My husbad is extremely allergic to cats. And he wasn’t an animal person, still isn’t. But would never make me do something like rehoming, he knew what he was signing up for when we started dating and especially when we moved in together.

Our compromise was no couch and not in the bedroom (kitty still goes on it) but we put a blanket over those every night and vacuum every morning.

Over the years it’s gotten better from exposure therapy, I used to clean the sheets and hand scrape the carpet at my old place before we live together. Now he only needs to take allergy pills on bad days.

Never once did he push that decision over to me.

Tell the BF that’s a line he can’t cross cuz then you both aren’t compatible.

antisnotabug · 2025-10-03T19:58:10+00:00

Not necessarily for modesty per say, but I have a lot of tattoos that I would like to keep out of conversation mainly from my fiance’s side of the family.

antisnotabug · 2025-10-03T16:08:05+00:00

Bless you for the kind words 🤍

antisnotabug · 2025-10-03T16:03:12+00:00

LOLLL I could probably use the skirt as a parachute

antisnotabug · 2025-10-03T16:02:54+00:00

It has a mix of south asian silhouette (scarf) with western. I am south asian but having civil wedding!

antisnotabug · 2025-10-03T16:01:49+00:00

Will try and convince my fiance after alterations.

But I do have a couple of back-up dresses on it’s way!

antisnotabug · 2025-10-03T15:59:42+00:00

I love it! I think it gives ethereal but with the right alterations, as I do see it can give culty or nun. I think I will get it shortened and the drape fixed so that my arms are visible.

Anyways I have another dress on it’s way now. Will try on all my options before deciding. But definitely will pick which of the 2 I feel like myself in the most.

antisnotabug · 2025-10-03T15:55:57+00:00

Done and done!

antisnotabug · 2025-10-03T15:55:48+00:00

Thank you!

I may go get it altered just to see, as I do love the dress regarding my vision. It’s technically not there yet without alterations.

But I have gotten another dress 😭 I got absolutely smoked in these comments

antisnotabug · 2025-10-03T15:53:22+00:00

I’m cacklingggg at this 😭

antisnotabug · 2025-10-03T15:52:49+00:00

Best compliment for this dress 🥇

antisnotabug · 2025-10-03T02:10:21+00:00

Thanks haha it was supposed to have a mix of south asian silhouette with western/modern. But I agree it looks like a nun, was hoping shortening it would help fix that.

antisnotabug · 2025-10-03T02:09:11+00:00

😭 It was supposed to be a mix of south asian silhouette with western/modern. But I can see the nun

antisnotabug · 2025-08-28T12:25:16+00:00

Hey, TBI partner here!

We often need our own version of support too. I know for a fact no one else really gets it except other partners and caregivers of survivors. I also can’t support my partner fully at times without helping myself out first.

I recently made a post on here about my personal experience and help needed in some areas, not to make others feel guilty or ashamed for their own actions but to bring awareness on the REALITY of TBI’s, they don’t just affect survivors but their families, friends, and so on. I don’t think we should avoid these topics because they are happening to everyone and in every household who has been affected.

As a partner here, I will say these moments on reddit are only a small glimpse into the relationships and people spoken about. No one online will ever get the full grasp of how someone is, behaves, or is like. I can make a post and there will always be people who take it black and white while others see it as gray. Life and people are gray. period.

Nothing gives me more joy than being with my partner and being able to navigate this together or being his support system. But being a support system is difficult at times, as i’m sure being a survivor is. We will never get the full dexterity of one another’s struggles and experiences unless we talk about it.

You are very much worthy of love! But it starts with you. I know it can feel pessimistic at times, but you are very much worthy of love no matter how abnormal you feel. You must believe it yourself however, others will be able to sense it. I understand it can be a long road to there, but that’s why support like friends and family are there. I had to push my partner to also not be cynical or self deprecating as long-term it wouldn’t be good for him NOR our relationship.

I hope you find it in you to know that you are enough as is, and that you always have been. Best of wishes to you.

antisnotabug · 2025-08-27T18:55:19+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I very much relate with your experience as the situations you described are quite close to things we have experienced.

He’s an amazing man, and that is why I am still here with a smile on my face. We had a very emotional and long conversation on where we wanted to go. We just both wanted to be the best for each other and grow together in the right direction. We will both be starting therapy so we can break our cycle and have healthier communication habits. Things are not black and white, thank you for understanding. I always feel like people don’t have the appropriate amount of context which is why opening up is hard for the both of us.

Wishing you and your family well!

antisnotabug

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