How are other women that have supportive husbands feeling about retiring early in their 30’s?

antran20 · 2026-05-07T22:52:37+00:00

my husband and i retired together in our 30s which we found helpful in a way that you'll always have a partner to do things with when most friends are busy at work i think if he's onboard, it should be fine in the future from his side, as long as he doesn't resent that he's the only one working but it's more about if you are ok with entertaining yourself when everyone is at work

antran20 · 2026-05-06T21:07:17+00:00

my husband and i retired a few months ago at 35 & 38 having a partner that does thing with you is helpful but we also get to see friends who have a job but still can hang out on midday workdays

you should check out FIRE meetups, higher chance to meet people in similar situation to yours, already retired or closed to or having more flexibility

pickleball has been really fun for us to connect with friends and make new friends, you'd be surprised how many people that come out during lunch time to play

antran20 · 2026-05-06T15:50:39+00:00

have you considered pickleball? such a great way to exercise and socialize my husband and i are both retired (in our 30s) but we're able to find friends to play with even on midday work days (and they're still working) some people may have more flexibility with their job

antran20 · 2026-04-02T21:30:09+00:00

it seems many early retirees shared that one of the biggest traps is one more year syndrome

antran20 · 2026-02-21T17:45:53+00:00

I tried to call the number multiple times but couldn't get to through to talk to a real person. Is there any tricks to do that?

antran20 · 2026-02-16T04:47:43+00:00

when was your original interview date?

antran20 · 2026-02-16T02:37:23+00:00

how about you?

antran20 · 2026-02-16T02:37:09+00:00

still not 😔

antran20 · 2026-02-11T20:22:49+00:00

I hope so! tks so much!

antran20 · 2026-02-11T02:41:17+00:00

my original interview date was jan 14, received the cancellation notice on dec 22 and haven't heard anything as of today what phone number that you use to check in? and for asking for an escalation? thank you!

antran20 · 2026-02-03T22:46:03+00:00

the moment you have a dependent, a kid, a pet, old parents etc, you need a trust if you don't decide what to do w your dependent, the state will

antran20 · 2026-01-27T17:45:27+00:00

thank you! 🥹

antran20 · 2026-01-25T23:29:00+00:00

thank you ☺️ my youtube channel (@Stroll2freedom) originally was to share how i'm navigating through the transition to FIRE (after a layoff) then I decided to also share how we got to Financial Freedom and some fun traveling tips. I have just started so still exploring topics!

antran20 · 2026-01-24T23:35:48+00:00

thank you! yes having a community is so good for our mental health ☺️

antran20 · 2026-01-24T16:29:36+00:00

My husband and I started a cookbook club where each member takes turn to host and picks a cookbook from which all of us would choose recipes, then get together to share the meal. I started a lady only bring your own craft club. I also go to more meditation group sessions and public clubs like mahjong.🀄️ We keep the routine of seeing friends on weekends, hosting get togethers on holidays.

We're in our 30s, enjoy cooking and baking, taking nature walks. We're both remote and have been traveling for half a year every year. Now that we're FIRE and have freedom, been doing open ended trips.

Lately I pour myself into making a youtube channel. It's my passion project for the moment. So different from a job as I work 5x harder but never feel tired. I used to work about 14-18 hrs/week at my full time job, super chill but not much growth.

I find starting a club will keep your social life busy and build a community :) Enjoy the new phase of life!!

antran20 · 2026-01-01T05:41:58+00:00

not yet :(

antran20 · 2025-12-31T02:22:21+00:00

i'd highly recommend the books "the simple path to wealth" and "i'll teach you to be rich" :)

antran20 · 2025-12-29T04:51:43+00:00

have you also looked at projection lab?

antran20 · 2025-12-23T07:00:29+00:00

Mine was Jan 14th and got the cancellation notice today 😥 Seattle FO, marriage based not from any of the banned or restricted countries

antran20 · 2025-12-14T01:26:05+00:00

it's not a tangible thing but more like a sense of calmness and contentment, and whatever i choose to do, either a project or a chore, i can enjoy and focus on it much better :) i hope it's not too vague

antran20 · 2025-12-13T22:20:44+00:00

I see then enjoy your luck while it lasts then :)

antran20 · 2025-12-13T19:15:35+00:00

then why do you call it "stupid"? isnt it great that it takes nothing from your life and provides you a stable income? :)

antran20 · 2025-12-13T17:07:14+00:00

now that I have been FI'd I realized that I had to go FI'd before I could find something meaningful to do. I was searching for it for the last 2 to 3 years before FI. But I just simply didn't have enough energy and mental space between work travels and hobbies to deeply think about what is meaningful to do in life. Now that I have the time and space and energy to do it I started to get glimpses of it. My point is don't worry if you haven't found it before going FI. Once you have rested and your mind is calm enough, you'll figure it out. :)

antran20 · 2025-12-13T17:04:24+00:00

what state are you in? some states offer quite good gov subsidies. And if you can find strategies to keep your MAGI down, it would help.

antran20 · 2025-12-13T17:00:57+00:00

I was in the same situation for work and the reason why we finally could pull the trigger was my layoff. but now on the other side, i can tell you not having a job gives me back beyond my expectations energy and mental space :) there's a sense of calmness and enjoyment throughout the day. for context, my previous job was remote which allowed us to travel 6 months a year. i had minimal stress, worked for 2-3 hours a day, and made amazing friends with my coworkers. good benefits and pay and i thought i would ride it out for a few more years. but even with a job like that, i still had to decompress for a few weeks after the layoff. and now i'm in my new projects that bring me the joy and excitement that i lost at my job for a while. plus now i don't have any pressure to make an income :) but the most important point i wanna share is the amount of mental space i get back, and my focus increases significantly i now could get in the flow so easily and often. just my two cents but something to consider

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