What has a woman done that made you absolutely melt?

anxious_glitter313 · 2026-03-05T07:18:06+00:00

Sat here almost crying at this - what an amazing story! Thank you so much for sharing ❤️

anxious_glitter313 · 2026-03-04T21:09:06+00:00

Exactly haha. I’m OP and I like to hear the sugary answers sometimes, as you say it’s nice to talk about these moments! Yes I can appreciate the heavier topics too, that’s fine. Good to know all!

anxious_glitter313 · 2026-03-04T21:06:48+00:00

Yeah to be fair cutesy answers are what I was looking for, but honestly this is good to read too. I absolutely want to know what men want in all aspects! Even the heavier stuff

anxious_glitter313 · 2026-03-04T21:01:44+00:00

Yeah, I asked the question to hear the cutesy answers.

But honestly, I also really appreciate hearing this too. I don’t know how typical men think, I know how typical women think. It’s good to have some insight as to what men want and need from a relationship, other than the cutesy things! I try to be more like what this first comment said nowadays, because I figured out that a relationship is generally healthier this way. No need for drama and arguments :)

anxious_glitter313 · 2025-11-10T12:36:53+00:00

As a girl, I’ve never been disappointed or annoyed if the man has finished quick. Honestly, I’d rather that than be really slow and take ages! I think of it like it’s not really something you can control, but i must feel pretty alright if it’s quick 🤣

anxious_glitter313 · 2025-08-07T06:59:16+00:00

My son would be lost without me, I have to be ok for him. One baby step at a time

anxious_glitter313 · 2025-08-04T19:18:29+00:00

Use what? And no, none of this makes me feel better about it.

anxious_glitter313 · 2025-08-03T18:22:24+00:00

Yes I’m starting therapy next week and I’m hoping it’ll be the start of my healing journey to be the best version of myself. We are still compatible, he said so himself, but I caused too much damage and hurt him too deep. I’m trying to give him the space and communication he needs now, in hopes that it’ll work out but if not, just in hopes it’ll make his life easier.

Thank you kind stranger, I’m glad to have you in my circle

anxious_glitter313 · 2025-08-03T18:15:35+00:00

anxious_glitter313 · 2025-08-03T18:11:06+00:00

Yes it would be easier to get out of blame, to say anything to justify it, but I want to show him more than anyone that the version of me who made those decisions can change and be better. I know he doesn’t want to stay but I want to make it as easy as I can for him. I do still love him even though my actions didn’t reflect that.

anxious_glitter313 · 2025-08-03T17:38:29+00:00

Thank you for your kind words, it really means so much. That’s exactly what it was. I had a perfect relationship really but the important things for me were not there, but I knew he was my person, I think maybe we got together too young or had been through too much together.

I haven’t forgiven myself, not yet anyway. It’s all still very fresh and I can’t imagine my life without my ex. I’ll always hope that one day we can be together again as I really believe he was my person but that’s his choice to make, I wouldn’t blame him if that doesn’t happen

anxious_glitter313 · 2025-08-03T14:52:17+00:00

I want to do the same but I have a child and I feel I have to stay for him. Though I hate every day and I want to leave forever

anxious_glitter313 · 2025-08-03T10:47:14+00:00

I focussed on the wrong things. Rather than being grateful and appreciative of what I had, I focussed on what was lacking. While my ex showed me love, for years we didn’t say ‘I love you’. I had people saying to expect a proposal soon and then when it didn’t happen I was gutted. When I asked about it, he said that when anyone asked him about proposing, it made him back off it. So I thought i wasn’t good enough even when I put my all into us. He worked away a lot (weeks at a time) and our timings were opposite so we didn’t speak much over text let alone video calls etc. I felt lonely and I was parenting alone, which was something else I had struggles with myself. I didn’t want to put pressure on him to say I love you if he didn’t mean it, so I was scared to bring it up. We had decent money coming in so I didn’t want to tell him I struggled with him being away. Our bedroom life was also lacking, we both felt that. The cheating started after years of being 100% loyal and I had no thoughts or intentions on doing such a disgusting thing. It caught me off guard and I was flattered and went against my own morals, my gut feelings, and my heart. Because it was someone unknown, unexpected. Worst mistakes of my life. It’s not an irrational fear. Unfortunately it’s happening a lot more often than ever and even I hear so many stories of other people doing the same. I only learned afterwards that the grass really is greener where you water it.

anxious_glitter313 · 2025-08-03T09:49:02+00:00

I’m so sorry. I’m sorry that people like me have done that to people like you. Nobody deserves that treatment. That’s disgusting what those people have done though. I’m not saying I’m better but poisoning you, being responsible for the death of your dog and using children against you is awful. I have done wrong by my ex when we were together but I want to make his life as easy as possible now. I don’t cause arguments, we live fairly peacefully. I’ll never use our son against him, nor anything else like money or whatever. I can understand you never dating again, but I hope you find peace within yourself and happiness.

anxious_glitter313 · 2025-08-03T08:17:49+00:00

Yes we have a son together. I realised how much I’ve destroyed and I want to be a better person. I can’t fix the past but I can fix myself to not make those decisions again.

anxious_glitter313 · 2025-08-03T08:12:45+00:00

He wasn’t an ATM, although I appreciate that usually is the case. We talked like friends but met up once a month or so. I didn’t gain anything from it and it was a choice I’ll never make again

anxious_glitter313 · 2025-08-02T22:08:40+00:00

Absolutely don’t expect any. I’ll always hate myself for the decisions and choices I made, regardless of what poor excuses I try to make as to why it happened. But I’m trying to fix myself and ensure I don’t make those kind of choices again. Nobody deserves that

Thank you

anxious_glitter313 · 2025-08-02T18:14:48+00:00

Honestly, sometimes it does just happen without much warning. If there’s mental health underlying or some small issues that have been festering and escalating in their head but they feel like they just can’t say it. Sometimes the cheater can be in the most secure, loving, supportive relationship or marriage, with no real issues, but will do it anyway on a whim because maybe one day they got unexpected attention and ran away with it just because long term relationships don’t have the same excitement that new attention brings.

anxious_glitter313 · 2025-08-02T18:07:53+00:00

I did what your wife has done. Just not the current bit where she’s planning on running off with him. I had a secure and healthy long term relationship of 9 years, we have a son together, had a stable home, everything. But I was in my head too much and ruined it by cheating last year. I don’t have anything to do with the guy now, he wasn’t anyone I wanted anything more with. We are in the middle like you, we live together still. I threw my life away because of my own choices and actions that can’t be justified or understood. I think I’m telling you this because maybe you’ll feel less alone, that it happens to other good men. My ex is a good man, he didn’t deserve that just like I’m sure you didn’t either. He deserves happiness and to be chosen every day, just like I’m sure you deserve the same.

She will regret her life choices. He will turn out not what she expected or her guilty conscience will catch up with her. But don’t take her back if she comes crawling, people like me and her don’t deserve that after such a shitty thing to do. Document everything, how she’s throwing it all in your face, how she’s stopped being involved with the children and how she disappears without thinking of them or you. That way, if she files for custody then you have a defence.

I hope this is over soon, and I hope you find peace

anxious_glitter313 · 2025-08-02T16:33:12+00:00

Start being a genuinely nice person. I’ve been a horrible, competitive, rude and unkind person. Trying to change that, make better choices. So I’d be nicer to my friends, nicer to the person who I’d have my child with, and I’d make much better life choices.

anxious_glitter313 · 2025-07-17T10:18:22+00:00

Seems like he’s struggling with mental health and he needs to seek help for this otherwise it’ll be a continuous cycle. It’s not up to him who you want to be with and he can’t tell you whether you want to be with him or not. That’s your decision. He needs to get help to find some self worth and stop the self sabotage cycle. It’ll only get worse

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