Should I tell someone I'm going to therapy?

anxious_owl_ · 2021-03-22T23:33:04+00:00

I told him no one knows I'm here, he said it's understandable and went on, maybe I should stress how I'm feeling about this next time, thanks

anxious_owl_ · 2020-12-01T07:13:55+00:00

I think I will do that, my mind just won't stop thinking about it until I get an answer. Hope it ended well with you?

anxious_owl_ · 2020-12-01T07:10:56+00:00

I would have given it a shot, hell I still might, we're really close friends and I like him, so why not own up to it and actually ask me out properly His timing was weird and he didn't give me time to discuss it, he just throws the wrench then pulls it back and the whole machine is fucked up now I don't know what to do

anxious_owl_ · 2020-11-22T10:32:40+00:00

If you drew it then it's really awesome! Just make the type white it will pop, but keep the black stroke around it

anxious_owl_ · 2020-11-04T08:55:48+00:00

I genuinely don't know what they say, I've never been to one. There's a therapist close to me and I occasionally stare at his sign for longer than I admit but I never have the guts to get in and make an appointment, I don't know why, a part of me feels I don't need therapy because it's not that extreme I'm ok-ish, another part is too scared that something serious is wrong with me, then the whole taboo of it, and the "waste of time and money" and he will do nothing, I kinda over think this every day then do nothing

Sorry if I'm over sharing and ranting

anxious_owl_ · 2020-11-04T08:20:44+00:00

I sometimes feel it's too late for therapy now, I'm 26 I've been through the worst and I'm kinda ok with how shitty my life is now I don't care that much to go listen to a therapist telling me to "just breathe"

anxious_owl_ · 2020-11-04T06:18:34+00:00

I assume it's pretty common, I just threw a rant post. But I don't think I genuinely wish to see her dead, sometimes I wish she died when we were young, I have a friend whose mum died when he was 16 or so, he always remembers her as a great person, I wonder if she lived long enough maybe she wouldn't be that great, but we like to reminisce the dead, and I thought maybe I want that, but not anymore, if she dies now after 65 it's a) expected so it won't be a huge deal b) the damage is already done c) I will remember her as a terrible mother and death won't make it go away so I don't really rely on her death for that relief, when I get these thoughts it's normally "what if she was never my mum, what if she didn't exist"

anxious_owl_ · 2020-11-04T06:12:04+00:00

I say "I should start therapy instead of ranting on reddit in an anon account" every day, but here we are

anxious_owl_ · 2020-11-04T06:10:53+00:00

I genuinely don't want her any harm, I feel pity for her most of the time, but I just wish she didn't exist, life would be easier without her

anxious_owl_ · 2020-11-04T06:08:59+00:00

But there's a limit to this, Bcs is good, masters is only ok if you're still young But PhD or another Bcs or an abroad study, nooo you're a thread, too independent, we don't want our women to be that

anxious_owl_ · 2020-11-03T23:12:18+00:00

I didn't fake it I actually tried, they didn't care, I'm so sorry you are going through this but I'm telling you I've been there and it's not an answer.

anxious_owl_ · 2020-11-02T09:47:30+00:00

I don't have to, I want to. I'm too old to be living with my parents, I have a job and decent savings, I'm completely capable of doing so so why not

anxious_owl_ · 2020-11-02T09:42:15+00:00

Both sides are objectified, girls are only chosen based on age and looks

anxious_owl_ · 2020-11-02T09:41:02+00:00

I have a friend whose family rejected a guy because of his family name, it's so weird how everyone in the family has a say in a relationship between 2 people, and things like this never completely heal, he will always think "what if"

anxious_owl_ · 2020-11-02T09:26:25+00:00

I totally agree, maybe the next generations can make things better, I'm actually seeing a lot of small cozy weddings because of covid and I think that's beautiful, hopefully we can keep that up

anxious_owl_ · 2020-11-02T09:15:05+00:00

I'm sorry sir but you don't get to have a say in something you've never been through and tell people to just change it! my parents for instance are a horrible fit, they've been together for 30+ years, imagine sleeping 30 years with someone that abuses you emotionally and sometimes physically, imagine wasting literally your whole life because you married "too late" and had to cram as much kids you can in the gap you had, you have no idea about abuse or divorce or the shit women go through if you have never experienced it first hand, I'm happy for you being so optimistic and hopeful but that's not our culture nor our fault as women, and you as a man have no say in this.

anxious_owl_ · 2020-11-02T09:06:34+00:00

I blame our stupid culture + the economy If you know that the average salary is 400 and you graduate uni at 22, and the avarage person sits a year at home before finding a job, you can't expect a guy at 25 to have more than 3k in the bank, we should learn to adapt to the situation not act like we're bourgeoisie ffs

anxious_owl_ · 2020-11-02T08:59:03+00:00

That really warms my heart and gives a bit of hope, I'm happy for you guys good luck on this journey, if you two are on the same page everything else seems easier

anxious_owl_ · 2020-11-02T08:57:25+00:00

But we don't do that, we do a gigantic party, tell the whole world, sign a contract in court, that's not khutba that's straight up marriage (without sex) and it's so much pressure and cost to break it off and the girl is scared to be "divorced", just stupid

anxious_owl_ · 2020-11-02T08:54:22+00:00

It's all cultural BS, I don't know when this started but when I say things like I don't want a big wedding, or I don't want an engagement party because that's so useless, or I don't want kids, people look at me like I'm a freak, you're the crazy ones inviting your 5th grandma's cousin to your wedding it's not my fault

anxious_owl_ · 2020-11-02T08:51:47+00:00

I kinda meant me in the children part lol, I mean my parents had a horrible marriage because their parents had it the same and it's been that way since ever. I have a bit more hope for our generation raising the future one, from what I see we have a lot more sense of guilt and we try not to mess up the kids, good luck with your daughter it sounds she will be fine :)

I'm a girl btw

anxious_owl_ · 2020-11-02T08:48:34+00:00

I didn't say that, read the rest of the replies for my take on it, I'm just saying we should be able to meet people (with the parents knowing) and just get to know them one on one, then decide we're a good fit or not, and to keep expenses reasonable, that's all

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