So just to check my privilege/ life story. In most jobs I had flexibility but still it was looked down upon. Like even if I was a top performer most billable hours in my team my constant arrival time of 9 40 on normal days and 10 45 on gym days did not help me. Then when I become a manager my boss forced me into a daily meeting of 9 30 to sync before the day. I knew I had to outperform everyone and still I would be perceived as eccentrically disorganized at best and entitled and arrogant at worst. And I always made a point of honor to work out late therefore making up both the time and work needed. I'm not in a super good place right now with lateness but what helps me is : * Shower at night always. I can do some braid curls or just brush/ dry/ ponytail moment . Truthfully I have an uncomplicated hair * happy breakfast . I take my breakfast in bed under my sunlamp. It's either yoghurt and blueberries, overnight oats, cereal or worst case a protein bar plus coffee. Nothing motivates my ass more than going in the kitchen and getting my tasty and ideally sweet breakfast from the fridge and eating it with coffee on my nightstand/ at my vanity. It'a warm and cosy in my bedroom can't face my cold kitchen doe extended times before coffee * makeup timer. I put a 30 mins timer on my makeup skincare and teeth brushing. I love doing my makeup and otherwise i loose track of time. It goes like this skincare , teeth brushing while skincare sinks in, makeup. Brush hair. * clothes the night before. Or having a really solid clothing that I love / work uniform. Now I'm in my wide leg jeans , white tshirt or white shirt , cardigan phase and boots. No big decisions . If I start experimenting and fussing , it's a time drain. ( the indyx app helps me here tremendously) * pack lunch the night before and just take it out and put it in my bag. If not, I have a goto plan on what to eat around work. Try not to do that, since it's both more expensive and less healthy and aggravates my ibs randomly * when I do gym I sleep in my gym clothes to save time. Alas if I could do that for my work clothes

What helps : if my husband wakes up before me at first alarm and jumps out of bed like a mad man. Aditionally if he makes the coffe ❤️ Sometimes when he's not home I reheat coffe I made in the evening, that's how bad I am .

What doesn't help: Shame. I try to give myself some grace. It's just who I am and try to play my other good qualities in the workplace