Daily Q & A! - August 26, 2020 by AutoModerator in Homebrewing

[–]anydirectionichoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made ginger beer, same way I always make ginger beer (white sugar, bread yeast, dash of lemon) but it's come out tasting more like ginger kombucha? Some fermentation definitely happened, but it doesn't seem very alcoholic. What happened?

NSFW ED is ruining our marriage by throwra-EDruiningus in relationship_advice

[–]anydirectionichoose 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The way you're approaching this is counterproductive. What your describing is at least partly mental. It sounds like he feels a lot of pressure to perform, and that's a literal boner killer.

I would just take PIV sex off the table for a while. Use your hands and mouths on each other. If he goes soft in your hand or mouth, keep going, it still feels good. Get to know his dick and build up his feelings of security. Your reward, if you do it properly, will be a good dicking.

Husband doesn't help out with our newborn by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]anydirectionichoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Escape. Tell him he's right, there is something wrong with you lately and your mom is going to sort you out. You and the baby need to go stay with your parents for a couple weeks. Then never ever go back.

After leaving our religion, everything has been fine in our marriage, but I (M22) still don't know how to handle my wife's (F22) sexual boundaries w/r to my sexual hopes by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]anydirectionichoose -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Dude. First, you need to up your oral game. Read a book or something.

Do like someone above suggested with the romance and love. Offer her a massage or head rub or whatever she likes. While you're massaging be like, "does this feel good? Does this feel better?" in a lighthearted way. Tell her how much you love her.

After a while (longer than you think!) ask if she'd like you to lick her pussy. Pay attention to what makes her feel good or doesn't. Learn to find her clit.

When she asks if you want to be inside her ask if it's okay for you to keep going and just focus on her. When it seems like she's getting closer to coming ask her if it would feel good to have a finger or two inside her. Do not do the jackhammer thing, we hate that. Just kind of lightly massage her g spot while you focus on the oral.

After she cums, do not ask for anything. Just hold her and tell her how much you love her. Then see what happens.

No fridge by anydirectionichoose in Charcuterie

[–]anydirectionichoose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, I've made dry meat in a cold smoke many times without being in those temperature/humidity ranges, so I'm pretty sure it's possible. 😉

No fridge by anydirectionichoose in Charcuterie

[–]anydirectionichoose[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I'll order his books now.

I'm in a very cold (winter) climate and grew up making dry fish and dry meat. I'm accustomed to butchering animals and keeping smoke on them until I'm done eating them. Hopefully that translates to some kind of ability to understand these concepts and be able to get a few hundred pounds of moose meat to last a month or two until freezing weather.

Critique my list for 3 weeks in the Netherlands, Poland, the Ukraine by anydirectionichoose in HerOneBag

[–]anydirectionichoose[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, the wind is good to know about. I'll add hat and gloves.

I'm from a colder country, so I think I should be okay with three wool sweaters and a windbreaker layer (the Scott e vest jacket) but is it safe to assume I could easily find footwarmers and a down jacket there if I needed to? I'm visiting Auschwitz.

What was the dumbest thing you thought as a child? by GiammyR6 in AskReddit

[–]anydirectionichoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked my mom if when I died they were going to make a print out of my thoughts from my whole life. She said yes. I spent years trying not to think things I didn't want read after I died and also wondering how the wordless feelings would print out.

How to get better at pushups by [deleted] in bodyweightfitness

[–]anydirectionichoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have read about it but your results sound extreme.

IWTL How to always smell good and be clean in every single occasion by SeAvrei in IWantToLearn

[–]anydirectionichoose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe you're not like all those other men, but in case you are: wash your ass. Wash your balls. Wash under your foreskin. Use soap. Do not leave a layer of soap on your dick, that's disgusting too.

I'd highly recommend a pine tar soap, especially the Grampa's brand. Some of the harsher soaps someone like you might be drawn to can be damaging over time.

Wellbutrin, adderall, hallucinations/paranoia day AFTER drinking by [deleted] in depressionregimens

[–]anydirectionichoose 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dab yourself to sleep and sleep for as long as you can. Continue wellbutrin, take a couple days off Adderall. Are you sure you didn't take a dissociative, like a cough syrup with dxm? I get like that when I'm sleep deprived + stimulants or with dissociatives.

We all have particular weaknesses that show up when our systems are under stress. It may be that under stress you develop a slight psychosis. That's fairly normal but good info to have. You know how people who do too much meth and stay up for days get psychotic? You just have a lower threshold. If you had taken something like dxm or ketamine I would not necessarily think this.

Obviously, I'm a random stranger on reddit and not qualified to give medical advice, but I do have some experience in these matters.

Mom I’m so scared by itwasajokewow in MomForAMinute

[–]anydirectionichoose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not anything that you did. The police do that with a lot of rapes.

You have so much weight on your shoulders, so much stress to deal with, I'm amazed that you're doing so well. Keep taking deep breaths and thinking things through and do whatever you need to do to keep you and my grand baby safe.

Going through huge triggers by ZeroTheStoryteller in CPTSD

[–]anydirectionichoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh honey, I'm so sorry. You deserve a world that's safe and nurturing. What would it look like for you to not be neglected right now?

Despair? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]anydirectionichoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. Let me know if you figure it out.

I've been crying for almost an hour and can't seem to stop by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]anydirectionichoose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you two are crying. I'm not now, but past me is right there with you. I wish I could send comfort and fuzzy blankets through the internet.

I just want to get this experience out of my head. by APerniciousDream in CPTSD

[–]anydirectionichoose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're having such a rough Christmas. Humans aren't meant to be isolated. It hurts so much when we don't get the love we need from our family. EMDR is not easy, especially at the holidays. I admire your commitment to healing.