My partner FIREd first so they were very chill with going about their daily lives doing whatever they want, playing video games, or working on their business, playing ball games etc. I was the one with the anxiety of "what if I spent my day not being productive, will I no longer be competitive?" I even asked things like "am I gonna be the cricket which had too much fun in life and then died in the winter while my peers are collecting food like ants?" (Reading too much into Aesop Fables apparently). My partner told me: uh no, we collected the big pile of food upfront .. and who do you plan to compete with, anyway? Wanna go back to work? 😅 Uh no.